So, ehh…. I dont know how to put this. Hes not ENTIRELY wrong. But he is mostly wrong. You really should deal with the fact you didnt go towards a career in food, but theres nothing wrong with cooking for people.
We all want validation of some sort, but if your main reason your doing this is some way to prove to yourself you are good enough for the dream you abandoned then I would say figure out how to cope with that.
I too abandoned a dream and I acctually hate talking about it because my reasons for doing it are long and complicated. So I know how that feels.
Just an anecdote about how lies ruin lives, a woman lied about being raped by a young African-American teenager. This was about 70 years ago. She said he whistled at her and cat called her. Don’t know where she got rape from that but anyway, this teenager was kidnapped from his bed, beaten to a pulp and thrown in a river to die. On her deathbed, she confesses that it never happened. Ruined so many lives over a lie! She only confessed cuz she was scared of going to hell.
I sincerely don’t think your wife is even sorry for what she did. She is afraid that by asking questions you would have figured it out or she told someone the truth and they were going to tell. Whatever it was, she didn’t tell you this now to try to work on things and cuz she’s sorry, she just figured it had been a long enough time and you would react the way you did… with all the positive things you could think of to not break up a 12 year marriage. She is calculated and chills me to the bone.
No she said it was too early for doctors appointments. The miscarriage happened when she was visiting her friend and when I got there she was already back home at her friends house from the hospital.
“All he’s been talking about is comments and reactions” OP I actually gasped when I read this. This man is awful. Please protect yourself and get out of this relationship.
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He didn't have any friends.
So, ehh…. I dont know how to put this. Hes not ENTIRELY wrong. But he is mostly wrong. You really should deal with the fact you didnt go towards a career in food, but theres nothing wrong with cooking for people.
We all want validation of some sort, but if your main reason your doing this is some way to prove to yourself you are good enough for the dream you abandoned then I would say figure out how to cope with that.
I too abandoned a dream and I acctually hate talking about it because my reasons for doing it are long and complicated. So I know how that feels.
Nothing you can do to help him be more mature. Move on. You've don't nothing wrong but you're in here asking how to make up for it.
Just an anecdote about how lies ruin lives, a woman lied about being raped by a young African-American teenager. This was about 70 years ago. She said he whistled at her and cat called her. Don’t know where she got rape from that but anyway, this teenager was kidnapped from his bed, beaten to a pulp and thrown in a river to die. On her deathbed, she confesses that it never happened. Ruined so many lives over a lie! She only confessed cuz she was scared of going to hell.
I sincerely don’t think your wife is even sorry for what she did. She is afraid that by asking questions you would have figured it out or she told someone the truth and they were going to tell. Whatever it was, she didn’t tell you this now to try to work on things and cuz she’s sorry, she just figured it had been a long enough time and you would react the way you did… with all the positive things you could think of to not break up a 12 year marriage. She is calculated and chills me to the bone.
Break up with her. It's not even a question.
No, that’s not SA. How did you make that connection. She was clearly not pleasuring herself…
No she said it was too early for doctors appointments. The miscarriage happened when she was visiting her friend and when I got there she was already back home at her friends house from the hospital.
“All he’s been talking about is comments and reactions” OP I actually gasped when I read this. This man is awful. Please protect yourself and get out of this relationship.