I became a single mother. The father of my child tried to unalive me when I caught him cheating and left him. You want to talk about mental illness and suffering? I worked full-time with no car having a brand new baby with no daycare. I found a remote job worked entirely from home walked to the store in the snow with the baby stroller and the baby bundled up all while trying to deal from PTSD and severe anxiety from almost being killed, and nobody was there to help me. I didn’t get any financial help. I didn’t get anybody taking the baby and giving me a break. I dealt with everything by myself so she can just throw that bullshit excuse out the window of not being able to work because she doesn’t have half the stress I have had in the last year. It’s a piss poor excuse just to fuck you over.
I got cheated on this year too man, so I feel you. I just hope you get out of this and come out on top.
Don't let somebody else trample over you like this. You gotta treat yourself better than that and hold yourself up to your own standards. If you don't do that, nobody will do it for you either.
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She may be having a cash flow problem and needs you to pick up the subway. Who knows she may be saving up to get you a nice Valentine's day gift or something and needs you to pick this one up.
The counsellor said they could understand my pov for wanting to have some space, and told my partner she needs to respect that decision. After the session my partner kept messaging me saying I still need to help her with things such as getting to places. She went down the route of saying if this is going to be a proper break i would kill myself as she can’t go through a proper break… I sent the counsellor emails about this. I’m going to keep my distance as best as I can’t
Dear Reddit, my [gf/bf/partner/ex] is always [verbally abusing/cheating on/choking] me. They [cut me off from all my friends and family/publicly humiliate me/poke holes in our condoms]. But please don’t tell me to leave them, because other than this one little thing, everything is [perfect/amazing].
Your gf should be happy you got a job interview that gives you a chance to get out of the job which mmakes you miserable. But instead she makes you more miserable with her me, me, me. And if you can't sleep at her place, why didn't she come to yours, you both had a few relaxing yours watching a movie and just cuddle? Not that it was bad that you wanted to be alone to get prepared.
A partner should support you and not make your life harder. Plans change. As long as you don't back out every time. She clearly has messed up priorities if shd thinks this fake holiday is more important than your happiness at work and future. And saying one time like “I'm really sad that we couldn't spend the day but i'm excited to catch up on it with you soon” but the guilt-tripping and manipulating so that you show up anyway, just no. And i can't believe this is tge first time she act like this when she doesn't get what she want.
You might have overreacted, but it may have been appropriate to tell her that you feel the same way when you meet a girl with huge boobs. Unfortunately, if your GF has huge boobs, this will not work.
And I want to be there for her every step. It just feels like I’m a worse boyfriend than no boyfriend you know? Like she choose to fuck around instead of be with me. People choose the best of their options right?
This girl needs to be put in her place and it’s not going to happen with you acting like this. Act like you don’t care and are not bothered in the slightest by her presence. Act very lovey dovey with your boyfriend in front of her so she knows who the boss is. She will soon run away from the torture.
Maybe she does feel that I’ll cheat on her (which I’ll never do.) but she hasn’t mentioned that directly.
Maybe.. just maybe.. she feels that way, because you said that you 100% understand why your friend cheated. Meaning that you've now effectively planted a seed of doubt in the back of your wife's mind.
“What if he doesn't feel like I'm good enough in bed, if I'm not there for him like he wants? Will he then cheat on me? He thought it was okay when his friend did it.”
I’m not on food stamps he only contributes if I ask for help and I don’t because I’m doing just fine without his help and I understand that I was incredibly stupid about the condom situation
Well having to play gatekeeper your whole marriage is not a great choice. If your SO wants to play games like that that's what you're signing up for. Your partner should be setting up and enforcing appropriate boundaries or you will always have to keep an eye on them. That's not what I'm looking for.
Well having to play gatekeeper your whole marriage is not a great choice. If your SO wants to play games like that that's what you're signing up for. Your partner should be setting up and enforcing appropriate boundaries or you will always have to keep an eye on them. That's not what I'm looking for.
