He… broke up with you… because… you were happy… about getting a new guitar. He goes out of his way to ruin things for you any time you’re happy. What. The. Fuck?!
I would stay in this relationship exactly as long as it takes to say, “You are too selfish and jealous and toxic for me to stay with. Don’t even think about finding a new girlfriend until you’ve been in therapy for a few years. Good bye.”
I’ve seen this happen often. I know there are more people doing poly but we need to talk about the gremlin in the room. Unicorn / dragon hunting is harmful and it doesn’t get talked about enough.
Thank you. I reached out via email explaining the argument and detailing our roles. Initially I sent it to my cousin but after no response, I sent it to my aunt so she could pass it along to him. She told me they read it and he has no response to email. He has no explanation for what I wrote. She told me it’s not like him to act like this. She is going to talk to him again. My cousin feels ashamed of his role in the argument, but he won’t take accountability. It’s hot because his actions are causing tension within the family. I know he wants to resolve it but I don’t think knows how to do that. Also he lives overseas, which makes it difficult to resolve it in person.
“Hey friend, I like Amy but I miss seeing you one-on-one. I miss hanging out with just the guys, and it's tough to accommodate someone who doesn't drive, isn't willing to Uber, and always leaves early. It's not that we don't ever want her there, it's that we miss you. It's hot to hang out with just friends when it feels like a couple thing every time.”
If Amy's presence derails the plan, don't change the plan. It's a shame if she can't make it, but stop accommodating someone who won't take an Uber and can't get a ride. Does Amy have any other friends?
I mean… its not uncommon to know the person you just met could be seeing other people.
However, to be nonchalantly told “Sorry, I won't be available tonight because I have a date”… sort of comes off as an insult. No one wants to hear that information, especially who matched with you as a romantic interest. That is an instant drive killer.
Woman want to feel high on the totem pole, not at the bottom.
I can't even fathom how someone's mind can go “Yeah, cops are a gang that will harass you en masse for inconveniencing their morally corrupt members simply by shining light at their immorality. This is a group I staunchly support”
She your ex, you don't get to call dibs until the end of eternity. Why do you care?
I'm ao sorry about his friend. If he needs to cry it out, let him know that you'll be there for him.
He… broke up with you… because… you were happy… about getting a new guitar. He goes out of his way to ruin things for you any time you’re happy. What. The. Fuck?!
I would stay in this relationship exactly as long as it takes to say, “You are too selfish and jealous and toxic for me to stay with. Don’t even think about finding a new girlfriend until you’ve been in therapy for a few years. Good bye.”
Once is a mistake. Repeats are what they want to do. Have some self respect because he sure doesn't respect you.
Take half the money and spend it on fun with your daughter who you will now get to bond with alone for half the week or month or year.
Set an example in how you treat people to your daughter.
I’ve seen this happen often. I know there are more people doing poly but we need to talk about the gremlin in the room. Unicorn / dragon hunting is harmful and it doesn’t get talked about enough.
Thank you. I reached out via email explaining the argument and detailing our roles. Initially I sent it to my cousin but after no response, I sent it to my aunt so she could pass it along to him. She told me they read it and he has no response to email. He has no explanation for what I wrote. She told me it’s not like him to act like this. She is going to talk to him again. My cousin feels ashamed of his role in the argument, but he won’t take accountability. It’s hot because his actions are causing tension within the family. I know he wants to resolve it but I don’t think knows how to do that. Also he lives overseas, which makes it difficult to resolve it in person.
“Hey friend, I like Amy but I miss seeing you one-on-one. I miss hanging out with just the guys, and it's tough to accommodate someone who doesn't drive, isn't willing to Uber, and always leaves early. It's not that we don't ever want her there, it's that we miss you. It's hot to hang out with just friends when it feels like a couple thing every time.”
If Amy's presence derails the plan, don't change the plan. It's a shame if she can't make it, but stop accommodating someone who won't take an Uber and can't get a ride. Does Amy have any other friends?
I mean… its not uncommon to know the person you just met could be seeing other people.
However, to be nonchalantly told “Sorry, I won't be available tonight because I have a date”… sort of comes off as an insult. No one wants to hear that information, especially who matched with you as a romantic interest. That is an instant drive killer.
Woman want to feel high on the totem pole, not at the bottom.
I can't even fathom how someone's mind can go “Yeah, cops are a gang that will harass you en masse for inconveniencing their morally corrupt members simply by shining light at their immorality. This is a group I staunchly support”