0 views
Press right there to start video or
Room for on-line sex video chat persianpussy_
Model from: us
Languages: en
Birth Date: 2000-05-15
Body Type: bodyTypeAthletic
Ethnicity:
Hair color: hairColorOther
Eyes color: eyeColorHazel
Subculture: subcultureStudent
Date: January 23, 2023
This isn't going to be the most popular opinion here, considering the amount of comments here dunking on your ex.
I think you did the right thing. You need time to process and to decide on when you're willing to forgive.
However I don't think you should walk away totally, or at least not to the extent of totally shutting down what happens after you decide if you can ever see her as a partner in your life.
Here's my take. Peer pressure is an absolute bitch. It's pervasive, manipulative and an absolute nightmare in every scenario it's present. There are people who are immune to it, and some who are strong enough to overcome it but those people arent the most common.
She has shown that she is neither of those, but that's not so much of a character flaw, as it is human nature.
What exactly were her options? Tell them to stop? She did, and they kept going
Tell HR? That's a salon. I doubt that function exists
Quit the job? Sure, but that has other strings attached. I'm not sure exactly how the entire salon industry works, but it's probably smaller than you believe and word travels.
It's sort of like being in an closed echo chamber. If you're surrounded by a opinion, even if it's contrary to your own, eventually it'll wear you down and make sense.
None of this is an excuse for her actions, but it is a reason for clarity
You already know all the bad, dumb shit that she did.
Let me highlight the opposite.
She called you, she realized that she fucked up. Depending on how you want to look at this, either she had a moment or someone clarified what a dumbass she is. The fact that she did reach out is a positive
She told the truth and faced the consequence to her friends. And family. According to you, she didn't lie. She told the truth to everyone and took the shit. There was no self preservation instinct for her, no need to reason, justify or convince others. She knew she fucked up, she faced the music. That takes so much more strength than most people realize.
If you've made it this far, thank you for reading. I'll reclarify my points here.
You're not wrong. You did the right thing. You are ALLOWED and SUPPOSED to feel the hurt, the betrayal, the anger and the exhilaration of watching her realize that she fucked up. You're not a bad person, nor lessor because you wanted her to know what she threw away. You are allowed to have this. And you are allowed to own this.
She is wrong. There's no other way around it. She has told you the reasons, and what she's going to do to solve the issues but at the end, she is still wrong.
She has apologized but it's up to you to decide when that apology, if ever, will matter to you. That is your time, not anyone else's. 3 months, 6 months, whatever. It's up to you to decide all of this.
At the end of the day, the only advice they I can give is that people are allowed to make mistakes, but not everyone deserves to be forgiven. It's up to you to take a look and see if the contrition that she will have is appropriate and genuine
I won't wish you luck, because that's what what you need. But I do wish you clarity, because that is what you will want.
Lots of overlap i feel…
Op it sounds like your wife is using you to support her main partner (who can’t seem to hold a job). A real wife would have consulted you before guilting you into a relationship with a man (knowing you’re a lesbian), or about your views on children, and certainly before actually GETTING PREGNANT. I’m sure there’s a ton more that they’ve convinced you is normal that is anything but. I would almost question whether or not they set up the “discovered him on Tinder” situation.
Run before that baby is born! These people do not have your best interests at heart.