When you’ve talked about using BC in the past and he said he’d want to stop using condoms, was he stating a preference or a (presumed) hot rule? Because hiding that you’re on BC implies that you are afraid of his response if he finds out you are on it.
I’m just curious if you’re afraid of – ahem – forced unprotected intercourse – cough cough – or if you’re afraid of withheld intercourse.
To be clear: both would be abusive and one would be criminal.
Or the final option: have you just not talked through it enough to know if he would be supportive of your feelings despite his preference?
Your post is exactly how I've felt about this situation. It also doesn't help that her mom said “if you trust her” I feel like that was extremely inappropriate.
Not really relevant then, is it?
So you want to add another uncomfortable thing to her list of problems with trying to dictate when she showers?
She needs therapy and a partner who is not as controlling as you.
I think more details are needed here.
When you’ve talked about using BC in the past and he said he’d want to stop using condoms, was he stating a preference or a (presumed) hot rule? Because hiding that you’re on BC implies that you are afraid of his response if he finds out you are on it.
I’m just curious if you’re afraid of – ahem – forced unprotected intercourse – cough cough – or if you’re afraid of withheld intercourse.
To be clear: both would be abusive and one would be criminal.
Or the final option: have you just not talked through it enough to know if he would be supportive of your feelings despite his preference?
If you do not want to get the advice of people in real life who know both of you that's already a red flag IMO.
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Your post is exactly how I've felt about this situation. It also doesn't help that her mom said “if you trust her” I feel like that was extremely inappropriate.