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Date: February 12, 2023
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Good luck with the talk.
Ooooof!
So I want to say, if you want kids it's better to only date guys who want kids. It's very risky to get attached to someone and than resent them for not wanting kids.
But my story: started messaging a guy on dating site. We chatted a bit and I honestly fell in love a bit during our short discussions. He was so refreshing and respectful etc. Etc. I than asked him if he wanted kids and he said no. I told him I wanted kids and I decided it was best if we didn't date due to our difference. Weeks past and I couldn't stop thinking about him. I kept checking to see if he would unmatch me. He never did. I ended up deleting the site because I was suck of it.
I re-download the site when I was bored one weekend. We matched again and he messaged me. We chatted for 1.5 weeks and than I couldn't resist going on a date with him. I chose to avoid thinking about our difference. I knew the risk. The first date went amazing! We clicked immediately. The third date we talked about kids again. We really dove into our reasons for wanting and not wanting kids. We talked about it for awhile. He basically said it was very unlikely he would want kids but he did want kids in the past. I explored his fears and reasons for not wanting kids. We decided to ignore the topic for awhile.
We quickly fell in love. We talked about kids a few times. I never, ever wanted to pressure him. I explored the idea of not having kids. I voiced all my thoughts. I listened to him. I decided I never wanted to have kids with a man who didn't want kids. I started thinking my life could be happier without kids. We still talked about kids here and there but I avoided the topic. I wanted to wait 6 months to see how I felt. Around the six month mark he told me his friend's wife was pregnant. I wanted to be happy for her but I felt devastated. I was jealous. I was sad because I loved my partner so much but I also realized I still really wanted a kid or kids. I took some time that night to reflect. I was clearly upset but I was trying to hide it. My amazing, sensitive partner noticed the change and asked me what was wrong. I said it was nothing because I wasn't ready to talk about. I was scared to tell him how I felt as I thought it would lead to me breaking up with him. I also deeply didn't want to pressure him. He pushed and said he couldn't sleep knowing something was bothering me and he wanted to know. I told him and cried while saying everything. I let it all out. I was embarrassed for feeling jealous. He was so understanding and supportive. He said we would review the conversation later that week. Later he told me he wanted to have a kid with me! He said me loved me more than he ever loved anyone else and he thought I would make an amazing mom. We are now engaged and planning on trying for a kid asap! I couldn't be happier. He is also happy.
I'm not sure if my story is rare though. Don't date someone expecting to change them. Know those risks of wasting time with the wrong person.
I looked up reasons why people regret having kids. The number one reason was having kids with the wrong person. Having kids with the wrong person can destroy your life and your child's life. Who you have a kid with is probably one of the biggest choices you'll ever make. I almost had kids with 2 guys before him. I was desperate for kids and I almost destroyed my life. The two guys would have been nightmares to parent with. It would have been better to have no kids at all. Really listen to this guy when he says why he would be a bad parent.
What the hell is wrong with you?! You absolutely divorced this nightmare! She hates your 8 year old daughter! That is enough right there but the rest just tips it way over.
If someone is 18 they're still in similar stages of their life compared to a 15 year old though right?
Caring about a 3 year difference in Highschool for me is just weird to me, depending on where their birthdays line up, it can go from a 2 year difference to a 3 year difference in a span of months.
Math doesn't add up in your reply either. You're 5 years older than her, so if you dated her when she was 14, that means you were 19. Gross. If she wanted you back, she would have returned your calls. Leave her alone and let her live! her life.
of course girl! good luck and remember to love yourself first. you deserve to feel comfortable and at peace in this relationship ?✨
Absolutely. Sadly her older sister became a born again Christian, forgave him, started her podcast and says she still loves him. The youngest sister is the most traumatized and is only 25, she has a New baby, changed her name and all her socials are private to protect her child. So I have no one else to get to report it and my soon to be ex not only refuses but flips out at the suggestion
Me 33M and my ex 32F of two years broke up just over a week ago and sometimes it feels like every second that passes is eternal, I literally look forward to going to work because I'm distracted all day.
Try and keep busy by doing things you love, listen to music, play video games, go for a drive/walk, catch up with friends, and keep reminding yourself it's for the best
Hope this helps
Yes to the background check, Google search, and credit check
I even paid for one of those sites to find all his social media accounts and he is super reclusive live! he hasn't got anything I could find against him. I even did a photo lookup search.
And no ive never met any of his family, he told me they had a big falling out years ago and didn't speak anymore.
And I only started feeling suspicious of him in the last 2 months, he never gave me any reason to be super concerned before everything seemed legit, sort of strange about his family but I have a relative who didn't speak to anyone for 3 years so idk I guess i let it slide
Thank you for explaining, but I'm certainly not seeing this as a bad reason to pay off your debt. It's especially not if you prioritise being debt free as a lesser evil than making money, or know very little about investing. Many people do, and I can't imagine personally following your advice in this scenario, over continuing to focus on bringing down my debt.
Why is interest deferred at the moment? Covid related, or something else going on in America?
This is a leap without knowing anymore. I have friends and family who are very religious and waited until marriage, but have no issues with LGBTQ+.
I agree it could be likely, it's just unfair to jump on that when we really have no info to base that on other than “religious and sexually conservative.”
Will definitely go with this approach. Thank you!
Unfortunately getting a therapist that we can afford is close to impossible here. I’ll try to discuss us doing some research on Asperger’s, maybe it really is the cause behind our problems. Maybe I have also driven her away by not being understanding enough. I don’t know. But this is a really good starting point to working things out. Thank you once again.