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2 insta :rouse_ammy , ♥ isacardenas1485, 25 y.o.
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Date: November 10, 2022
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It doesn't sound like double standards. If her experience is that it's normal to hook up with friends regularly, of course she's expecting the same from you. Your experience is the opposite so of course you don't mind her hanging out with her friends without you.
So it's just a difference in values / POV – I don't think you can talk that out, at best someone is going to be suppressing and getting frustrated.
I'm polyamorous. But my view of it is that relationships are commitments, long-term things, and it takes time to develop a relationship to the point where it could become romantic. My partners, and their partners, share this idea. Not all polyamorous people take this approach — some view casual dating with sex as an important part of it — but it shows that not all poly people define it the same way.
It sounds like your husband in more in-line with my approach. You have a successful relationship. But you might still develop friendships with others. Some of those could be romantic, if you let them get that far; but that's a choice you make. If your current (and only) partner is monogamous, you have the choice of sticking to that.
The way my wife and I think about it is this: You already have multiple loving relationships with people: Probably your parents, any children, your spouse, your best friend, maybe some other relatives with whom you are close. The degree of physical intimacy is independent of love. Consider that you might have a hugging relationship with your kids, but your parents — though they love you — just aren't huggy people. Love is not sex.
If you have a loving relationship, you can choose to add physical intimacy to it, in a way that's appropriate. But you don't have to; some people just don't accept it, others would be confused, and so on.
Having multiple sexual relationships doesn't have to be the goal of being polyamorous. It sounds like your husband's approach to it isn't that he needs some minimum number of partners to feel satisfied in some way; he sounds perfectly happy to have just you in his life. That he isn't bringing this up is an excellent sign.
But what's worrying you is that your husband might be sacrificing something for you. I would suggest that this isn't the case. He is choosing to avoid complicating your life, to make you deal with sometimes strong-and-difficult emotions, all for his benefit. He is being considerate of your feelings.
If he brought this up early on, he was trying to avoid surprising you with this (some people are really bad at being so up-front like this). He knows what matters to you, and was willing to accept a life that works for you. He knew what he was getting into, and he could have chosen a different path if he felt he'd miss out on something.
He chose you. He isn't sacrificing anything. While he might feel capable of having a strong relationship with someone else as well, he doesn't feel the need for additional relationships. He is showing you, by his actions (and his lack of bringing this up to you) that you matter to him, and he cares about how you feel.
I'm trying to think if there's a stronger way to convey that you are not holding him back. Your husband isn't lacking anything; he doesn't need the variety of additional partners. He believes he has the capacity for additional partners, but they aren't a requirement.
Let me try one more thing, which I've indirectly said: Love is not a feeling, love is a choice. When you love someone, you choose to behave in a way so that someone feels loved by you. This doesn't mean you put their happiness before yours, or make yourself second class in some fashion; it just means that you convey to them that you respect them, value them, want them to feel safe in the relationship, and so on.
Love is a course of action you take, not an emotion you passively feel.
From what you've said, your husband loves you. He knows how you feel, and he has no problem being with you. He doesn't feel that he's missing anything.
Does this help?
I do think when we interacted it was very smooth. we both had fun when we talked to each other. At least I know I did. I think I might have rushed it by asking her too soon about going out. maybe it would have helped to keep it mysterious or show a bit of toss and release technique. I thought since we got to know each other it would have been easier to ask her out for some drinks but i guess i overplayed my cards too soon.
“Not attracted to a high ponytail” DOES NOT EQUAL “Treat girlfriend like shit.”
He needs to learn to use his damn big boy words instead of stomping around like a toddler having a tantrum over losing their favorite blankie.
You should worry about dating someone so immature that he can't treat you like an actual human being when he doesn't like your hairstyle.
If it was an accident why didn't he delete it immediately? Why wait until he got home? If you were receiving so much interaction, imagine the likes, comments, and messages he got. He knew it was up and chose to leave it up until you were there to force him to delete it
I'm so sorry this is happening to you and I hope your healing goes well