You are 100% being emotionally and financially abused. Look up the cycle of abuse. All abusers are kind sometimes. If they were awful all the time, you wouldn’t of stayed with them this long. But you are, undoubtedly, in an abusive marriage based on what you shared here.
I know you didn’t excuse them, I was referring to others (like the one I originally responded to)
You did give the benefit of the doubt, which is rarely afforded to men here (not calling you out in particular, just what drives me to post this). Just a general lack of cross-sex empathy.
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Well, the truth is you and I both know you don’t need to be married or stay with her to have a baby. She wanted to marry and you didn’t so you made a choice. What are you going to do now? Also, leave her out of your influences if she wants to have the baby she has the baby if she doesn’t she won’t don’t pressure her.
when I told her to just break up with me, she refused
When she said she couldn't promise exclusivity, you don't need her to break up with you, you can break up with her… in fact you can do that at any point if you feel things aren't working out.
Has the relationship only been LDR? If so, I wouldn't count that as a relationship. It's modern day pen pals no matter how much sauce and heat is thrown in.
If I were you, especially considering there are local options to meet lovely people, sack off the unsure random thing you've got going on and meet some lovely people.
Because your intention is to go grind in another girl not to dance. And that is your problem. You see the guys as people taking advantage of the situation to grind themselves in the dance partners and this is probably not true. They probably love and enjoy dancing.
I think you should go take some classes with the intention of dance, not an opportunity to take advantage of another girl.
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You did give the benefit of the doubt, which is rarely afforded to men here (not calling you out in particular, just what drives me to post this). Just a general lack of cross-sex empathy.
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Should have what?
Actually “won” the playfight?
Why not?
Is the expectation that she gets to “win”.
I put win/won in quotes because it's absurd to even discuss. She was safe. He didn't harm her.
Well, the truth is you and I both know you don’t need to be married or stay with her to have a baby. She wanted to marry and you didn’t so you made a choice. What are you going to do now? Also, leave her out of your influences if she wants to have the baby she has the baby if she doesn’t she won’t don’t pressure her.
when I told her to just break up with me, she refused
When she said she couldn't promise exclusivity, you don't need her to break up with you, you can break up with her… in fact you can do that at any point if you feel things aren't working out.
Has the relationship only been LDR? If so, I wouldn't count that as a relationship. It's modern day pen pals no matter how much sauce and heat is thrown in.
If I were you, especially considering there are local options to meet lovely people, sack off the unsure random thing you've got going on and meet some lovely people.
Yeah, no. Even if his explanation is honest (it’s not) he’s gross.
Was about to say exactly this. Stop coddling grown ass men for the love of god.
Because your intention is to go grind in another girl not to dance. And that is your problem. You see the guys as people taking advantage of the situation to grind themselves in the dance partners and this is probably not true. They probably love and enjoy dancing.
I think you should go take some classes with the intention of dance, not an opportunity to take advantage of another girl.
They might look very similar for a reason beyond just being sisters…
Graduate! Join your family afterwards (in a gown and cap please!). Be you, do happy.