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Guy 3 I understand. But why not guy 2? Also, don’t you think it’s unfair to guy 1 that I am even doing all this or having second thoughts when he is so into me and crazy about me..? I feel so guilty oh God
You were a fool and fools gets these outcomes. Learn form this and be better
This is SO critically important.
Sis, just leave. Take the baby, contact an attorney and file for custody.
You deserve respect. You deserve love. You do NOT deserve abuse and he is abusive. Heck, he doesn't even hide how he feels about you.
Please have enough self respect to just leave. Don't talk to him about it even for a moment. Call an attorney today about custody. Ask your parents to help pay for the attorney. The next part is critical. Do NOT tell him your plans. Call family and ask them to meet you at your apartment while he is at work at a designated time with pick up trucks to help you move out. Take all of your stuff, all of the baby's stuff and half of everything else. Do not give him access to the baby until a firm custody order is in place because if he has you saved as “dumb bitch” he is likely going to do everything he can to make your life miserable including using your child to hurt you – and if your families are fighting it sounds like his family will go along with his behavior.
I would recommend seeking therapy for this answer. You could have relationship anxiety. Or you could have genuine worries about your relationship.
If you don't like how he communicates please do not ignore that. It's a big deal. I know everyone is saying differently. But I've seen too many reddit posts of people getting divorced down the line for this exact issue. Communication is everything in a relationship. It's the make or break long term.
My advice is to get couples counseling to work on communication and also get individual therapy to determine if your fears are rooted on irrational anxiety or genuine concern. How often do you fight? That's another important question.
Honestly I wouldn't get married until you're 100% sure he's the one. Yes there's no such thing as THE one, but every marriage I've seen succeed started with two people 100% sure and willing do to whatever it takes to make it work. Is he willing to work on his communication?
It's also not really fair to him to go into a marriage unless you've communicated these doubts to him. Imagine marrying a guy and then years later you find out he was anxious to marry you because “what if I only like her because I don't know what else is out there”. You'd be heartbroken. Please ocmmunicate with him your doubts so he can decide to either work on it with you or choose what he wants for himself as well. If communication is so important to you, you owe it to him to communicate how you're feeling.
These doubts will not go away with time unless you address them. Years and years will go by with the question of what-if sitting in your head. And should you ever meet someone at work, etc… who exhibits all those traits your partner lacked…. after years of wondering what if….subconscious despair ensues.
Personally I would not marry someone unless I was 100% sure I wanted to give my whole life to them. Don't let people here convince you to settle; you only online a short while and then you die and that's it. Done. Forever. You will give whatever time you have left on this earth to that man; make sure it will be time well spent. Make sure anything that you worry about him, he is willing to work on and vice versa.
I suppose this is a devils advocate opinion since everyone else here will tell u to ignore your gut feelings. But you should never ever ignore a gut feeling or a red flag. Don't believe me? Just scroll along relationship reddit or divorce reddit for a few minutes and you will.
Best of luck.
OP, I think his punishment is toxic And I am not condoning that at all.
I have a couple of questions for you. How long have you guys been together? How has he treated you so far as his girlfriend? Did he ever call you names before?
You mentioned that you went to the club with a few of your friends. Can you talk to all of them to get a better picture of the night? They may also have seen what Your boyfriend has seen regarding our behavior during that night.
It is a significant blow to the relationship when your partner says that they want to make out with other guys/girls and then take their friends home with them to sleep with. I’m glad that your boyfriend thought with cool head and chose not to break up with you.
You’ll get a lot of replies vilifying your boyfriend and he DOES deserve it due to his attitude towards your ‘punishment’, calling you names and saving your name under a derogatory term in his phone. If this is not how he usually is, then I think whatever it is that you said to him must have been jarring to him to re-evaluate the relationship.
People calling him names (rightfully so) for how he’s treating you now are discounting your behavior while you were blacked out. You need to do some introspection and decide what you want to do regarding your drinking. The burden shouldn’t be on him to control your drinking. That may end up making him the bad person. This change towards alcohol for you needs to be enthusiastically voluntary. He’s now going to be concerned (rightfully so) about your relationship with your friends. He may wonder if the next time you guys have issues would you go and sleep with your friends Or make out with other guys.
