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I was told that when I was 15. That was 16 yrs ago…
Knew a guy, in nz guy broke into his house, fingers his missus he woke up broke the dudes arm and went to jail for assault
Alright so usually, ADHD people (like myself) have zero object permanence. So unless an object (like trash, personal item) is of immediate use or need, literally won’t even notice it exists. Also if he’s inattentive (like me) he probably can’t remember to do literally anything unless he has some type of external reminder. We forget to remember things.
Now that sounds like “wow how could anyone exist or do anything”. This is where the magic of alarms and reminders works (on your phone).
What I might suggest is having him agree to what I call the “trash lap”. This would be a designated time of the day where he would go and pick up anything around the house. Just go do that or clean dishes or something around the house. Ideally nothing more than 20 minutes. Then set an alarm on phone for that designated time.
This worked wonders for me because it did give me a sense of accomplishment and contribution to the household, without feeling like a mental burden of having to remember to remember.
Now hygiene or other things, there’s gotta be some bare minimum commitments. And eating food is important but I only learned that in my thirties because I can literally feel myself becoming drained or unhappy. Even still I sometimes forget lunches.
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If it were me, I would first try take control of the situation. Divorce is always an option, but I would try other routes before the final one.
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I (F21) just recently had my bf (M23) who we’ll call Jim (fake name) move in with me as one of my previous roommates moved out.
I listen to nsfw audios, even sfw “boyfriend/girlfriend x listener asmr” and have for years. It’s not because I’m unhappy in my relationship it’s just honestly Jim can be kind of distant and dismissive. Especially when it comes to our sex life, I’m a very sexual person and I like exploring and he doesn’t want to. So I meet my needs with audios, I haven’t explicitly brought it up or anything but I definitely haven’t hidden it. I kind of just thought it was an understood thing like I know he watches porn.
Last night we were watching videos on my YouTube account and a video from one of my favorite accounts popped up because I have their notifications turned on. Jim started making jokes about the “kind of people who watch that stuff” and it made me kind of uncomfortable. When I didn’t join Jim asked me if I actually listened to the videos and I told him ofc I do otherwise I obviously wouldn’t be getting notifications for a new upload.
Basically he then got mad and told me that listening to these is “basically cheating” and I’m acting like a sl*t. When I brought up that he watches porn and I don’t care (esp considering he watches categories that I’ve expressed an interest in exploring together and he shuts me down) and Jim said it “doesn’t count because you’re (me) not like those women” and he stormed out and ended up staying at a friends last night and has been ignoring my calls and texts since.
His friend texted me telling me that he was ok but the friend also said I’m an AH because I “knew Jim’s stances on porn in a relationship” but apparently I didn’t?
TL;DR My boyfriend found out I listen to audio porn and told me I was cheating on him but he watches porn frequently
(Edit: clarification. So some people in my DMs are actually pretty rude about Jim not wanting to explore with me and told me this was relevant. Yes, we have sex on a regular basis and it’s vanilla, we’re both victims of SA in the past so ig we just reacted differently)
Note: I’m getting a lot of messages from people asking abt who I listen to, I’m a woman so I listen to men more often to not. If that’s up your alley try “redacted asmr” on YouTube. If you don’t like men then I am the wrong person to ask
Yea, no. Dump him. Red flag for not telling you from the jump about the kid and red billboard for this kids behavior because more often than not, this is something that was learned. Why stick around and find out where he learned it from.