You can not be proper friends, until you have accepted the brealup. If its only been a month, you may need more space and time of NC before you can try to be friends.
I saw a notification on his phone and saw that he was talking to some unknown number to call for a ****er.
Curious what the message was that let's you reach the conclusion that he is paying for sex?
Why not table any discussion about moving until her job situation is finished. If she's going to be in a hybrid office/ home position then you can discuss possibly moving out of the neighborhood you're in for something quieter or roomier but still within the same general area. If you will both be fully remote for your jobs then talk about taking working vacations to places that have what you're both looking for. For example if you're in California then look at the central coast area between SLO and Santa Barbara. Even weekend trips might help you both get a feel for different areas. When an area feels right start making multiple trips there and really get to know it. Ask her where she sees you raising your kids together and what kind of place she'd like to call home in 5 years. But for now just breathe and know that there will be a change in where you live. It just won't be immediately.
If you need to have your feelings validated and actualized, tell her.
If you want these people to stay in your life, don't say a fucking word.
I would look into the concept of limerance and whether that may be a situation in play – infatuation, not love, basically. If you like the way things are now, swallow your feelings, digest them, and know that there is nothing to be gained of sharing them.
Alternatively, if you are in such a rock and hot place scenario, then I'd find different roomies on principle, just for peace in my own living space.
Some ongoing family drama and personal mental health issues. We both are attending therapy and have long before seeing each other. I definitely get that this can put a strain on libido.
I would be taking my products out of the shower lol
You can not be proper friends, until you have accepted the brealup. If its only been a month, you may need more space and time of NC before you can try to be friends.
I saw a notification on his phone and saw that he was talking to some unknown number to call for a ****er.
Curious what the message was that let's you reach the conclusion that he is paying for sex?
Why not table any discussion about moving until her job situation is finished. If she's going to be in a hybrid office/ home position then you can discuss possibly moving out of the neighborhood you're in for something quieter or roomier but still within the same general area. If you will both be fully remote for your jobs then talk about taking working vacations to places that have what you're both looking for. For example if you're in California then look at the central coast area between SLO and Santa Barbara. Even weekend trips might help you both get a feel for different areas. When an area feels right start making multiple trips there and really get to know it. Ask her where she sees you raising your kids together and what kind of place she'd like to call home in 5 years. But for now just breathe and know that there will be a change in where you live. It just won't be immediately.
Brother or cousin?
If you need to have your feelings validated and actualized, tell her.
If you want these people to stay in your life, don't say a fucking word.
I would look into the concept of limerance and whether that may be a situation in play – infatuation, not love, basically. If you like the way things are now, swallow your feelings, digest them, and know that there is nothing to be gained of sharing them.
Alternatively, if you are in such a rock and hot place scenario, then I'd find different roomies on principle, just for peace in my own living space.
Some ongoing family drama and personal mental health issues. We both are attending therapy and have long before seeing each other. I definitely get that this can put a strain on libido.
It’s 5K. You could try working harder or getting a second job.