Please realize that relationships for the most part are voluntary. You don’t need to be in this relationship if you don’t want to and at the same time your bf may decide that he does not want to be in this relationship and may chose to leave because he does not want to have the cloud of you cheating on him hanging over his head. I think whatever you said when you were blacked out had harmed your image in his mind significantly and all that he’s doing is acting out on that.
If you can afford it, would You please consider doing couple’s therapy to communicate better with each other? At this point, you don’t really know how hurt he feels due to what you said while you were blacked out. From his point of view, he may have done his best to be a good boyfriend to you only for you to say that you want to make out with other guys and sleep with your friends. Such words have a way to undermine any solid relationship.
It sounds like you went a little overboard in your attempts to get the message across.
if you believe it would not further bombard her with unwanted communication, an apology for causing her pain could go a long way.
Remember though the apology is not about making you feel better. You will need to find a way to resolve being used in some other way.
So move on?
You haven't done anything wrong. He has.
effects of drugs
Just took some advil, guess I'm unable to consent now.
I would wait and maybe as a couples therapist.
No, once the rape word exited his wife's mouth he should have been on the phone with his lawyer. There's no coming back from that.
I'm really sorry, and I don't mean to beat a dead horse, but walking in AGAIN because you were taking too long sounds really controlling to me.
You are much nicer and much more patient than I would be.
You are with him because the only thing that would make you more lonely than your current situation is being single. But that’s not fair to him. You need to tell him and end things. Learn to online on your own until you find someone who shares a similar lifestyle. Sounds like if you can’t go a few hours without him, poly might not work either once you see your partner with other people. You have to figure out your emotions.
Make it inconvenient and break up with her.
Are you living in the same town as her now?
It is not being the jealous type to not want your girlfriend to send pics of her in a bikini to her ex that he thinks. You need to talk to her about this.
I vote for self-preservation, which is to say don't get further involved. Just drop him.
There's no upside for you in telling anybody about this. There IS possible downside for you. As such, don't tell.
Others will argue (perhaps correctly) that if you were in wife's shoes, you'd want to be told. However, one thing I've learned is that none of us have any fucking clue what is going on in somebody else's household, and getting involved on an unsolicited basis can bounce back on you in negative ways.
yep he blocked me because I sent him what he asked for…
You say shit that you won’t normally say because your brain stop you from saying these… In alcohol you don’t have those filters.
Every single thing he does is a way of controlling you. Get out of there immediately.
Dump HIM !!!!!!!!!!!
she shouldn’t trust you. you straight lied to her about deleting her nudes. “yeah i deleted them (but i didn’t delete all of them hehehehe)” is not the cute sneaky thing you think it is, it’s gross and creepy. she asked you to delete very hot images of HER, if you had any respect for her you would’ve listened to her request. she shouldn’t trust you and she should leave you. idk what you want here
It wasn't a joke. He was mildly testing your reaction to him saying it. He didn't like the answer and consequences of that and then decided to throw a tantrum to try to get you back under his thumb. The Christmas gift on the seat is also a manipulation. My ex did the same thing when I left.
He needs to give you a very genuine apology here. I don't see you getting one though. He'll probably lovebomb next.
There are actual meds on the market now that can help him. Have him ask his PCP, and make sure he gets blood work done, because they're easier to get insurance paid for if he's diabetic or something.
You are a grown man close to my age. Why would you not be able to care for yourself for a single preplanned event. Grow up and quit making drama where there isn’t none.
Yeah annulments are just not easy to get. I would suggest a quickie divorce and moving on.
Do you believe you would be a good boyfriend?
How did you open up the topic to your bf?
Sorry dude but you’re a coward.
In each of those examples listed above you never once put your foot down and set a boundary.
Now you let it run for 8 years and that is some very hot shit for you both to unlearn.
She has zero responsibility, you communicate zero boundaries. It’s like she’s a toddler and you’re a bad parent.
Honestly I’ve been having the existential dread of not being far off 30 and this just reminded me how good it is now hahaha
When someone’s entire personality is wrapped up in highly commercialized sport to the point it effects the mental health of their partners, it’s time to go. I’m not a sport fan and I too deal with a ex partner who is. It’s not just the games, it’s the constant aggressive talking heads on the TV between games that occupy the sound in shared environment. Its them being upset for days and passively aggressively taking it out on you, your shared home or others. It’s the time away from household, relationship, and personal growth that gets neglected. It’s A LOT.
