They're rich and want to keep it on the low. THAT IS ALLOWED! You are over stepping on his boundary, he's asked you to not tag you in those type of posts and yet you still do.
Sounds to me like your husband has big trust issues. Not sure why you went ahead and married this guy after reading your post from a year ago.
I was with a man for almost 2 years that was extremely controlling like this. At the time, I had a license but no car. He cut me off from all my friends and family, basically isolated me at home even though he could go out to the bar by himself every weekend, I was not allowed to go.
Things started getting physically abusive pretty quickly, I’m talking hospital, stitches and broken bones he did to me. Needless to say I was eventually able to get away from him because he did something awful that landed him in jail. That was my chance and I took it, moving from the NorthEast to the South in the US.
I honestly hope you are NOT pregnant because this guy does not seem right for you. Someone who loves you, will want you to be happy. They will compromise just to see you happy. Sounds to me like your husband wants you locked up like some innate object, like you are a possession not a person. Good luck to you and I pray you are able to figure this out on your own.
people in healthy relationships voice CONCERN, not criticism. and he's not even criticizing you, really, he's just blatantly insulting you.
in a healthy relationship, you don't say, “wow, you look terrible today.” you say, “you look really tired today, did you sleep okay?”
in a healthy relationship, you don't say, “wow you're getting fat,” you say, “i've noticed you seen to be having more self esteem issues lately. how can i help?”
you aren't in a healthy relationship. he is insulting you and intentionally hurting your feelings. he either needs to drastically improve his communication skills, or you need to leave this relationship. no one deserves to be put down by the person that's supposed to love them wholly and completely.
I know these plans were established prior to the two of you even talking.
However, you two are in an exclusive relationship now, right?
I think its insanely inappropriate for her to go on a trip as the 'date' with a guy, who:
She knows likes her Potentially sharing the same bed.
The fact that there seems to be no consideration for your side on this matter, would be a deal breaker for me.
This:
She already said she would hate to back out this late of a notice.
Shouldn't even be a conversation. The moment the relationship was established, she could have changed her plans. And now its coming off like “Opp's, I can't back out now, shucks”… its because she wants to go.
Sorry, but I have higher standards for my relationship than this, and I am pretty dam easy-going for a lot of things. But my gf would not be attending a frat party as the +1 for a dude that likes her over a weekend trip.
Welcome to the reality of relationship. Go meet the family. Talk to your girlfriend in advance about whether she would prefer you defend her or bite your tongue if stuff comes up.
i would just grab a coffee and sit and wait, but i know that when someone does that to me it feels awkward to wait in line alone while they’re waiting for you, and i know them well enough to know they would feel the same
Of he was 18 when they met and she was 21 it's really not a big deal. It's very normal.
ah now you know why he wasn't so eager to take you to visit his parents.
make a happy life together without them.
Also, regardless of any of that, I don't think her disappearing for 3 days and not even saying she's safe is disrespectful as a partner.
They're rich and want to keep it on the low. THAT IS ALLOWED! You are over stepping on his boundary, he's asked you to not tag you in those type of posts and yet you still do.
He's not controlling
Sounds to me like your husband has big trust issues. Not sure why you went ahead and married this guy after reading your post from a year ago.
I was with a man for almost 2 years that was extremely controlling like this. At the time, I had a license but no car. He cut me off from all my friends and family, basically isolated me at home even though he could go out to the bar by himself every weekend, I was not allowed to go.
Things started getting physically abusive pretty quickly, I’m talking hospital, stitches and broken bones he did to me. Needless to say I was eventually able to get away from him because he did something awful that landed him in jail. That was my chance and I took it, moving from the NorthEast to the South in the US.
I honestly hope you are NOT pregnant because this guy does not seem right for you. Someone who loves you, will want you to be happy. They will compromise just to see you happy. Sounds to me like your husband wants you locked up like some innate object, like you are a possession not a person. Good luck to you and I pray you are able to figure this out on your own.
people in healthy relationships voice CONCERN, not criticism. and he's not even criticizing you, really, he's just blatantly insulting you.
in a healthy relationship, you don't say, “wow, you look terrible today.” you say, “you look really tired today, did you sleep okay?”
in a healthy relationship, you don't say, “wow you're getting fat,” you say, “i've noticed you seen to be having more self esteem issues lately. how can i help?”
you aren't in a healthy relationship. he is insulting you and intentionally hurting your feelings. he either needs to drastically improve his communication skills, or you need to leave this relationship. no one deserves to be put down by the person that's supposed to love them wholly and completely.
Ah, so this is about your anger at gold stars. Well, that explains it.
I know these plans were established prior to the two of you even talking.
However, you two are in an exclusive relationship now, right?
I think its insanely inappropriate for her to go on a trip as the 'date' with a guy, who:
She knows likes her Potentially sharing the same bed.
The fact that there seems to be no consideration for your side on this matter, would be a deal breaker for me.
This:
She already said she would hate to back out this late of a notice.
Shouldn't even be a conversation. The moment the relationship was established, she could have changed her plans. And now its coming off like “Opp's, I can't back out now, shucks”… its because she wants to go.
Sorry, but I have higher standards for my relationship than this, and I am pretty dam easy-going for a lot of things. But my gf would not be attending a frat party as the +1 for a dude that likes her over a weekend trip.
Welcome to the reality of relationship. Go meet the family. Talk to your girlfriend in advance about whether she would prefer you defend her or bite your tongue if stuff comes up.
i would just grab a coffee and sit and wait, but i know that when someone does that to me it feels awkward to wait in line alone while they’re waiting for you, and i know them well enough to know they would feel the same
Your husband is a pedophile. You need to file a police report immediately.