I just find it extremely annoying how snob and arrogant these people are, thinking they're some moral compass better than everyone else. While the rest are all horrible human beings for having a different opinion on something.
I agree! We both agree that we should be spending more time with our own friends, so we are gonna work on that.
I feel like we are moving forward, like we both have started to work out again, i got my certificate of apprenticeship and she has figured out what she wants to become. We had a little talk today, and agreed that we were gonna try to find some new hobbies/learn new skills for ourselves.
I think it's best to just be direct- that you appreciate the experience with her, that you care about her as a person, but that you are not ready to be in this sort of relationship and that you think it would be best for both of your emotional and mental well beings to no longer talk with each other.
Yes, it will hurt her, but its the kindest way to approach it. I don't think checking in will be good for either of you, I think it's best to respectfully cut off all contact and allow each other to just go your separate ways before things become anymore toxic, for lack of a better term. It is not your responsibility to be her support system, especially not a situation like this. And I understand that sounds very cold- but it's not meant to be. She needs a true support system and very likely professional help, not a 22 year old man she's been sleeping with for a few months. You simply do not have the emotional skills or life experience to play that role for her, and that's okay- you shouldn't at 22.
Just stay strong- and remember that you are not responsible for her emotional well being. That, especially in this time of her life, is her responsibility. I wish you the best on this difficult situation, and a fulfilling dating life going forward.
I'm glad you asked, because I wondered that too. Nonconsensual kisses do sometimes happen, and OP left so fast that it's hot to be 100% sure this wasn't one, from his telling of the story. This is probably a long shot, but could be worth bothering to listen to one minute of her side of the story just to be sure of whether she was actually doing any kissing.
I haven't thought of her until mother's day this year, as I didn't get to thank her when I wanted to a year ago. We haven't spoke since then. We're broken up. I just feel for her.
Split the dance if you feel like you have to compromise. That's not choosing one or the other–you're acknowledging both men. It's your wedding, and you get to decide what you want to do. Your mother's feelings don't matter.
I just find it extremely annoying how snob and arrogant these people are, thinking they're some moral compass better than everyone else. While the rest are all horrible human beings for having a different opinion on something.
Thanks, yeah I think this is best here. I know he may say on our date “I won't do that, I apologize” but I won't ever want to change someone.
I agree! We both agree that we should be spending more time with our own friends, so we are gonna work on that.
I feel like we are moving forward, like we both have started to work out again, i got my certificate of apprenticeship and she has figured out what she wants to become. We had a little talk today, and agreed that we were gonna try to find some new hobbies/learn new skills for ourselves.
Does he clean? Or are you doing all the cooking and all the cleaning?
I think it's best to just be direct- that you appreciate the experience with her, that you care about her as a person, but that you are not ready to be in this sort of relationship and that you think it would be best for both of your emotional and mental well beings to no longer talk with each other.
Yes, it will hurt her, but its the kindest way to approach it. I don't think checking in will be good for either of you, I think it's best to respectfully cut off all contact and allow each other to just go your separate ways before things become anymore toxic, for lack of a better term. It is not your responsibility to be her support system, especially not a situation like this. And I understand that sounds very cold- but it's not meant to be. She needs a true support system and very likely professional help, not a 22 year old man she's been sleeping with for a few months. You simply do not have the emotional skills or life experience to play that role for her, and that's okay- you shouldn't at 22.
Just stay strong- and remember that you are not responsible for her emotional well being. That, especially in this time of her life, is her responsibility. I wish you the best on this difficult situation, and a fulfilling dating life going forward.
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I'm glad you asked, because I wondered that too. Nonconsensual kisses do sometimes happen, and OP left so fast that it's hot to be 100% sure this wasn't one, from his telling of the story. This is probably a long shot, but could be worth bothering to listen to one minute of her side of the story just to be sure of whether she was actually doing any kissing.
I haven't thought of her until mother's day this year, as I didn't get to thank her when I wanted to a year ago. We haven't spoke since then. We're broken up. I just feel for her.
Jesus. He needs to grow up
Find someone with more depth, class and compassion. He sounds like a twiddle doofus.
Split the dance if you feel like you have to compromise. That's not choosing one or the other–you're acknowledging both men. It's your wedding, and you get to decide what you want to do. Your mother's feelings don't matter.