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My thoughts exactly. I think the relationship is coming to an end, just how healthy it ends is the question.
So anyone on here can give you their opinion formed by their own experiences and biases but only you know what the dynamic is like between you and your fiance and his dynamic with this specific person. In my experience your intuition about these things is usually correct. Even if there's nothing going on with this person it seems like you know your fiance well enough to know the signs of him having a wandering eye. That being said, I don't think it's necessarily a “bad” thing in and of itself. Imo it's natural for you and your partner to develop crushes in a ltr. Being in a monogamous relationship is a conscious choice, and it doesn't mean you don't find other people attractive. What I think is important is that you and your fiancé create space for honesty in your relationship. Getting mad at him isn't going to change any feelings he may have and could end up creating a self fulfilling prophecy by driving him away. It also gives him no incentive to be honest with you. I think if you and your fiancé respect each other as complex human beings and accept each other's perception of reality you can more easily get to the root of the issue. Consider whether you only care for him in relation to yourself or if you care for him as an individual human being holistically. You don't have to like his truth, but you have to accept his truth and accept that only he can determine what that is. It can upset you, but if you want to continue your relationship there's no point in acting on your emotions in a manner that pushes him away. Your emotions are yours to process. He needs to fully realize these things about you as well and consider you in kind. Once everything is laid out on the table you decide what you're comfortable with, if you need to set a boundary, if you have room for compromise. He has no obligation to agree with you, but if he doesn't and won't respect your boundaries or compromise I don't see how you can go forward in your relationship. Same vice versa. However, he can have a crush and still choose you and you can still choose him even if he has a crush. Truly knowing and accepting your partner can create profound intimacy that deepens your relationship. And with that added depth and understanding in the relationship you may both want to choose each other even more. I wish you the best through this tough situation 🙂
Op, you sound incredibly young and immature. Nothing she did was inappropriate and she handled it perfectly. You were the weird one who kept looking over and trying to see how much attention she was paying to you.
Oh man ?. That really makes me feel anxious of ever being just gf material to someone. Idk how to overcome that fear. I already have low self esteem.
dont care about her, just as simple as that. she is nothing but a burden in your life so i recommend you free yourself from that burden
Oh him pressuring her for sex while she was drunk and her feeling bad that she didn’t consent to it is definitely on him.
Pick the unknown. Have an adventure.
He has no respect for you, either. I would absolutely be done. He wants to go surf dating sites? He can do that as a single man, to his heart's content!
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I find that you pretty much have to let them come to the decision on their own.
Any further “convincing” like “look at all these people who say it’s great” or “here are all the ways we can be comfortable” over and over can fall back to you if she actually ends up hating it. She’ll be resentful of you for pushing it when she was on the fence. Also the more you try to convince the more she can get in her head about it and wonder if you need it to be happy with her or it could make her wonder why you’re pushing so hard.
I think your best best is to have a conversation with her and say “this is something I’d be open to trying, but I’m putting the decision on you. I don’t want you to be uncomfortable in any way, so you think on it and when you’re ready to talk, come to me and we’ll discuss. I want you to be comfortable with whatever we try.”
She’ll respect you more for it and you can be confident when she comes to the decision it’s something you both want and no “convincing” was necessary.
When involving other people things can go wrong very fast so it’s important to keep communication open and fully discuss boundaries, concerns and hesitations.
It sounds like she’s open to it, so I’d let her come around in her own time.
You parent him. Kids don’t get what they want all of the time and treating you as a endless bank account isn’t possible. Make him do minor chores to earn money and they one he has enough he can get 1 small item per week.
Isn’t that what “F” stand for? It requires a M&F to create a baby. Not trying to trigger anyone.
Yep, I’d be filing for divorce. It sounds like he lied about pretty much everything in your marriage.
Spending time together in person should make things clear.
You know you’re allowed to choose who you have sex with, right?
Why are you sleeping with, let alone dating, a man who treats you badly and clearly doesn’t give a shit about your health? You aren’t a partner in your own relationship, you’re an object to him to shut up and get him off. Don’t put up with being treated like that by anyone.
Are you friends with the ex who traumatized you? The one you still have physical contact with?
According to the CDC condom efficacy is 87%.
Unfortunately, it’s probably not out of character.
It’s extremely common for older men to pretend to be genuinely good guys for long enough to lock someone down, someone much younger down.
And then you find out who they really are.
He’s showing you who he is. Believe him.
This is the other thing I wanted to point out, also.
OP, you helped a woman in need. You should be commended. It's not like you were buying her drugs, you were helping her have clean clothes in a time that has been hard on everyone, but especially the homeless. I'm sorry your husband is so heartless he couldn't see that. That point aside, he is most definitely trapping you in some form of financial abuse. At the very minimum, please don't let him make you feel bad for doing something charitable. My mother and I were homeless when I was young. People like you are blessings.
Fair enough. All of this confusion could have been avoided if he had explained his problem like an adult instead of just name calling like a child tho.
Of course you can’t get through to her. She needs professional help. Self harm isn’t from boredom. She’s hurting herself. She needs help far beyond what you or any nonprofessional can provide.
