No you're fine. And prioritizing her feelings simply means taking them in account over your friends within reason. Spending less time with someone you're in love because your gf feels uncomfortable with you spending SO much time with her isn't unreasonable. She didn't say cut her off, just get some distance and you failed to do so.
The last couple of years with trump etc has caused a lot of people who used to restrain themselves to just unleash whatever they want on those around them, being as mean and as pleasant as they want.
How long were you together? How long ago was the break up?
Regardless, with very little context, we can only assume that this is too little too late. I don't want to just pile on here, because I understand that regardless of the situation, break ups suck, and your feelings are your feelings. You're hurting. I want to be mindful of that.
But things still need to be put into perspective for you. You want to fight for her. You believe there's no better human than her. You want the opportunity to give her the happiness she wants and deserves. Well, where was all of this prior to the break up? Break ups (especially one like this, where when you say “our home,” we have to assume it's a very serious long term relationship) don't just happen out of thin air. They're the result of incompatibilities or issues that have existed and been discussed (and surely fought about), and one or both parties finally reached a breaking point.
In saying that, you had the opportunity to do these things. You didn't. You got comfortable (which happens), but then when she raised issues, you blew them off because you assumed she'd never leave you. She finally did, and only now have you essentially “woken up.” So when you say there's no better human out there, take a step back and ask yourself how it got to this point if that was the case?
There's two separate things from that though; first, everything I've said above is nothing but pure conjecture. I responded with a premise that you've been a shitty partner and she left. But we again have no context. Maybe you've been a great partner. Maybe she's awful. Maybe there's some fault on both sides. Advice wise, I'd love for you to provide a lot more detail so that we could give more pointed advice, and if you're more comfortable, you can feel free to PM me.
Second though, she said you had different views on the world. Before getting into your argument against it, that alone indicates that the two of you are incompatible. If that's true, then the hot truth was that you were forcing a relationship that was never going to succeed anyway. But you say it's not true. The problem then becomes that your argument doesn't really make much sense. so again, you'll need to elaborate.
I want to help, but more information is needed. I hope you can provide it.
Probably in high school?
No you're fine. And prioritizing her feelings simply means taking them in account over your friends within reason. Spending less time with someone you're in love because your gf feels uncomfortable with you spending SO much time with her isn't unreasonable. She didn't say cut her off, just get some distance and you failed to do so.
Why this sound like Richmond VA
Why this sound like Richmond VA
Leave him AND his gf alone. You keeping in contact will ruin their relationship.
The last couple of years with trump etc has caused a lot of people who used to restrain themselves to just unleash whatever they want on those around them, being as mean and as pleasant as they want.
Real or fake, I foresee a Wattpad monetized novel in your future
How long were you together? How long ago was the break up?
Regardless, with very little context, we can only assume that this is too little too late. I don't want to just pile on here, because I understand that regardless of the situation, break ups suck, and your feelings are your feelings. You're hurting. I want to be mindful of that.
But things still need to be put into perspective for you. You want to fight for her. You believe there's no better human than her. You want the opportunity to give her the happiness she wants and deserves. Well, where was all of this prior to the break up? Break ups (especially one like this, where when you say “our home,” we have to assume it's a very serious long term relationship) don't just happen out of thin air. They're the result of incompatibilities or issues that have existed and been discussed (and surely fought about), and one or both parties finally reached a breaking point.
In saying that, you had the opportunity to do these things. You didn't. You got comfortable (which happens), but then when she raised issues, you blew them off because you assumed she'd never leave you. She finally did, and only now have you essentially “woken up.” So when you say there's no better human out there, take a step back and ask yourself how it got to this point if that was the case?
There's two separate things from that though; first, everything I've said above is nothing but pure conjecture. I responded with a premise that you've been a shitty partner and she left. But we again have no context. Maybe you've been a great partner. Maybe she's awful. Maybe there's some fault on both sides. Advice wise, I'd love for you to provide a lot more detail so that we could give more pointed advice, and if you're more comfortable, you can feel free to PM me.
Second though, she said you had different views on the world. Before getting into your argument against it, that alone indicates that the two of you are incompatible. If that's true, then the hot truth was that you were forcing a relationship that was never going to succeed anyway. But you say it's not true. The problem then becomes that your argument doesn't really make much sense. so again, you'll need to elaborate.
I want to help, but more information is needed. I hope you can provide it.