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I don't mind having a talk with her, as stated I told her that she can call me anytime if she feels the need to just that I don't want to continue this toxic friendship that requires me to spend most of my time on the phone with her, paying for everything and doing thousands of kms per month. When I say require is because when I don't comply with her demands she basically gets mad and say that I don't care about her.
Honest to god, you're getting a ton of deserved hate, but he needs to gain some self-respect, too. I mean a 17-year relationship, and he has feelings for her? He needs to be separated from her to decide if he actually likes her as a friend or is “Friendzoned” and she keeps him around to boost her confidence. If it's the latter, treat him right and he will worship the ground you walk on.
I honestly hate saying casual shit on here while giving genuine advice, but in this situation, I have to really say, dude, are you fucking serious right now?
Even if we ignored the second half (we won’t), from the title I was expecting that you just found out after a year that you contracted the STI. I was happy to see that this wasn’t the case, so I wanted to remove cheating as an issue.
You started dating a year ago. You got this a year ago. You haven’t been sexually active with anyone else. You logically know she gave it to you. On its own, that’d be fine (for lack of a better term). It sucks but it happens and I’d have assumed she didn’t realize it.
But then she just denies it. Unless you’re lying to us, she gave it to you. That’s the end of it. You’re here talking about how she’s calling your bluff. There’s no fucking bluff. You don’t need her to admit it. That she’s lying to you is a huge problem.
Are there logical fallacies or frameworks to prove it to her? The proof is that you literally know. You don’t need some sort of smoking gun. She’ll continue to deny it. It’s honestly crazy, because I wouldn’t be assuming cheating.
Despite that, I have to tell you that I have absolutely no clue why you need to know who she got it from. That’s weird, unnecessary, and tells you nothing of value. Oddly enough, at the end you sneak in that she gave you an answer. Why do you believe it’s “too long.” If she had it, she had it.
After that, maybe she’s cheating on you. Or maybe you’re crazy because you’re losing your shit over looks.
youre 22- theres plenty of time for you to have kids in the future if you want them, but being worried your bf’s feelings are hurt is not a good reason to keep the baby. he has told you he’s ok with the abortion which means hes ok with it, even if hes sad about it, which is honestly really mature and he sounds like a great partner. you do too by thinking about his feelings like this, but at the end of the day youre the only one who will have to be pregnant for 9-10 months, so you should only go thru with that if youre doing it because youre ready to be a parent and excited to have the baby. your gut reaction was abortion-was that just because you thought its what your bf wanted or did you assume its what you both wanted. if there wasnt any doubt before there shouldnt be now. just make sure once youre physically recovered from the abortion that you support him emotionally as he’s doing for you. if you want kids some day just not now, tell him that. make sure he knows its ok to be sad at the thought of not following thru w a pregnancy rn even tho its the right choice, that youre looking forward to kids in the future (if thats true) but right now youre not ready.
He just says he’s not in the mood and when I try and ask what’s going on or what’s making him not feel in the mood compared to 3 months ago he just gets angry and says he doesn’t know and that I shouldn’t just care about sex. That’s not the case but he’s not a very loving or cuddly individual so sex has always been how we share emotional intimacy.
You should tell him straight out you will never change sexually including you will never give him a blowjob. It's better he thinks hot and ends it now than for him to have some fantasy in his head that will never realize. I'm not saying you lead him on, but he may still harbor fantasies about you opening up sexually.
I got HPV from an asshole when I was 18. I went and got a Pap smear early to check if I had one of the cancer strains. Thankfully I didn’t. So always get Pap smears and check. Why they don’t test and vaccinate men is beyond me…
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I keep the silica gel packs with my camera equipment, in the book shelf and also with my carbon steel knives.
You can renew older silica gel packs by keeping them in direct sun to dry them out and reuse them.
You like ass breath.?♀️? I didn’t know it was hot to brush your teeth lmao!!!
I don't mind having a talk with her, as stated I told her that she can call me anytime if she feels the need to just that I don't want to continue this toxic friendship that requires me to spend most of my time on the phone with her, paying for everything and doing thousands of kms per month. When I say require is because when I don't comply with her demands she basically gets mad and say that I don't care about her.
Honest to god, you're getting a ton of deserved hate, but he needs to gain some self-respect, too. I mean a 17-year relationship, and he has feelings for her? He needs to be separated from her to decide if he actually likes her as a friend or is “Friendzoned” and she keeps him around to boost her confidence. If it's the latter, treat him right and he will worship the ground you walk on.
I honestly hate saying casual shit on here while giving genuine advice, but in this situation, I have to really say, dude, are you fucking serious right now?
Even if we ignored the second half (we won’t), from the title I was expecting that you just found out after a year that you contracted the STI. I was happy to see that this wasn’t the case, so I wanted to remove cheating as an issue.
You started dating a year ago. You got this a year ago. You haven’t been sexually active with anyone else. You logically know she gave it to you. On its own, that’d be fine (for lack of a better term). It sucks but it happens and I’d have assumed she didn’t realize it.
But then she just denies it. Unless you’re lying to us, she gave it to you. That’s the end of it. You’re here talking about how she’s calling your bluff. There’s no fucking bluff. You don’t need her to admit it. That she’s lying to you is a huge problem.
Are there logical fallacies or frameworks to prove it to her? The proof is that you literally know. You don’t need some sort of smoking gun. She’ll continue to deny it. It’s honestly crazy, because I wouldn’t be assuming cheating.
Despite that, I have to tell you that I have absolutely no clue why you need to know who she got it from. That’s weird, unnecessary, and tells you nothing of value. Oddly enough, at the end you sneak in that she gave you an answer. Why do you believe it’s “too long.” If she had it, she had it.
After that, maybe she’s cheating on you. Or maybe you’re crazy because you’re losing your shit over looks.
youre 22- theres plenty of time for you to have kids in the future if you want them, but being worried your bf’s feelings are hurt is not a good reason to keep the baby. he has told you he’s ok with the abortion which means hes ok with it, even if hes sad about it, which is honestly really mature and he sounds like a great partner. you do too by thinking about his feelings like this, but at the end of the day youre the only one who will have to be pregnant for 9-10 months, so you should only go thru with that if youre doing it because youre ready to be a parent and excited to have the baby. your gut reaction was abortion-was that just because you thought its what your bf wanted or did you assume its what you both wanted. if there wasnt any doubt before there shouldnt be now. just make sure once youre physically recovered from the abortion that you support him emotionally as he’s doing for you. if you want kids some day just not now, tell him that. make sure he knows its ok to be sad at the thought of not following thru w a pregnancy rn even tho its the right choice, that youre looking forward to kids in the future (if thats true) but right now youre not ready.
He just says he’s not in the mood and when I try and ask what’s going on or what’s making him not feel in the mood compared to 3 months ago he just gets angry and says he doesn’t know and that I shouldn’t just care about sex. That’s not the case but he’s not a very loving or cuddly individual so sex has always been how we share emotional intimacy.
You should tell him straight out you will never change sexually including you will never give him a blowjob. It's better he thinks hot and ends it now than for him to have some fantasy in his head that will never realize. I'm not saying you lead him on, but he may still harbor fantasies about you opening up sexually.
I got HPV from an asshole when I was 18. I went and got a Pap smear early to check if I had one of the cancer strains. Thankfully I didn’t. So always get Pap smears and check. Why they don’t test and vaccinate men is beyond me…