I never understood this. if you wanna get off and she won't help, why the fuck she mad you're not sleeping around on her and instead jerking off to porn? like porns not good, but it's better than sleeping around on her.
Man you know it. I know it. This whole sub knows it. She cheated. She may not have had sex, but she’s done something she doesn’t want you to know about. And her reaction screams guilty defensive gaslighting.
Talk to her if you want, but she’s 100% cheated with her ex.
Suicidal people make themselves believe that the world will remain the same, or even become better after they die.
Tell him straight up that you and Lisa will end up becoming what he is today if he goes ahead anyway.
Also, not ALL is lost. The seemingly innocent act of forgetting to lock his diary is possibly a sign of the fact that he does want his secret to come out – so maybe he still finds a reason to live.
When a person DECIDES to die, a kind of crystal clarity sets in. The weight goes off your shoulders – there's only a short time left, so they actually become happy.
Accounts get settled. Will gets made. Long neglected important-ish tasks get done.
Marc is showing the classic symptom of a person who forgives everyone because he can't forgive himself.
Right from (and before) the time when he forgave a 17 year old for calling him a n****r .
My guess is that he blames himself for his father's and mother's death. Like: “I could not give my mother enough love to make her life worth living to her”.
And maybe he blames himself for the accident as well.
Now it might look very obvious to you that his thinking is wrong – but you have to understand that he has been believing this since childhood.
He has been carrying that blame since 20 years. He simply cannot see any other “reality”.
He may even have intentionally 'cheated' on Lisa to make himself believe that he is a bad husband and Lisa would be better off alone.
In other words he is now in a place where he is convinced that everyone he is connected to do would be better off without him.
It is NOT too late.
Forget everything and tell him that a suicide always makes things even worse off than death.
As a regular Joe I dunno how much any of this is right.
But if it is, and if it helps, I'd be glad to talk to you or Marc or anyone.
Though of course a real professional would be better.
How do you know she feels this way about you and that it’s not just platonic?
I never understood this. if you wanna get off and she won't help, why the fuck she mad you're not sleeping around on her and instead jerking off to porn? like porns not good, but it's better than sleeping around on her.
she might be muslim. muslims don’t eat pork so could be why
wasn't this same exact thing posted like literally 3 days ago?
Man you know it. I know it. This whole sub knows it. She cheated. She may not have had sex, but she’s done something she doesn’t want you to know about. And her reaction screams guilty defensive gaslighting.
Talk to her if you want, but she’s 100% cheated with her ex.
You got to talk to Marc.
Suicidal people make themselves believe that the world will remain the same, or even become better after they die.
Tell him straight up that you and Lisa will end up becoming what he is today if he goes ahead anyway.
Also, not ALL is lost. The seemingly innocent act of forgetting to lock his diary is possibly a sign of the fact that he does want his secret to come out – so maybe he still finds a reason to live.
When a person DECIDES to die, a kind of crystal clarity sets in. The weight goes off your shoulders – there's only a short time left, so they actually become happy.
Accounts get settled. Will gets made. Long neglected important-ish tasks get done.
Marc is showing the classic symptom of a person who forgives everyone because he can't forgive himself.
Right from (and before) the time when he forgave a 17 year old for calling him a n****r .
My guess is that he blames himself for his father's and mother's death. Like: “I could not give my mother enough love to make her life worth living to her”.
And maybe he blames himself for the accident as well.
Now it might look very obvious to you that his thinking is wrong – but you have to understand that he has been believing this since childhood.
He has been carrying that blame since 20 years. He simply cannot see any other “reality”.
He may even have intentionally 'cheated' on Lisa to make himself believe that he is a bad husband and Lisa would be better off alone.
In other words he is now in a place where he is convinced that everyone he is connected to do would be better off without him.
It is NOT too late.
Forget everything and tell him that a suicide always makes things even worse off than death.
As a regular Joe I dunno how much any of this is right.
But if it is, and if it helps, I'd be glad to talk to you or Marc or anyone.
Though of course a real professional would be better.
You've asked him clearly to stop. He keeps doing it. You need to leave him for the sake of your mental health.