for the past several months, she's been nothing but down.
Might she have depression?
Not working could certainly lead in that direction.
she relates my topic to something she went or is going through, and suddenly we're talking about her for the rest of the conversation.
Haha my wife does this.
It really pisses me off.
Yes, this is how associative memory works.
But many of us are able to keep it from derailing our thinking.
I don't feel like she's there for me as much as I'm there for her.
I assumed this was true.
Thanks for confirming it.
She's depressed and most of those are likely due to that
Another assumption confirmed.
And I also don't want to go and tell her to stop being sad or that her being sad is draining me because you just don't say that stuff to someone, you know?
Then she clearly needs medical and/or psychological help.
Your greatest contribution would be in steering her toward accessing these resources.
From OP's post it's clear she said she doesn't like him buying her stuff. If she thought he's a friend and not a creep waiting for his chance, she had all the rights to accept whatever with no strings attached.
She did say a few times that she doesn’t like that I do/buy all this stuff for her, but she doesn’t do/buy anything for me, which I stated that I don’t mind as I don’t like when people feel obligated to do or buy things for me.
But, alas, there were strings attached in OP's mind after all.
“We'll see where it goes” is not a marriage vow, it's not a relationship label, it's not a monogamy/exclusivity talk.
She's a questionable character to sleep with her boss.
Would you be comfortable letting her know that you have been thinking about what she said and agree with her. You can then say you thought about it for awhile and realized it would be more accurate to say you felt like you were fallING in love, and that you hope you had t made her uncomfortable. That y’all can figure it out as you go, and that’s the fun part! See how she responds to that. Keep us updated! Good luck, my friend!!!
If you need to be matchy matchy with your name to validate your togetherness than please don't get married to this person, because there is clearly some large lack of security in this relationship.
This needs to be top comment. Spot on.
for the past several months, she's been nothing but down.
Might she have depression?
Not working could certainly lead in that direction.
she relates my topic to something she went or is going through, and suddenly we're talking about her for the rest of the conversation.
Haha my wife does this.
It really pisses me off.
Yes, this is how associative memory works.
But many of us are able to keep it from derailing our thinking.
I don't feel like she's there for me as much as I'm there for her.
I assumed this was true.
Thanks for confirming it.
She's depressed and most of those are likely due to that
Another assumption confirmed.
And I also don't want to go and tell her to stop being sad or that her being sad is draining me because you just don't say that stuff to someone, you know?
Then she clearly needs medical and/or psychological help.
Your greatest contribution would be in steering her toward accessing these resources.
YIKES
The best is no contact and move on. No need to explain anything to her. She will figure it out. She knows what she did.
From OP's post it's clear she said she doesn't like him buying her stuff. If she thought he's a friend and not a creep waiting for his chance, she had all the rights to accept whatever with no strings attached.
She did say a few times that she doesn’t like that I do/buy all this stuff for her, but she doesn’t do/buy anything for me, which I stated that I don’t mind as I don’t like when people feel obligated to do or buy things for me.
But, alas, there were strings attached in OP's mind after all.
“We'll see where it goes” is not a marriage vow, it's not a relationship label, it's not a monogamy/exclusivity talk.
She's a questionable character to sleep with her boss.
He's a fake “friend”.
Would you be comfortable letting her know that you have been thinking about what she said and agree with her. You can then say you thought about it for awhile and realized it would be more accurate to say you felt like you were fallING in love, and that you hope you had t made her uncomfortable. That y’all can figure it out as you go, and that’s the fun part! See how she responds to that. Keep us updated! Good luck, my friend!!!
He raped you, leave him.
If you need to be matchy matchy with your name to validate your togetherness than please don't get married to this person, because there is clearly some large lack of security in this relationship.
How long have you been together?? What have you done for other birthdays/holidays for her??
Soul ties are real. She didn’t enjoy the sex and doesn’t want to tell you. Plenty of fish in the sea you’ll be alright