Please drop him and find someone that will love you as you are and support your weight loss journey to a better and healthier you. Do not loose weight for anyone but yourself.
Was he “confessing” or letting this girl, that he's known all of three weeks, understand where the friend fits in his life? All y'all who expect a partner to abandon everything you don't approve of and wonder why your relationships never last need to get a clue.
Hey dude. I've been living with my old lady for a decade now and one thing I want you to know right off the bat is that everybody's different. And within that, how easily stimulated you are can vary day-to-day too.
There are times when I go down on the Mrs. and it's immediate, sometimes it's a 20 minute adventure. Sometimes she's able to reach hers from intercourse in whatever position. Sometimes she needs to manually intervene to achieve it in seemingly the exact same scenario. And there are ways where we have acquired peak efficiency and she'll need to stop after a minute as to not be too early (which is convenient for being quick but boring and less of an intimate experience).
This is purely anecdotal advice so consider that;
Try doing different things. Same positions but maybe putting pressure on/in at a different angle, stimulate things a bit differently. This can extend to foreplay – 69ing, toys, I dunno. If you have an idea just send it. Don't avoid doing new things because it doesn't sound stimulating right away, just don't avoid stopping when you want to as well. Maybe you'll find something that you like more than what you're used to.
Communicate. Don't leave room for interpretation if you can help it. This includes listening as well. Most breakdowns aren't about failure to speak but inability to listen.
I think this is the most singular important thing, in my experience, but be relaxed. Be comfortable. Any mental roadblock, regardless of how big, can impact how you get there. Performance anxiety, essentially. It should be a fun, intimate experience. Stressing won't help.
I hope this rambling is worth something to you : )
Please drop him and find someone that will love you as you are and support your weight loss journey to a better and healthier you. Do not loose weight for anyone but yourself.
Was he “confessing” or letting this girl, that he's known all of three weeks, understand where the friend fits in his life? All y'all who expect a partner to abandon everything you don't approve of and wonder why your relationships never last need to get a clue.
Hey dude. I've been living with my old lady for a decade now and one thing I want you to know right off the bat is that everybody's different. And within that, how easily stimulated you are can vary day-to-day too.
There are times when I go down on the Mrs. and it's immediate, sometimes it's a 20 minute adventure. Sometimes she's able to reach hers from intercourse in whatever position. Sometimes she needs to manually intervene to achieve it in seemingly the exact same scenario. And there are ways where we have acquired peak efficiency and she'll need to stop after a minute as to not be too early (which is convenient for being quick but boring and less of an intimate experience).
This is purely anecdotal advice so consider that;
Try doing different things. Same positions but maybe putting pressure on/in at a different angle, stimulate things a bit differently. This can extend to foreplay – 69ing, toys, I dunno. If you have an idea just send it. Don't avoid doing new things because it doesn't sound stimulating right away, just don't avoid stopping when you want to as well. Maybe you'll find something that you like more than what you're used to.
Communicate. Don't leave room for interpretation if you can help it. This includes listening as well. Most breakdowns aren't about failure to speak but inability to listen.
I think this is the most singular important thing, in my experience, but be relaxed. Be comfortable. Any mental roadblock, regardless of how big, can impact how you get there. Performance anxiety, essentially. It should be a fun, intimate experience. Stressing won't help.
I hope this rambling is worth something to you : )