No coworkers message eachother 8k times and it’s just platonic or business.. He’s lying. Either he cuts her out or you leave. Why would u marry someone knowing them for a few mths? Why would u be in an open relationship newly married. Girl, if you were my daughter, I would strongly advise you to leave this man and to go to therapy.
Explain how that would make you feel. Your feelings are always valid. It's up to your partner to determine whether they want to avoid making you feel that way or not.
I’ve mentioned to my partner that I’m not happy in our marriage and I feel like I’m gaslighted by “you made a promise in front of god, you made vows to me, you can’t leave.” He has told me I need medication before and that will fix my depression. He has also threatened to harm himself if I leave. I feel smothered I feel like I’m stuck in my job. Like my family would never talk to me if I left.
OP, my advice would be to figure out what you would want to do for work if you had your own way. Look at every profession that seems even remotely interesting to you, and don't leave out trades (car mechanic, electrician, construction). then figure out how you can get to that profession, would you need to go to school, etc. Then start working to get to that profession AND/OR figure out if you can be financially independent from your family/husband. and once you figure that out, flee. It sounds like you've been raised in a pretty traditional/restrictive religion, and of course you're miserable, women are just possessions in most of those.
And do NOT worry about your husband. If he self-harms, he self-harms, that's not your problem or your responsibility.
You're so determined to prove your wrong point, you're ignoring that OP's boyfriend was loopy as a bowl of cereal following EMERGENCY DENTAL SURGERY. Which is not the same thing as minor surgery. I take it your ex cheated on you and it got pretty bad, because that's the only way I can see you going down this path and calling it “logical”.
She loves attention more than she loves you. This would be dealbreaker territory for me. I know it’s cliche for the subreddit to recommend breakups, but if you’re not going to love your partner, why have them?
Even if I had a worse day than a partner, I would still take care of them, it’s not a competition, it’s about taking care of your partner.
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Meh, it's not extremely out there as far as fantasies go.
There are a whole lot of sexual activities that I will dirty talk to my partner about in the moment, that neither of us would actually follow through with. The fantasy and dirty talk about it are enough. I wouldn't be too concerned about it at this point.
Maybe you both have different ideas on what your relationship is ? It sounds like he thinks your pushing for more seriousness and commitment that he’s not ready for
Too slowly in my opinion. I may be biased as a I did walk outside once and catch a girl punching and kicking my son as he was ducking in the street. He didn’t fight back at all and was taking this… I will never forget it and wonder, if I hadn’t come outside, would I have ever known.
Let them come and take you out to dinner after the wedding. They are all paying for themselves and meeting you there. You’re still eloping. Almost nothing changes except for the people in the lobby that actually know you and care about you.
It’s interesting. Even though you’re poly, does that mean you have to date someone who is in a rocky marriage on the verge of dissolution? Whether you’re the reason or not, you didn’t avoid being the reason. But you could have. And you didn’t.
No coworkers message eachother 8k times and it’s just platonic or business.. He’s lying. Either he cuts her out or you leave. Why would u marry someone knowing them for a few mths? Why would u be in an open relationship newly married. Girl, if you were my daughter, I would strongly advise you to leave this man and to go to therapy.
Updateme!
Nope. The vast majority of men never act on the sexual attraction they have on their friends, work colleagues, or strangers they meet.
Explain how that would make you feel. Your feelings are always valid. It's up to your partner to determine whether they want to avoid making you feel that way or not.
I’ve mentioned to my partner that I’m not happy in our marriage and I feel like I’m gaslighted by “you made a promise in front of god, you made vows to me, you can’t leave.” He has told me I need medication before and that will fix my depression. He has also threatened to harm himself if I leave. I feel smothered I feel like I’m stuck in my job. Like my family would never talk to me if I left.
OP, my advice would be to figure out what you would want to do for work if you had your own way. Look at every profession that seems even remotely interesting to you, and don't leave out trades (car mechanic, electrician, construction). then figure out how you can get to that profession, would you need to go to school, etc. Then start working to get to that profession AND/OR figure out if you can be financially independent from your family/husband. and once you figure that out, flee. It sounds like you've been raised in a pretty traditional/restrictive religion, and of course you're miserable, women are just possessions in most of those.
And do NOT worry about your husband. If he self-harms, he self-harms, that's not your problem or your responsibility.
You're so determined to prove your wrong point, you're ignoring that OP's boyfriend was loopy as a bowl of cereal following EMERGENCY DENTAL SURGERY. Which is not the same thing as minor surgery. I take it your ex cheated on you and it got pretty bad, because that's the only way I can see you going down this path and calling it “logical”.
She loves attention more than she loves you. This would be dealbreaker territory for me. I know it’s cliche for the subreddit to recommend breakups, but if you’re not going to love your partner, why have them?
Even if I had a worse day than a partner, I would still take care of them, it’s not a competition, it’s about taking care of your partner.
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I've had me and all my friends/cousins take that, and it still baffles me that people can score under 100. I think the average score for us was between 140-160
Yeah once that ring was on her true self came out. Poor guy should have seen it coming. Now he's letting her ruin his child's childhood.
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No sorry, it's on Reddit she must have been groomed.
He sounds like a his conning you.
Huge red flag wow
Meh, it's not extremely out there as far as fantasies go.
There are a whole lot of sexual activities that I will dirty talk to my partner about in the moment, that neither of us would actually follow through with. The fantasy and dirty talk about it are enough. I wouldn't be too concerned about it at this point.
Maybe you both have different ideas on what your relationship is ? It sounds like he thinks your pushing for more seriousness and commitment that he’s not ready for
Too slowly in my opinion. I may be biased as a I did walk outside once and catch a girl punching and kicking my son as he was ducking in the street. He didn’t fight back at all and was taking this… I will never forget it and wonder, if I hadn’t come outside, would I have ever known.
Well at least you’re being honest with your thoughts. Today was such a nice day too before this happened.
Let them come and take you out to dinner after the wedding. They are all paying for themselves and meeting you there. You’re still eloping. Almost nothing changes except for the people in the lobby that actually know you and care about you.
“hello handsome alternative males, do you have any of the devil's lettuce on you?”
Get rid of him, honestly. He aint gonna stop and youre wasting your precious time on him.
It’s interesting. Even though you’re poly, does that mean you have to date someone who is in a rocky marriage on the verge of dissolution? Whether you’re the reason or not, you didn’t avoid being the reason. But you could have. And you didn’t.
Are u serious? Your poor ‘friend’
People can make their own vows and discuss and change them if they like.