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Date: December 17, 2022
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You need to leave this poor man alone and go get yourself some therapy.
My fiance and mother and friends are personal trainers. I'm constantly around personal trainers. So I don't think it's fair to say it's common. It just happened to you
I think it is time to give him back his freedom and move on…
even suggesting something like that is terrible
If you check I think you will find that usually solo masturbation and sex with a partner is the usual situations for most people.
Now the question is – why so seldom.
His number three times a week – sounds reasonable- but I would take a bet that either he is lying (that he would do it 6-7 times or more) or that he is a bit asexual.
I think you need to look at several aspects of your relationship.
First – the feelings between you. Love is many times defined as consisting of two parts. Passionate love and compassionate love.
In short passionate love is the “in love” feeling where you get “a bit obsessed” with your partner. You want to be with them, you are jealous and when you touch your partner you feel it very vividly. You could call this a bit sexual love.
Compassionate love is where you care for your partner. He is your best friend. You feel good being around him. You prioritise his needs – but in a calm feel good way.
Now the one thing to remember is that passionate love starts diminishing after a period of 6-12 months. That basically means that sexual frequency start diminishing after that.
So taken into account that you have been together for 4 years it is not surprising that your sexual frequency has gone down (especially if it was never common before).
A second thing to remember are habits. If you have started to have infrequent sexual contact- then that does two things – that sort of fixes the rhythm of your sex life.
It does not surprise me that you still feel very much in love – as the compassionate love is clearly still burning bright – but as you have noticed – this carries the risk of being a platonic or sexless relationship. More best friends then lovers.
Now what to do?
You have already started the process to talk about it so at least the situation is clear. However you have noticed to talk about thing does not change them. This is the power of habits and inertia. It is VERY difficult to change your behaviour – even though you want to.
There are several ways to deal with this – and I will give you a very short description of some of them.
Communication. Sex should not be something you only talk about while you are doing it or when you are complaining about the lack. Decide on a regular date in a dark room with candle lights when you will talk about improving your sex life while cuddling. Write your decisions down so you can follow up next tile you date. Remember be open, honest, tolerant and kind ( both of you!) These are touchy subjects and no blame policy is the name of the game. (This methode can also be used for other things in the relationship).
So what to talk about?
Great sex is not something you put on one person. There was a reason why there were in the marriages some fixed times when you have sex. So it should not be that he is supposed to signal he wants sex – no you have to plan it together and fix times.
Sex should be varied – so think about mixing up your stuff. Check on sensual massages, mutual masturbation and oral, try new positions and new places. The more variation the leas likely things go stale.
If you would not have these body issues you could maybe explore each other fantasies. Be careful that you do not start talking about this unless you have put boundaries in place.
Make a rule of making out with out sex when you meet. If you make it into a habit to behave like you want sex when you meet the more likely you get into the rhythm.
Finally – think through your dates. Make them sexy and active. Footsie while dining together, hold each other watching horror movies or when in a roller coaster or other fun fair stuff that ia exciting. Regular kissing.
Hope this helps