I think you are underestimating how much 9 months of relentless emotional abuse can hurt someone. She suffered too, of course she did. But she had a support system. OP didn't.
And while they survived, their marriage almost didn't. That's the question at stake for round 2.
She went away for a weekend. You’re texting her twice a day and want to have phone calls on top of that. She gave you answers so there is no “radio silence”. If you know she’s going to these getaways to decompress, why are you all over this trip?
The message you’re proposing in the last paragraph would enrage me. She’s been in touch.
Do you know what’s driving your anxiety? Are you concerned that she’s not texting because she’s hurt? Too drunk? In danger? Entertaining a gentleman caller?
Wth OP's history is all about her “boyfriend” fr this is toxic codependency, her family told her to stay with them but she doesn't want to…
What makes you think this is the first time she’s gotten in a car with a random dude?
I think you are underestimating how much 9 months of relentless emotional abuse can hurt someone. She suffered too, of course she did. But she had a support system. OP didn't.
And while they survived, their marriage almost didn't. That's the question at stake for round 2.
She went away for a weekend. You’re texting her twice a day and want to have phone calls on top of that. She gave you answers so there is no “radio silence”. If you know she’s going to these getaways to decompress, why are you all over this trip?
The message you’re proposing in the last paragraph would enrage me. She’s been in touch.
Do you know what’s driving your anxiety? Are you concerned that she’s not texting because she’s hurt? Too drunk? In danger? Entertaining a gentleman caller?