You decided you could brainwash her into dating you by giving her candy.
You chose to keep on keepin' on even though any rational man who is nearly 30 would have realized she's just not that into you. When she said something you are doing is making her uncomfortable, you decided to keep doing it anyway.
You insisted on forcing a friendship and hoping it would turn into sex for you when it was incredibly, blatantly clear that she doesn't want to date you, and now you're mad because you're finally figuring it out–even though she's been pretty damn clear multiple times.
I wouldn't push outing them. It may make you feel better, but not them. If they want to come out, it is their choice. They may have many reasons not to do so that do not involve you.
At best, I would make sure that my comments are always receptive and welcoming to folks in different sexual orientations.
OP, thank you so much for making this update post. You may feel like just a stranger on the internet but I can't tell you how many Reddit posts from people in crisis online rent free in my head for years as I wonder if they got out, if they survived, if their circumstances improved. It makes me SO HAPPY to see this post from you. Also, from one stranger to another, I am so proud of you – what you did is not easy.
sorry but this is 100% a you problem, not a him problem. you need to work on your anxiety, stop making him the badguy if he doesn't reply to your text for an hour.
Make him take up knitting with you first . If he says he's heading to the gym, tell him there's a jumper that needs an arm added. See how long that lasts.
My dad did something like this when I was about 1. He left to travel the world for 2 years 🙁 Was not good for me at all. My mum and dad were all ready divorced by this point, but it did piss my mum off big time. He came back every few months and sent me postcards, but because I was so young I kinda never had that bonding with him. Your wife clearly needs some therapy. If she goes off for more than 2 weeks your daughter will feel awful. I'm sad for you and your child.
You're right, I should just ask her. Even if shes upset at least it'll give clarity.
What’s good for the goose is good for the gander
You decided you could brainwash her into dating you by giving her candy.
You chose to keep on keepin' on even though any rational man who is nearly 30 would have realized she's just not that into you. When she said something you are doing is making her uncomfortable, you decided to keep doing it anyway.
You insisted on forcing a friendship and hoping it would turn into sex for you when it was incredibly, blatantly clear that she doesn't want to date you, and now you're mad because you're finally figuring it out–even though she's been pretty damn clear multiple times.
This is about you, not any behavior of hers.
Lol so true combined mental maturity of 26!
I wouldn't push outing them. It may make you feel better, but not them. If they want to come out, it is their choice. They may have many reasons not to do so that do not involve you.
At best, I would make sure that my comments are always receptive and welcoming to folks in different sexual orientations.
If they are happy and no drama- don't poke it.
OP, thank you so much for making this update post. You may feel like just a stranger on the internet but I can't tell you how many Reddit posts from people in crisis online rent free in my head for years as I wonder if they got out, if they survived, if their circumstances improved. It makes me SO HAPPY to see this post from you. Also, from one stranger to another, I am so proud of you – what you did is not easy.
sorry but this is 100% a you problem, not a him problem. you need to work on your anxiety, stop making him the badguy if he doesn't reply to your text for an hour.
Cool story, bro
Make him take up knitting with you first . If he says he's heading to the gym, tell him there's a jumper that needs an arm added. See how long that lasts.
My dad did something like this when I was about 1. He left to travel the world for 2 years 🙁 Was not good for me at all. My mum and dad were all ready divorced by this point, but it did piss my mum off big time. He came back every few months and sent me postcards, but because I was so young I kinda never had that bonding with him. Your wife clearly needs some therapy. If she goes off for more than 2 weeks your daughter will feel awful. I'm sad for you and your child.
I kept thinking the same thing. Can't quite put my finger on why it felt so off.
Be divorced by the time she sobers up.