I used to be like that too except I never got married thank god. You just know and learn so much more as you grow it's insane. But I would ignore what the elders say to me but now at 35, I understand why. You can see all the red flags that you couldn't see before, and know know how good life can be if you find the right one.
Her want for her selfish stuff was greater than her desire to build a future with you. Her greed lead her to lie to you. I read nothing in your words that suggests she will change.
Be honest with yourself – could you trust her to make wise financial decisions in the future? To not lie to you and keep lying to you till she has no choice to tell the truth? Do you think she has debt she hasn't told you about yet?
You have an example of your friend in how she got in a relationship. Did she hook up a lot? How did she handle men that were just looking for something casual? How did she make herself seem like that relationship vibe of a girl? You can compare and see the clear differences.
Your insecurities are showing. Try not to take her behavior so personally.
Some people are very independent and nervous of being dependent or vulnerable. Some have a great deal of trouble asking for help or support. It sounds like she is one of these.
Practice giving her support such as a cheery phone call or text, without getting upset if it isn't reciprocated. That's a very good life skill to develop.
This doesn't sound like it was a very serious situation. You could have just ordered a cab and booked yourself a hotel. Belgium isn't an enormous country lol.
Are you sure you aren't three 5 year olds in a trenchcoat?
Your husband sucks on multiple levels. Sorry he pushed you into it and then got mad that his feewings were hurt. Boohoo.
I used to be like that too except I never got married thank god. You just know and learn so much more as you grow it's insane. But I would ignore what the elders say to me but now at 35, I understand why. You can see all the red flags that you couldn't see before, and know know how good life can be if you find the right one.
Her want for her selfish stuff was greater than her desire to build a future with you. Her greed lead her to lie to you. I read nothing in your words that suggests she will change.
Be honest with yourself – could you trust her to make wise financial decisions in the future? To not lie to you and keep lying to you till she has no choice to tell the truth? Do you think she has debt she hasn't told you about yet?
You have an example of your friend in how she got in a relationship. Did she hook up a lot? How did she handle men that were just looking for something casual? How did she make herself seem like that relationship vibe of a girl? You can compare and see the clear differences.
Your insecurities are showing. Try not to take her behavior so personally.
Some people are very independent and nervous of being dependent or vulnerable. Some have a great deal of trouble asking for help or support. It sounds like she is one of these.
Practice giving her support such as a cheery phone call or text, without getting upset if it isn't reciprocated. That's a very good life skill to develop.
This doesn't sound like it was a very serious situation. You could have just ordered a cab and booked yourself a hotel. Belgium isn't an enormous country lol.
Are you sure you aren't three 5 year olds in a trenchcoat?