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The hot truth is that you’re focusing on the beginning with rose colored classes and trying to avoid the reality of the current situation. In saying that, you’re not crazy; almost everyone does this. But at some point you need to be woken up. I’m here trying to do that.
You can’t stay in a relationship based on “potential;” potential you have no reason to believe will ever be realized.
To be quite honest with you, this is maybe the worst case of insecurity and subsequent treatment because of it I’ve ever seen, and I’ve given a ton of advice over a number of years on year.
She might very well be projecting. If that’s what you need to believe, I honestly hope you do. Either way, I can’t possible advise harder to run from this and never look back. There’s a reason why a 26 year old is with you at 21; she’s in control. If you stay in this, you’ll always be in the wrong as far as she’s concerned. Watch what happens when you say no and stand firm.
that does sound a lot like him – especially the way in which he is rationalizing it. For him, it seems so black and white. Thank you for giving me your perspective, it helps me come to terms with the way he is approaching this issue. I had internalized the idea that he just didn't care, but I see how it must be more complicated than that. What would you want to hear in a situation like this if you found yourself in his shoes?
You’re 24. Act like it and don’t let yourself wallow. Cut him out of your life completely. Further, he was playing the long con with you while you were stuck in your one sided affection. You surely recognize that right?
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Are you able to be together or just live? And assuming your relationship persists, does he plan to stay Army and if not, what’s next?
The hot truth is that you’re focusing on the beginning with rose colored classes and trying to avoid the reality of the current situation. In saying that, you’re not crazy; almost everyone does this. But at some point you need to be woken up. I’m here trying to do that.
You can’t stay in a relationship based on “potential;” potential you have no reason to believe will ever be realized.
To be quite honest with you, this is maybe the worst case of insecurity and subsequent treatment because of it I’ve ever seen, and I’ve given a ton of advice over a number of years on year.
She might very well be projecting. If that’s what you need to believe, I honestly hope you do. Either way, I can’t possible advise harder to run from this and never look back. There’s a reason why a 26 year old is with you at 21; she’s in control. If you stay in this, you’ll always be in the wrong as far as she’s concerned. Watch what happens when you say no and stand firm.
that does sound a lot like him – especially the way in which he is rationalizing it. For him, it seems so black and white. Thank you for giving me your perspective, it helps me come to terms with the way he is approaching this issue. I had internalized the idea that he just didn't care, but I see how it must be more complicated than that. What would you want to hear in a situation like this if you found yourself in his shoes?
You’re 24. Act like it and don’t let yourself wallow. Cut him out of your life completely. Further, he was playing the long con with you while you were stuck in your one sided affection. You surely recognize that right?