You deserve to have peace.
He’s your boyfriend, not your parent. He doesn’t get the right to ‘punish’ you like a child. Plus, even if a parent thinks that breaking stuff is a punishment, well, guess what? That’s not ok either. Adults use their words, not their fists. Next time might not be an inanimate object and then it’ll be ‘every time you see that bruise/scar you’ll remember what you did to upset me’. The ? is there. Heed it.
Just to follow up. Abortion would immediately be legal in all states and contraceptives would immediately be free in all states at all local drug stores. Support groups would be everywhere. Etc… (A majority of guys suck I am sorry) (I am a guy and like to think I suck a little bit less)
No one has questioned my relationship… in Romania it’s quite common that older men will date/engage in sexual activities with young women. And by y’all’s comments, I will leave. Macho mini man child isn’t a vibe honestly
The reason I asked OP to clarify is because it’s not obvious.
OP has said that he wants to be debt-free.
He’s also said that his girlfriend wants to buy a car.
He’s said that his girlfriend seems to be under the impression (for an unknown reason) that they will both be paying for the car.
That is why I asked OP why she thought that. The answer to that question is essential. OP has refused to answer so far.
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That's dump worthy unless she starts groveling right quick
Yes.
Oh you're gonna get judgment…
That was supposed to be in response to another comment but for some reason Reddit replied to this one ??♀️
Sounds like they kept their sex quiet and private for 19 years and don’t feel like it any more. They’re letting their kid online with them and giving her zero problems about it, but they’re not interested in sneaking around like teenagers anymore. Fair play, they don’t owe OP anything, she’s an adult, she can figure her own solution out.
What figure is at 131000? Working 24 hrs a day for the year? Divide that by 3 and maybe it’s realistic. And the mom is asking for 6000 extra a year. You suck at math. It doesn’t seem that bad to you because you think mothers should be paid for breathing. You talk like you come from a big privileged city in America
I guess now you know you will always be secondary, just like any future child would be.
It's a possibility. It is also possible that it could just be a normal thing. I would talk to your mom for sure.
I don’t know. Probably to continue her phone call.
He big mad because he thought he could “nice guy” his way into her bed.
Let me make one thing clear: both you and your wife need to grow up and understand 1. If it’s worth being depressed to stay together, 2. It is inhumane and shitty, but everyone needs to work.
Your wife feels lonely and depressed, and that is why she naps. With all the kids you seem to have, I can only imagine how tired she must be. Keeping a house and raising children is no joke, and it is only human not to have the strength to also work a full time job. Now, I don’t know where you online and what your wife was doing part-time, but whatever that was I am fully confident it wouldn’t make a great deal of difference in your finances compared to your 40+ hours/week job, while it would 100% make a difference in her well-being being able to take care of your children and your house full time. Additionally, learning how to do house chores is the bare minimum you can do to help your wife, who must be pretty overwhelmed if she needs to take a nap after lunch.
It’s pretty clear to me you and your wife are unhappy together, and you are acting quite selfishly. I would definitely break up with you, and take the kids where they can be financially supported.
Generally speaking moreover, just to briefly touch upon work, please take into account the fact you cannot in this economy, and with many children to care for, leave a job without having another one piled up. You are acting recklessly, and with no regards not only for your wife but also for your children.
That said, I would seriously consider therapy. You don’t sound like someone who’s talking straight.
Take care.
Your bf is he and they meaning either can be used some people have preference but are fine with either. But it’s for your bf to let you know if they prefer he or they. T doesn’t seem like nice person. Give bf the space to be called when he wants. She is determining what is and isn’t appropriate for bf to be called. Instead of giving him that. So not a nice person or friend
Hey, it’s important to figure out how to map your story appropriately!
Well as I said – for me I don't care about this much, but thats an issue for my gf, so maybe I don't see something. And you make a conclussion that I don't respect myself. Stranger from reddit knows more about me than I do:)
haha yeah girls are happy to remain committed for 6 whole months, turning down potential suitors while he doesn't actually date her. reality is not going to be kind to y'all.
He deserves to know what you’ve done. This will never be a healthy/honest relationship if you don’t. He deserves to have all pertinent information so HE can now decide if he wants to stay with you. I mean what would you want if he had done this instead?