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NAKED [Multi Goal]
Date: December 10, 2022
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NAKED [Multi Goal]
You’re the backup- don’t wait around for her. You deserve better. Good luck
I’ve spent my entire life having sex without orgasms because men are like this so much. Now I’m married to a man who always wants me to get off and is happy to do it in any way that I want, which is usually a vibrator for myself too.
I think this is a clear sign that 1) he has a fragile ass ego and 2) he doesn’t really care about your enjoyment which will probably spread into other parts of the relationship too.
Is it bad if I stay and see how he is with his dog? He agreed he wouldn’t hit his dog. We have talked about not doing other things before and he hasn’t done them since. If I see him hit the dog again I told him I am out, but is it alright if my boyfriend and I figure out how to train his dog without hitting or harming him? Then watch how he is with his dog?
This is a tough one. But just as a side bar there really isn’t just knowing when you are in a relationship. People who are nuero divergent, people who have had brain trauma, people with religious trauma, people with trauma in general can have a hot time recognizing what is and isn’t a relationship. Even neurotypical people can get confused or have different expectations from the person they are interested in. You don’t have to ask someone to be your girlfriend, but doing regular check ins with partners are important. ‘Hey, how do you feel like things are going between us?’ ‘are we exclusive?’ ‘What boundaries and expectations do you have for our relationship?’ ‘Do we want to commit?’ Are all normal and healthy questions. I’ve known my husband about 13 years, and we still do regular check ins, just to make sure we are emotionally on the same page and our needs are being met and recognized. I mean at this point we don’t talk much about commitment, but these are normal conversations to have whether you continue this relationship, or move on to a new one.
He said he’s a stereotypical gay friend.
Pretty sure he isn’t interested.
Idk if this is fake or not but the first thing I would do is ask your husband to get you into see the best gynecologist you can find and tell them about the painful sex and see if there's any test they can run about that. Having children and letting your body growing up can be a game changer for you. I would also look into basic sex education live when you get a moment if you haven't. You obviously weren't aroused when you had sex for the first times did you guys use lube? If you're having trouble with pain and have unbearable periods even without having sex look into endometriosis. There is just so much to explain your pain for the first times. Also pain the first couple sometimes you have sex is completely normal however you describe such excruciating pain that you really need to go see a doctor to see if it's something more or if it's just because your body and mind was not at all ready for sex yet.
Second your husband sounds so accommodating you can ask him to first get an STD test and then ask him if he's willing to slowly start experimenting with sexual things. No penis in vagina sex but start with light touching and making out. I know it's emotionally painful but the fact that he has more sexual experience will probably help now that he knows what he's doing. You could also start using the Friday nights he's gone with experimenting with masturbation. Also there is a lot of men married in committed relationships that have wives with hard limits on some of the things the husband used to like to do with other women and they are just fine going the rest of their lives never doing a lot of those things again. But baby steps. You never know if you'll like any of those things if you don't start somewhere and you might be fully asexual.
If that happens to be the case, and you still want to remain married, and you still want him to be able to “be satisfied”, you'll need to work on your jealousy or you can work on detaching from him. The only other options I see are you tolerating all of this and remaining and paying every time he leaves to go get his needs filled or you getting a divorce and co-parenting amicably.
Get therapy with a sex positive therapist NOT a religious one. There are actual sex therapists out in the world (I just don't know how to find them) that could lead you better down this path. Doing couples therapy would probably help a lot at some too.
Finally if you know in your heart you're not going to leave, him tell him you love him. Because otherwise he's going to go through this whole life without knowing you love him and that he is loved. Being in love is giving somebody the ability to break your heart and trusting them not to. Love isn't all rainbows and Sunshine Love is heartbreak and working through things and communication.
I am going to wish you the bestest of luck. And if this was fake it was a very entertaining read.
im definitely judging you because you emotionally abuse him so you are the fucking garbage.