Nobody who reads this would want you to be in this situation either. You sound like a hardworking and ambitious person and the last thing you need is some older slacker using up your time/money and dragging you down right at the time you need to be looking forward. You're not “stuck”, you've never even met this person. Be brave and end it.
worth the risk. if you don't tell anybody, this can end in something as bad as r@pe or murder. if he has done something serious enough to get him arrested(with proof), please tell somebody like a teacher or a counselor. and let them know that your mother does nothing to stop him.
It is one thing to ask your partner to dress up a bit for special occasions, but quite another to be insulting. However, it is pretty clear where he gets it from since his parents are also rude and have no issue being insulting.
And what the heck is his comment “anyone can do that”? What is he expecting from you?
Anyway, his rudeness is a good excuse for you to go out and spend some money on new clothes for yourself. And when he sees all of the money you spent on yourself, tell him you needed to do it to avoid looking shabby for him. Looking fancy costs money! 🙂
“And let’s be real. It’s the appearance of innocence they want.”
True….the perfect bride to most men would be June Cleaver from Leave it to Beaver in all outward public appearance, but Marilyn Chambers (the qorn star) in the bedroom.
You have the absolute right to say “no” to sex st any point for any reason. You do not owe your wife sex or explanation why you don't want it. Your wife is the problem in this situation.
You are right that we can’t know you, but I’d say that keeping thing clear from the beginning will help. If you want a relationship then only work on that and don’t “settle” for a friend.
LOL he just turned to Reddit and asked US to give him a magic app that tells him what his wife wants. But I guess it’s one little step above asking his wife to do it. What a hero.
So he is planning for you demise by having his family take over now, and expects you to just quietly fade away while his family phase in to your daughter's life.
Honestly, fuck him and his whole family. Don't just give your daughter away to a family that can treat another human being like this. At some point once the shock has died away, you will be able to see what a terrible betrayal this is and what awful people they are. Find your fight, get angry, push back on their little plan to dissove your life and absorb it.
Divorce is definitely my go to for this situation. He deserves nothing from you, he deserves to lose everything. Go find a life you enjoy and people who respect you.
If she can’t afford the membership and is locked in to a contract, she could try speaking to the manager to apply for a special circumstance.
it’s a her problem now, you’re under no obligation to smooth the way; she was the crazy cheater
Also: you could tell the manager of the circumstances when cancelling/blocking your card and that you’re concerned she’ll harass you at the gym. That way, if you happen to both be there and she makes a scene, you won’t be thrown under the bus “because you’re a man”. They’ll already be aware she’s nuts.
I agree that me thinking like this is unfair to him. In fairness, he has no financial problems, he works hot but he loves what he does and is extremely successful and regarding my son, we didn’t go through the same thing…I deal with that emotionally, he pays the bills.
Ya by his reaction i can only imagine the kind of father he will be! This is a breeder who wants to carry his name. He will probably make her do all the work and rage when she asks for help, because it’s her job. Like no way would I want kids with a guy who gets so vindictive imagine what he will say to a kid? Super emotional abuse vibes from this guy.
If you stay, he's going to do it again because he knows that he can lie and cheat, yet face no real consequences for it. He will just try harder to hide it next time.
I agree ! You need to come clean to your ex. Tell your fiancée yiu need her to do a polygraph test. Did she rape you? Was she really pregnant? Were you the father? Too many iffy questions here. Once you hv these, then talk to your ex. You may or may not get her back in relationship with you. But at least you know the real truth. Then deal on your engagement based on polygraph results.
You finish with talk of salvaging the relationship; what relationship?
If you’re tired now, just imagine how exhausted you’ll be in another 10 years. You’re only 38, you’ve got half your life to live, get out there and start doing it! You’ve got this!
Okay, so that's why you should get a job. Because so far in your life everything has been handled to you, and you have never had to earn anything yourself.
You need to have some sort of skill and a work history in case those investments go bad or the housing market turns. If you didn't have your parents money, how would you support yourself?
Okay, so that's why you should get a job. Because so far in your life everything has been handled to you, and you have never had to earn anything yourself.
You need to have some sort of skill and a work history in case those investments go bad or the housing market turns. If you didn't have your parents money, how would you support yourself?
Okay, so that's why you should get a job. Because so far in your life everything has been handled to you, and you have never had to earn anything yourself.
You need to have some sort of skill and a work history in case those investments go bad or the housing market turns. If you didn't have your parents money, how would you support yourself?
Ok
Nobody who reads this would want you to be in this situation either. You sound like a hardworking and ambitious person and the last thing you need is some older slacker using up your time/money and dragging you down right at the time you need to be looking forward. You're not “stuck”, you've never even met this person. Be brave and end it.
i just want to know how it really was
So you don't believe her?
Stop being ridiculous. This is a nonsensical waste of everyone's time.