? I don't wanna lose her though I have nothing without her sigh the whole thing is literally a mess
i told him that i find one of the workers good looking but i don’t work with him at all as we work on different days. i wasn’t going for the sole purpose of the guy. i was going to spend time with the girls from work and there are like 2 other guys who i wont pay attention to in that way
I think OP just wants to show off pics of his gf
He said he would never accept cheating, BUT. He then went on to make excuses for it. There’s no excuse for it though. Most spouses would be rightfully concerned to hear this come from their partners mouth. If he can see why she did it, he could possibly also see why he should do it.
Saying you would ‘never accept something, but’ is just a round about way of saying what circumstances you would accept something under.
The closer a dude gets to 30, the less likely he is to change much. I think your project may not be feasible, and you'd do better starting over from scratch.
You owe her NOTHING. She cheated on you and is still using you for gym membership, trying to boss around your schedule. Hell no.
Cancel the gym membership for her, let her know that scheduling your times to not be the same won't be a problem anymore since she can't afford it.
You were okay being a side chick and now you are asking this question ????? OPs replies yall…omg ??
Even giving him the benefit of the doubt that he truly means it when he says he will marry you, have kids with you, buy a house with you…it's not what he actually wants. Being willing to do those things, as a means to an end, is so, so much different than actually wanting those things. Even if you believe he means it…don't go back. You're just setting yourself up for heartache.
Do you want to be planning a wedding, which is supposed to be an exciting and romantic time in your life, and have every question you ask your partner be answered “I don't care,” or “I just want to get it over with?” Do you think you'll feel loved and special when he rolls his eyes at different invitation designs, is bored and resentful when looking at wedding halls, and tells you on your wedding night, and has a bachelor party where is bitches to his friends for hours about how you're making him marry you?
Do you want to have to explain to your kids why daddy never says “I love you,” doesn't care about their school stories, doesn't every play with them, etc.? Or why he left after a few years when he realized he couldn't fake these things?
Do you want to be made to feel like a stranger in your own home because your husband is so wound up about how much money you “made him” invest in it?
He is never going to give you what you want, which is to be excited and eager to marry you, or to be excited to be a parent. Not if you take him back now. Sure, if you run into him in five years, maybe he will have changed, but probably not. But he didn't change in three days. All he did was either try to tell you what you want to hear, or decide he'd “suck it up” so he didn't have to break up. You're worth more than “I guess I'll suck it up.”
Fuck no. Why should be stuck raising someone else’s kid? Leave her and lawyer up
He’s not a boy. He’s a young man. And I never went after him.
I never said he was the solution to any of my problems.
How is he not healthy for me when he treats me so well and cares so much for me?
I’m not allowing him to pursue me because of anything from my past. I’ve been in therapy long enough to know myself. Sure I had a difficult childhood and adult life but My traumas have nothing to do with men or young men. Mine was physical abuse from my mom and inviting toxic, narcissistic people into my life. I also deal with loving myself at times and then other time loving myself just fine. It has nothing to do with liking certain men. I like beautiful men of all ages. But I do in general have younger friends because I click with them. My older friends are boring. I’m boring too but not by choice. They have kids and just work and come home it’s so boring to hear about. I miss when we would go do fun shit like explore abandoned houses and go salsa dancing or have fun sleepovers. There’s nothing wrong with staying youthful. And I was never some pedo who likes kids or something, My therapist supports me in this as long as I’m happy and not being abused and everything.
I appreciate you wanting me to be well and happy. I truly mean that. Thank you ?
It is literally like provoking situations that she clearly can't handle.
Oh so you have compromised literally your entire life and she still expects you to move to wherever she wants to work?
Just list all the thing you have sacrificed for her so far. Tell her that for once you would like to sacrifice things in life for her. It was her idea to live! where you on-line, now she needs to deal with consequences. This should work nicely since she will not agree to this, which will give you convenient high ground in discussion.
muh boundaries
If she forbid him from breathing you would mindlessly support that too. Controlling behavior is bad, sorry.
Cool story
It sounds like a lot but these weren’t out to dinner and a movie dates. First dates were out for coffee or drinks. Second dates were dinner. 3rd date I took him to an air show so we spent a whole day together.
I dunno. I took quite a lot of time after my divorce to recover if you will and just do my own thing, recover financially, etc. When I decided I wanted to date again, I wanted to find someone who was a good fit and didn’t want to waste a ton of time talking to someone before meeting them if there wasn’t going to be any chemistry. I feel like you pretty much know in 10 min or less if it’s a yes or no.
For clarity: I'm using “empathy” in the sense of understanding another's emotions. You don't have the ability to completely understand her feelings in this specific instance because the female experience around these issues is vastly different. Just as women cannot truly empathize with a lot of issues that men face that are born out of our culture's ideas about masculinity. Because we lack the requisite experience to deeply comprehend complex feelings around manliness.
It wasn't an insult. Just a framing that explains why it's so much easier for you to understand the bf's perspective, while most of the women in this topic are obviously understanding OP's emotions in a more visceral way.
So you spend 2 days a month with her? How long have you been together?
I don't think video games are the issue here unless you're spending the 2 days you see her playing instead of spending time with her