It sounds like she's not ready for a relationship right now while you're pushing her towards that direction before she's ready. Maybe she'll never be ready, which you might need to accept and date other women in the meantime. After all she's probably talking to other men if you're not exclusive, that's just how it works and other reason she feels confused.
But if you enjoy spending time with her, do it as friends who also hook up and have great sex. Keep it fun and give her time to miss you and come back to you at her own pace and comfort level. But she's telling you in the clearest way possible that she is not going to be your girlfriend anytime soon.
I’d wait until you have facts on the table after Monday.
Then if she’s not pregnant, nothing to worry about.
And if she is, does she plan to keep the pregnancy? If not, nothing to worry about.
If she’s pregnant and wants to keep the pregnancy then you guys have to discuss what that looks like. Does she have insurance to cover her and baby? Can she afford to support herself as she is today or do you two need/want to move in together?
I would keep exploring other opportunities but if you have a GF and kid to support, the contract work may not be feasible IF you’re the primary earner.
Women need to understand that people are jerks and no matter what others say about your body or even what you think about it…..the TRUTH is that its just fine. Being you is absolutely ok. Start from there and grow as you deem appropriate.
We had a fight a few days ago because he posted a video of him dancing with a woman in a club on his Instagram story. I asked for a break up and he said I’m selfish and that I’m not thinking about our son’s future.
I know it’s so fucked. It’s because she just feels so violated and doesn’t want me to do it again. I said it looks so suspicious and if she was truly innocent then she would have no issues with me looking at her phone if I have a concern. But then she just says I’m a child when I say that. Sounds like she’s the child honestly.
Yes we can feel. But holding up is no good, optionally you could point your butt outside of the sheets 😉
I became a single mother. The father of my child tried to unalive me when I caught him cheating and left him. You want to talk about mental illness and suffering? I worked full-time with no car having a brand new baby with no daycare. I found a remote job worked entirely from home walked to the store in the snow with the baby stroller and the baby bundled up all while trying to deal from PTSD and severe anxiety from almost being killed, and nobody was there to help me. I didn’t get any financial help. I didn’t get anybody taking the baby and giving me a break. I dealt with everything by myself so she can just throw that bullshit excuse out the window of not being able to work because she doesn’t have half the stress I have had in the last year. It’s a piss poor excuse just to fuck you over.
I got cheated on this year too man, so I feel you. I just hope you get out of this and come out on top.
Don't let somebody else trample over you like this. You gotta treat yourself better than that and hold yourself up to your own standards. If you don't do that, nobody will do it for you either.
Good luck mate.
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Birth control is prescription drug that has a massive and sustained influence on your hormones.
Condoms take 10 seconds to put on and feel fine once you get used to wearing them.
I’d hold out. See if he’s the real deal.
Yup.
She may be having a cash flow problem and needs you to pick up the subway. Who knows she may be saving up to get you a nice Valentine's day gift or something and needs you to pick this one up.
If you ever do this again…. Don't talk to the subs.
He may have agreed to you posting nudes for money, but did he agree to flirting and sexting for money?
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The counsellor said they could understand my pov for wanting to have some space, and told my partner she needs to respect that decision. After the session my partner kept messaging me saying I still need to help her with things such as getting to places. She went down the route of saying if this is going to be a proper break i would kill myself as she can’t go through a proper break… I sent the counsellor emails about this. I’m going to keep my distance as best as I can’t
Because texting or using your phone while driving can get you killed, she was being protective but going about it in the wrong way.
Sounds like he has a kink. I think given you mentioned his mental health issues therapy is the right call for you two.
Oh good. Sounds like you broke up with her, good going!
Dear Reddit, my [gf/bf/partner/ex] is always [verbally abusing/cheating on/choking] me. They [cut me off from all my friends and family/publicly humiliate me/poke holes in our condoms]. But please don’t tell me to leave them, because other than this one little thing, everything is [perfect/amazing].
Your gf should be happy you got a job interview that gives you a chance to get out of the job which mmakes you miserable. But instead she makes you more miserable with her me, me, me. And if you can't sleep at her place, why didn't she come to yours, you both had a few relaxing yours watching a movie and just cuddle? Not that it was bad that you wanted to be alone to get prepared.