Aha just drifted apart sometimes cos we live nowhere each other and have no mutual friends
worth the risk. if you don't tell anybody, this can end in something as bad as r@pe or murder. if he has done something serious enough to get him arrested(with proof), please tell somebody like a teacher or a counselor. and let them know that your mother does nothing to stop him.
Yeah apparently sapphires come in all colors and are very hot so they make for a good durable option! I didn’t know before either.
It is one thing to ask your partner to dress up a bit for special occasions, but quite another to be insulting. However, it is pretty clear where he gets it from since his parents are also rude and have no issue being insulting.
And what the heck is his comment “anyone can do that”? What is he expecting from you?
Anyway, his rudeness is a good excuse for you to go out and spend some money on new clothes for yourself. And when he sees all of the money you spent on yourself, tell him you needed to do it to avoid looking shabby for him. Looking fancy costs money! 🙂
“And let’s be real. It’s the appearance of innocence they want.”
True….the perfect bride to most men would be June Cleaver from Leave it to Beaver in all outward public appearance, but Marilyn Chambers (the qorn star) in the bedroom.
There are publicly funded facilities most places. Or depending on her income, she might qualify for Medicaid. Or you could help her get started.
You might be finding this person beautiful. And that’s it.
I find people of my gender pretty/beautiful at times, but that’s the extent of it. No feelings, no care for anything else
You have the absolute right to say “no” to sex st any point for any reason. You do not owe your wife sex or explanation why you don't want it. Your wife is the problem in this situation.
The sex better be astronomical because you are getting with one cheap bastard
If he can get in your pants he can put his hand in his pocket
You are right that we can’t know you, but I’d say that keeping thing clear from the beginning will help. If you want a relationship then only work on that and don’t “settle” for a friend.
That’s normal teenager angst imo
LOL he just turned to Reddit and asked US to give him a magic app that tells him what his wife wants. But I guess it’s one little step above asking his wife to do it. What a hero.
I would send the links to her family and friends and the betrayed wife.
I mean the wife at least deserves to know.
Have a heart man.
So he is planning for you demise by having his family take over now, and expects you to just quietly fade away while his family phase in to your daughter's life.
Honestly, fuck him and his whole family. Don't just give your daughter away to a family that can treat another human being like this. At some point once the shock has died away, you will be able to see what a terrible betrayal this is and what awful people they are. Find your fight, get angry, push back on their little plan to dissove your life and absorb it.
Divorce is definitely my go to for this situation. He deserves nothing from you, he deserves to lose everything. Go find a life you enjoy and people who respect you.
If she can’t afford the membership and is locked in to a contract, she could try speaking to the manager to apply for a special circumstance.
it’s a her problem now, you’re under no obligation to smooth the way; she was the crazy cheater
Also: you could tell the manager of the circumstances when cancelling/blocking your card and that you’re concerned she’ll harass you at the gym. That way, if you happen to both be there and she makes a scene, you won’t be thrown under the bus “because you’re a man”. They’ll already be aware she’s nuts.
You believe he's cheating based on what?
There’s ALWAYS more.
Get a lawyer. You don't even know if it's your kid.
I agree that me thinking like this is unfair to him. In fairness, he has no financial problems, he works hot but he loves what he does and is extremely successful and regarding my son, we didn’t go through the same thing…I deal with that emotionally, he pays the bills.
It was more like: “those accusations have to end now…where are those kids at?!”
Ya by his reaction i can only imagine the kind of father he will be! This is a breeder who wants to carry his name. He will probably make her do all the work and rage when she asks for help, because it’s her job. Like no way would I want kids with a guy who gets so vindictive imagine what he will say to a kid? Super emotional abuse vibes from this guy.
If you stay, he's going to do it again because he knows that he can lie and cheat, yet face no real consequences for it. He will just try harder to hide it next time.
I agree ! You need to come clean to your ex. Tell your fiancée yiu need her to do a polygraph test. Did she rape you? Was she really pregnant? Were you the father? Too many iffy questions here. Once you hv these, then talk to your ex. You may or may not get her back in relationship with you. But at least you know the real truth. Then deal on your engagement based on polygraph results.
Updateme!
You finish with talk of salvaging the relationship; what relationship?
If you’re tired now, just imagine how exhausted you’ll be in another 10 years. You’re only 38, you’ve got half your life to live, get out there and start doing it! You’ve got this!
Can you dm me please?
Okay, so that's why you should get a job. Because so far in your life everything has been handled to you, and you have never had to earn anything yourself.
You need to have some sort of skill and a work history in case those investments go bad or the housing market turns. If you didn't have your parents money, how would you support yourself?
Okay, so that's why you should get a job. Because so far in your life everything has been handled to you, and you have never had to earn anything yourself.
You need to have some sort of skill and a work history in case those investments go bad or the housing market turns. If you didn't have your parents money, how would you support yourself?
Okay, so that's why you should get a job. Because so far in your life everything has been handled to you, and you have never had to earn anything yourself.
You need to have some sort of skill and a work history in case those investments go bad or the housing market turns. If you didn't have your parents money, how would you support yourself?