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It’s not “homophobic” to think being pegged is gay, it’s just misinformed. People throw that word around for everything.
Yes, you can. And her rationale makes sense to almost everyone here. You aren’t entitled to anything here.
The reality: If you want to rebuild relationships with your surviving kids, start therapy. Revisit the choices you made, why, and the impacts on your son. Revisit why you think it is ok to just show up and force yourself back into their life. Then acquire some tools about rebuilding trust. Absent a large change in you, there is unlikely to be any reconciliation. You can be righteous in your own mind. But others aren’t obligated to agree.
If he was able to hide it for that long he will do it again once a cheater always a cheater.its a personality disorder and he will always be trash.
Why are they unreasonable boundaries?
I don’t think people realize that people can have addictions to pornography. It sounds like OP has an addiction he is trying to break and that is why he and his gf’s emotions are so heightened about it. You can’t just tell an addict to stop and expect them to follow through, if that were the case then no one I the world would have an addiction.
I can understand how you feel. You will definitely find someone who values you and accepts you just the way you are.
I am ashamed to say this but, I have been that guy, and she had two miscarriages with me who I thought was “The One”. I have realized my mistakes and I regret my actions very much. I lost my 7 years of marriage and my girlfriend. So karma takes care of things eventually, without you having to do much.
Good luck to you. You got this. It's gonna pass.
Dude I’m asking here if it is worth it from others experiences to help him get over it. Relationships aren’t as easy as that unfortunately.
The truth is that some people would appreciate an apology, but for others, hearing from you again would reopen wounds and trigger them again. You never know how the other will react.
So please think about why you want to apologize. Do you just want to do it to feel less guilty about the whole matter? Then this would be a very selfish thing to do; to want to feel better at the cost of possibly reopening old wounds is not good. Instead, if you feel guilty, you should look into therapy and dealing with your feelings without involving your former victims.
It's not an adult job to talk about private problems with random people around.
I think you should leave
you look for someone with less problems
Why should you trust him? What exactly has your husband done to earn back the trust that he lost only a month ago? He stopped texting? He limited contact to work hours only?
I get that he’s in a tough spot as far as being able to completely cut contact, but he did this to himself. He chose to shit where he eats. Now, he’s got a mess to clean up. The only way he can truly fix this is to completely remove himself from the situation. He needs to find a new job. Once he does this, he needs to learn from his mistakes and not be friends with his colleagues. It’s ok to be friendly with people in the office, but he should keep those relationships to a minimum and leave work at work. He should be able to draw the line between work and home.
If your husband is truly committed to your relationship, then he needs to prove that through his actions. He can’t just say, “Sorry, I’ll stop texting her and not talk to her outside of work or in front of you. Now you have to let it go and forget it happened while I continue to do what I was doing, but be more discreet and by the way, there’s this party where she’s going to be there and I’m gonna go, but I will try to avoid her and you have to be ok with it.”
But he breaks her heart all the time with his obsession. That sort of breaking doesn’t count cause it doesn’t make a cracking sound?
It isn't “bad”, so consider that a positive, all things taken into account. Just let her come to things in her own time, and maybe that'll be where she lets you have that second date. Just don't push, or bombard her with notes/texts about it. She has a lot to work out with herself over it, and that takes time. Just know that, if this is what you truly want, it's always going to be a challenge with her, even if she lets you in. Make sure that you know what you're in for. Coming from someone who's loved “damaged” people in life, it takes a lot of work… If you're not willing to commit to that, then you can do more damage than good. My wife was a significantly damaged person, having been raped, and physically/psychologically abused by father and first husband, had an 8yo son die a couple of months after we were married. It's been 27 years together, and there's still times when it's quite a bit of effort working past that. But we've had a great life together, she's my best friend…I knew what I was getting into from the start, I'm patient with those I love, but still it's work and it can be tough at times.
He’s abusive. Safety is key.
Ok, but I would be so mad at you.
My son is 2 now but early on, the desperate need for sleep was unreal. If my husband had “gotten ready for bed” at 1am and woken our child each time, he definitely would have been sleeping in the guest room and I would have some deep resentment growing. The part I don’t get in your routine is getting ready for bed. You need to be doing that before she sleeps or outside the room. Thats significantly too much movement for a sleeping mother and baby. If you want to go to sleep at last as 1am you need to be slipping in like a freaking ninja. Otherwise your being outright inconsiderate. It’s SO SO SO very hot to wake up with a baby all night long and you are making it worse.
Sounds like he needs full custody anyway if mom can’t provide a roof over their head
If this was consensual. If she cheated, then why the breakup, the rape story, and all the drama?
Why not just keep seeing the other woman and maybe the BF?
Lmao fair.
Yeah that sounds like fighting words. I'm not sure what ops girlfriend expected to get out of that conversation. For a 35 year old she sounds pretty immature.
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Known less than a year… “married” a few months… no one knows about you… bffr
All pedantics aside, I don’t believe that’s what the person was implying.
Yes, this still affects her world and her life. What I think the underlying message is that OPs fiancé and 6 YO will have to get to know each other after already missing 6 years of bonding time. That is exclusive to the two of them only. OP will eventually have to learn how to bond with the 6 YO too, but not quite in the same way as a father and child need to learn to bond after missing out on the organic chemistry of bonding from the beginning.
In another way, the OP may not be asked to actively “parent” a step child as that boundary has a lot of blurred lines between the fiancé and ex mother of 6 YO may want certain boundaries when it comes to raising the 6 YO and whom gets to discipline.
