He’s the sweetest person in my life, I love him so dearly. And he jokes all the time so I didn’t catch that I was taking it too far, which is my fault.
I’m not good with changing the topic unless it’s completely cleared up, but you’re right and I’m glad you said that. Moving on might be best after I truly apologize and he hears it. Thank you.
I can see being mad if you are a germaphobe or don’t like people in your personal space. But it seems like he’s sexualizing your sibling relationship obviously that’s gross. I don’t see anything wrong with it unless you actually did something weird but you haven’t. Get to the root cause of his anger ask him why he’s really upset. Then give him reassurance and tell him that makes you sick if it’s what we all think it is.
I wouldn't buy a house together without first talking about marriage and making sure you both want the same things in life with regards to marriage, children, working FT or PT and/or staying at home with the kids. All of that should be discussed before buying a house together and should have been discussed before the 7 yr mark so if you're not compatible with regards to any of those things, you could move on. Honest, open discussion needs to be had ASAP so you can make the best decision for yourself.
>I want to highlight that I am the one paying for the house, she is still a student and doesn’t work. She wants to online with me. However, since she doesn’t bring anything to the table ,financially speaking, I don’t think she should have any say in this. What do you guys think?
With that attitude, I suspect your relationship won't last long. You are right that you are the one buying the house and spending the money, but you have dated this partner for 2.5 _years_, and didn't think to check with her if she would at least like the house? You are right that you didn't _have_ to do it, but this is obviously disregarding and devaluing her opinion, and stating she has a very lesser role in your relationship than she may have thought before. Would it have really killed you to invite her on some showings that she could make, and get her input? Would it have hurt to consult her? No, no it would not have hurt or killed you, obviously. But doing even that little bit would have made her feel more like a partner, and you couldn't be bothered to do that much.
One word – control. He expects you to dress your hair in a certain way or he’ll get angry? It’s your hair and your head. Tell him you’re sorry he feels that way but you like your hair up like that. Then see what the next trigger point is and I’ll bet there is one.
What you could do here is apologize to the other woman and state your condition. Perhaps she will be understanding of you and be forgiving of the interaction.
And for the next time you're faced with this situation, woman want to feel like they're unique and special. So, categorizing them as an option is something that pushes them away instead of bringing them closer.
If you had religious parents who were against same sex relationships would you subject your partner to that environment… blindly?
Or would you come out to your parents first and measure reaction.
Subjecting her girlfriend to this was a major error in judgement. I'm not saying it justifies the parents actions by any means (and honestly, who is to say what the hell happened exactly besides a rant).
I feel like you already know the answer to your question. You need a more diverse social network. You're sitting on a stool with one leg, your wife. You don't just love her, you're completely and totally emotionally dependent on her, and that's not healthy for either of you. I guarantee she loves you too. But a stool with one leg will eventually break or fall over.
I believe it's important for you to: 1. Go on your journey of total independence. You need to learn how to trust and rely on yourself for literally everything in your life. This includes self-determined physical, intellectual, and creative activity. 2. Bring something positive to a group of people that can help you develop varied friendships. 3. Let her go while you're on this journey, then reintroduce yourself to your ex-wife as an independent, secure individual who is a valued part of your community.
You could either desperately pine after her, or you can do what's necessary to earn her. And if it happens that in the time it took you to gain this independence, she's able to move on into a healthy relationship… Be happy that someone you love was able to find happiness. You might just find it in your own journey that someone else is able to accept you for who you are and it won't feel like work to them.
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cause of action noun
1 A condition under which one party would be entitled to sue another.
2 A civillawsuit.
3 a claim sufficient to demand judicial attention; the facts that give rise to right of action
Don’t know where you’re getting “course” from bud. But “cause of action” is a completely valid term.
Not a bit even a little. Sex is a strong driver but a man who can't hear no is not a man, he's a user.
It doesn’t matter why he chose it. You are broken up and that is his picture to do what he wants with. Do not contact him.
He’s the sweetest person in my life, I love him so dearly. And he jokes all the time so I didn’t catch that I was taking it too far, which is my fault.
I’m not good with changing the topic unless it’s completely cleared up, but you’re right and I’m glad you said that. Moving on might be best after I truly apologize and he hears it. Thank you.
You're dating a pedophile.
I can see being mad if you are a germaphobe or don’t like people in your personal space. But it seems like he’s sexualizing your sibling relationship obviously that’s gross. I don’t see anything wrong with it unless you actually did something weird but you haven’t. Get to the root cause of his anger ask him why he’s really upset. Then give him reassurance and tell him that makes you sick if it’s what we all think it is.
I wouldn't buy a house together without first talking about marriage and making sure you both want the same things in life with regards to marriage, children, working FT or PT and/or staying at home with the kids. All of that should be discussed before buying a house together and should have been discussed before the 7 yr mark so if you're not compatible with regards to any of those things, you could move on. Honest, open discussion needs to be had ASAP so you can make the best decision for yourself.
>I want to highlight that I am the one paying for the house, she is still a student and doesn’t work. She wants to online with me. However, since she doesn’t bring anything to the table ,financially speaking, I don’t think she should have any say in this. What do you guys think?
With that attitude, I suspect your relationship won't last long. You are right that you are the one buying the house and spending the money, but you have dated this partner for 2.5 _years_, and didn't think to check with her if she would at least like the house? You are right that you didn't _have_ to do it, but this is obviously disregarding and devaluing her opinion, and stating she has a very lesser role in your relationship than she may have thought before. Would it have really killed you to invite her on some showings that she could make, and get her input? Would it have hurt to consult her? No, no it would not have hurt or killed you, obviously. But doing even that little bit would have made her feel more like a partner, and you couldn't be bothered to do that much.
How the hell does one even get into such a situation? What are you doing?
One word – control. He expects you to dress your hair in a certain way or he’ll get angry? It’s your hair and your head. Tell him you’re sorry he feels that way but you like your hair up like that. Then see what the next trigger point is and I’ll bet there is one.
RUN! You're in danger if you stay with him another second. Dump him and block his ass.
Well, there is nothing wrong with that.
What you could do here is apologize to the other woman and state your condition. Perhaps she will be understanding of you and be forgiving of the interaction.
And for the next time you're faced with this situation, woman want to feel like they're unique and special. So, categorizing them as an option is something that pushes them away instead of bringing them closer.
If you had religious parents who were against same sex relationships would you subject your partner to that environment… blindly?
Or would you come out to your parents first and measure reaction.
Subjecting her girlfriend to this was a major error in judgement. I'm not saying it justifies the parents actions by any means (and honestly, who is to say what the hell happened exactly besides a rant).
I feel like you already know the answer to your question. You need a more diverse social network. You're sitting on a stool with one leg, your wife. You don't just love her, you're completely and totally emotionally dependent on her, and that's not healthy for either of you. I guarantee she loves you too. But a stool with one leg will eventually break or fall over.
I believe it's important for you to: 1. Go on your journey of total independence. You need to learn how to trust and rely on yourself for literally everything in your life. This includes self-determined physical, intellectual, and creative activity. 2. Bring something positive to a group of people that can help you develop varied friendships. 3. Let her go while you're on this journey, then reintroduce yourself to your ex-wife as an independent, secure individual who is a valued part of your community.
You could either desperately pine after her, or you can do what's necessary to earn her. And if it happens that in the time it took you to gain this independence, she's able to move on into a healthy relationship… Be happy that someone you love was able to find happiness. You might just find it in your own journey that someone else is able to accept you for who you are and it won't feel like work to them.
This is the more straightforward version of my comment lol
Withholding sex?