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lia-jonnes chat
Date: November 16, 2022
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Yup. Glad to help.
This is a great answer. I didn’t consider the thought of not having a good dialog with each other so that’s a fantastic point. You also give some good reflection questions that I need to get answers to for myself.
I’ll work on how to have the conversation in a safe environment and have the discussion with her. Thanks for all of the thought and examples you put into your comment!
He is being abusive. Please seek help; it is so hard to recognize when you’re in the situation. It’s no surprise that your libido is low; he is killing it. I also wouldn’t be surprised if your mental health issues are because of him as well.
your relationship is not aromatic, it's automatic, it’s systematic, it’s hydromatic, why its greased lightning!!!!
He came for advice. Not to be told what to do. He needs to decide that entirely on his own after having others who are unbiased help him figure out his emotions
Who cares about what he spent the money on. He lied to get turned on by another woman while you’re homr pregnant!!!!!
You should go with yourself, your daughter and be single right now. Focus on your daughter and yourself. I would highly suggest counseling. Figure out why you are drawn to such men. Your current boyfriend was a red flag to start and should have never made it this far with you. You moved in to HELP him. A grown man who is not even the father of your child, nor your fiance. He hadn't earned that kind of treatment from you. You have a daughter you should be helping before anyone. That money would have been better spent on a future fund for her. You should NEVER be with someone who doesn't want anything to do with her. Now for your ex, I would never recommend moving for a man you aren't engaged/married to. No security there. Your ex just got out of a relationship. Yall should focus on co-parenting first. Both of you should heal from these last relationships. Neither of these relationships will go far with true happiness if you continue them at this moment. You have cheated on your boyfriend already and I didn't even need to dissect that to make a decision. Never, ever leave one person for another. It rarely goes well when you do. Leave them for what they have done and heal before moving on. When you are ok being alone, that's when you are truly ready to move on. Best of luck.
I know it sounds granular and pedantic, but some people hear “it has to do with” and think that means “it is in part because of this” rather than “this is the reason why”.
But perhaps brutal honesty and steadfastness is your only option from here on out until he decides to change.
Don't kiss him, don't cuddle him, refuse all of his advanced promptly and plainly, don't do anything that enables him. If he asks why you're acting this way, just tell him the honest truth. Remind him you lost the romantic spark because he chose not to uphold his responsibilities as an adult in your relationship.
Yet you’re making up a false narrative and claiming it’s reality just because you believe it. In spite of everything else people are saying.
Go test your reality with an open conversation or else you’ll sit there feeling all butthurt for no reason and intentionally provoke fights to validate it.