A partner should support you and not make your life harder. Plans change. As long as you don't back out every time. She clearly has messed up priorities if shd thinks this fake holiday is more important than your happiness at work and future. And saying one time like “I'm really sad that we couldn't spend the day but i'm excited to catch up on it with you soon” but the guilt-tripping and manipulating so that you show up anyway, just no. And i can't believe this is tge first time she act like this when she doesn't get what she want.
You might have overreacted, but it may have been appropriate to tell her that you feel the same way when you meet a girl with huge boobs. Unfortunately, if your GF has huge boobs, this will not work.
And I want to be there for her every step. It just feels like I’m a worse boyfriend than no boyfriend you know? Like she choose to fuck around instead of be with me. People choose the best of their options right?
You’re in a long term relationship and he’s buying a house solo. He doesn’t see you in his life for very long.
This girl needs to be put in her place and it’s not going to happen with you acting like this. Act like you don’t care and are not bothered in the slightest by her presence. Act very lovey dovey with your boyfriend in front of her so she knows who the boss is. She will soon run away from the torture.
Maybe she does feel that I’ll cheat on her (which I’ll never do.) but she hasn’t mentioned that directly.
Maybe.. just maybe.. she feels that way, because you said that you 100% understand why your friend cheated. Meaning that you've now effectively planted a seed of doubt in the back of your wife's mind.
“What if he doesn't feel like I'm good enough in bed, if I'm not there for him like he wants? Will he then cheat on me? He thought it was okay when his friend did it.”
her name is danica at first it was danny and now it’s icka
I’m not on food stamps he only contributes if I ask for help and I don’t because I’m doing just fine without his help and I understand that I was incredibly stupid about the condom situation
Well having to play gatekeeper your whole marriage is not a great choice. If your SO wants to play games like that that's what you're signing up for. Your partner should be setting up and enforcing appropriate boundaries or you will always have to keep an eye on them. That's not what I'm looking for.
Well having to play gatekeeper your whole marriage is not a great choice. If your SO wants to play games like that that's what you're signing up for. Your partner should be setting up and enforcing appropriate boundaries or you will always have to keep an eye on them. That's not what I'm looking for.
Not even trying to be funny but you guys have only been together for 7 months. You are still getting to know his true character.
It sounds like she's not ready for a relationship right now while you're pushing her towards that direction before she's ready. Maybe she'll never be ready, which you might need to accept and date other women in the meantime. After all she's probably talking to other men if you're not exclusive, that's just how it works and other reason she feels confused.
But if you enjoy spending time with her, do it as friends who also hook up and have great sex. Keep it fun and give her time to miss you and come back to you at her own pace and comfort level. But she's telling you in the clearest way possible that she is not going to be your girlfriend anytime soon.
I’d wait until you have facts on the table after Monday.
Then if she’s not pregnant, nothing to worry about.
And if she is, does she plan to keep the pregnancy? If not, nothing to worry about.
If she’s pregnant and wants to keep the pregnancy then you guys have to discuss what that looks like. Does she have insurance to cover her and baby? Can she afford to support herself as she is today or do you two need/want to move in together?
I would keep exploring other opportunities but if you have a GF and kid to support, the contract work may not be feasible IF you’re the primary earner.
Beat his ass! Just kidding…..
Women need to understand that people are jerks and no matter what others say about your body or even what you think about it…..the TRUTH is that its just fine. Being you is absolutely ok. Start from there and grow as you deem appropriate.
We had a fight a few days ago because he posted a video of him dancing with a woman in a club on his Instagram story. I asked for a break up and he said I’m selfish and that I’m not thinking about our son’s future.
I know it’s so fucked. It’s because she just feels so violated and doesn’t want me to do it again. I said it looks so suspicious and if she was truly innocent then she would have no issues with me looking at her phone if I have a concern. But then she just says I’m a child when I say that. Sounds like she’s the child honestly.
Same rules apply to EVERY situation. Not hard