Imagine getting a fucking life
Unfortunately you’ve discovered that going legit after adultery rarely works. The relationship originated in lies and has a shaky foundation. Too late you have discovered that the grass is greener where it is watered.
The engagement is a dead relationship walking. The growing conflicts are predictable as living in the relationship just reminds you of the decisions you made to destroy your marriage.
So yes, break up and focus on your own growth. Work with your counselor (are you getting one?) on whatever hole you were trying to fill. Learn to be ok on your own for a while. And then re-enter the dating world looking for an honest relationship.
No, I think you're right. I think she is the affair partner. At least OP hasn't denied it when people referenced that in other comments.
the way he says “I was well on my way to a divorce” for the timeframe he was having the affair instead of saying “I cheated” ?
I second all of this. GTFO, OP. Post-college is a bigger gear shift than most people realize, and she’s only going to get more controlling as the world opens up in front of you
Not sure what you are on about mate but im not a woman.
No coming back from that. Move one. Leave her behind.
“Her own trauma”??? Give me a break, TikTok. Not only is that not any kind of excuse for treating a disabled person, who has to rely on others for day-to-day basic survival, like an abomination; there's absolutely no evidence that OP's gf has experienced any meaningful trauma whatsoever. Stop making excuses for people whose behavior is deplorable.
No what?
You wanting something changes nothing.
Culturally no – but maturity and emotional availability and experience in dating are the same pretty much everywhere…
But – with respect to culture difference – since you’ve already spoken to her about it – does that stem from anywhere? Are her parents/family like that, where they don’t outwardly say ‘I miss you’? Does she SHOW you she misses you? (Extra kisses, wants more attention than usual)? Or is she fairly distant all around?
I’m similar in that I mostly do not say ‘I miss you’ to my SO but when he is here I want ALL of his attention ?
I don’t understand. You get to his house on Saturday after work & he leaves to go out with his friends at 10pm and comes in at 1am. Is that right?
If so, that’s bullshit. He can go out with his friends every other night of the week.
Why make the trip to his place to get ditched? He’s 30 years old. Way too old to be putting partying before his gf.
If he’s going out, you stay at your own place. End of.
Everyone here giving you advice knows that. He's taken so much of your power. Do you think it's going to be easy getting it back if you stay with him?
He's 42, and typically, people are set in their ways at that age or younger.
I'm not sure tbh but definitely not a relationship advice one
I personally would never tolerate such behavior. There’s plenty of women that are loyal, loving, respectful, and don’t have baggage with their ex. It would be better to be single than have this looming over your head. It is not worth an ultimatum with the information you’ve put here
I don't see why you are with her. She loves this other man. She has invested in him her time, emotions and money. She will not cut him off and basically said if he asks, she will be with him… just not in your bed. Tell her she can go to him. You release her. Then block, change your number, move.
I get the in school and full-time job and how those two things can have clear explanations of why it is important to dedicate time to those things to have more likelihood of “successful” in future role as husband and/or dad. Now the “playing in multiple bands” doesn’t rank as highly.
Dude are you kidding you were controlling af and you disrespected her
What you are saying is she may have past trauma she is still processing ?
He had a choice between his relationship with you and his passion for photography. He chose the photography.
How are you giving him false hope
But cheating and blowing up your life makes the divorce process easier? Or should people be allowed to eat their cake and have it to save some cash and paperwork?
Im not gonna read all of that because i know it’s full of bullshit. Buddy the live! world is not the real world. Go outside and learn something instead of living an on-line life.
I mean… his doctor telling him he’s sterile and now she’s pregnant ? the math isn’t mathing
That is because they are victims of manipulation and grooming.
He is the kind of guy who used to sleep around with women. After we started dating, he stopped but his actions make me feel he wants her and maybe she doesn't but ues insisting by being too nice just to get out of the friendzone.He is matching clothes with her, constantly going out with her, sharing all his problems with her and even took her to the picnic because he didn't want to get bored or left out since he's not very close friends with the other phd students. She is constantly there in his life which is frightening that some other woman has so much influence in his life.
Are you all 14?
This sub tells 99.99% of people they should break up.
The issue does not matter.
Of course you know the advice you'll get.
It sounds like your friend is acting out because they can't have you themselves; by interfering with dudes you like, she keeps you single in case you ever decide to go lesbian with her.
The mature thing to do would be to simply stop telling her about who you're interested in. The amusing thing would be to claim you're interested in total losers or weirdos and see how committed she is to this bit when the guy in question are obvious trash.
Them commenting every day is nowhere near as weird as you following them around and commenting this like 7 times under their different replies.
You're the creep here, bud.
This answer would've made those commercials a little more interesting
Huge red flags. Someone who doesn't apologize is someone who never believes they're in the wrong. It's narcissistic and can turn into an abusive scenario, fast.
She sounds like an emotionally exhausting headache given human form. Losing someone like that is an absolute win.
There is no unringing this bell.
Drunk means you're not going to react the same to some pretty fucking startling news like your partner suddenly out of the blue telling you she doesn't want kids.
I know this sub is absolutely obsessed with screaming breakup and abuse whenever a guy has a reaction, but I mean seriously you can't imagine being drunk and having your partner tell you after 5 years apparently she changed her minds about a fundamental part of your plan?
If it's his fault he reacted poorly, then it's also hers for bringing up a massive bombshell while drunk. Pretty messed up to either hide something like this from a partner or to suddenly pivot.
She is the one who should tell her family. If she's stressed it was her own doing and not your responsibility.
I got a UTI because I didn’t know I was supposed to go to the bathroom afterwards and got super sick.