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Date: November 3, 2022
You’re playing with the fire my dude.
Shes being abusive and manipulative towards you. She needs therapy or you need out.
You chose to see it that way and that's probably a fairly bigoted view. It would be the same way if I said poly people are non-committal and unable to be loyal. You rant about bigoted views against poly people but you have bigoted views against monogamous people
If I was a dating single parent I'd want to introduce my kid to someone I was dating if they wanted to meet them. That doesn't mean I'm unworthy of the title. I love my kid and I love letting him meet people. And if I dated someone that cared about my kid I'd definitely want to introduce them. Showing your child a -healthy- dating life is not bad. Introducing a kid to a partner is not Introducing them to a new parent. In fact when I was dating before becoming a parent I found that people who didn't talk about their kids were a red flag and I still think that (I still respect their decision but in my experience that usually meant they didn't take you seriously and were looking for something casual and never anything more)
When dating someone with kids it's important to respect boundaries on both sides. If the childless partner doesn't want to meet the kid-respect it. If the parent doesn't want to introduce the kid- respect it. But it does not make anyone a bad parent in -any- way -either- way.
Why would you even want to be with him after he treated your mother so abominably? I'd be throwing hands at anyone who disrespected my mom like that.
I hope my daughters are also “alpha females” just like you.
You should reconsider the relationship. Why would you want to continue with the abuse & being with someone who clearly doesn't appreciate, respect or value you. You deserve better.
Shallow men behave this way. If you believe it's a deep-rooted insecurity issue, it may be worth exploring. Otherwise, the way this reads, he's only into your body and nothing else. Only you can fully tell if there are other factors at play. He's some ways from my age (check my username), so there really is no excuse for his actions, other than sounding like an asshole. If you wish to continue, by all means. But pull the ripcord sooner rather than later.
The relationship is how he wants it. The current situation works for him, and he doesn't want to change.
The only thing you're doing wrong is still expecting him to change.
Have you considered that you ARE being aggressive? I have this habit when I am very angry to slow my speech, look at people with intensity, and have no emotional pitch. I didn't realize this until it was pointed out to be down the line. I was just trying to control myself from having an emotional outburst, but it made me seem like a complete psycho to other people. You need to consider HOW what you are doing comes across as well.
You can go and wear a swimsuit. Again, the image in your head is most probably worse than the reality. But by all means do talk to her.
“Brian” sounds like a fairly reasonable guy willing to impart his life experience onto you and having people like this in your life can be helpful. But he may be the classic “mentor” and/or “transitional” relationship you needed to recover after your divorce. It could be that you and he were never meant to be together forever but that he was what you needed in your life at a specific moment. You also have to consider that he has feelings too and his own past to contend with. He's setting up boundaries to keep his own life on track and in the service of his own emotional health he can't just wait around until you're ready for something serious. He's pushing 50, OP and just to put it bluntly, if he doesn't intend to die alone he's going to need to nail something down fast. You on the other hand have plenty of time to work through your issues and still find a life partner when you're ready. He doesn't have that luxury.
I’ve given him multiple chances, so I think it may be time to finally end things.
Yeah…I'm taking this down. So many people don't want to get married and I said this. My stance never changed.
The part that resonated more to me was when he said he doesn’t have to work to please you. Instead of being grateful for that he likes to walk on eggshells. I have an ex who cheated and when confronted by his brother he said exactly the same: he “loved” me but had to cheat because he missed being creative to “please” the mistress because she made him feel like and idiot the whole time. Never again
looks like mom is also in the wrong here. why isn't she dating another single dad?
Thank you for your kind response. They’re saying it at the same as he’s dating this girl which is why it confuses me. I just see more potential in him and I want a man to be the emotional, spiritual, and religious leader of our family. Maybe she’s fine w his lack of motivation… I honestly don’t know.
According to op, therapy is a a no so maybe now that she has removed herself from being “mom” she will like move to Costa Rica and eat pray love her shit out so she can feel complete without being wife and mom. Because seeing her ex and her son with someone else in what she feels is her place has just festered in her.
Guess what people without doting partners have to do?
Take responsibility and deal with it ourselves.
My husband has Aspergers. She sounds insufferable, snobby, demeaning, entitled, rude and completely disinterested in you.
I would've walked on the “we aren't friends” comment.
While you listed many positive Traits she has, you haven't said one good thing she brings to your life.
As a bisexual, polyamourous person who is perceived as female (non-binary actually) I absolutely agree with these statement.
Women who treat other women and their relationships with women as “less than” or “not as important” or in amy way less real than their relationship with men…. piss me off frankly. There is absolutely ZERO difference between her making love to a woman, or you doing so. They are exactly the same.
If she agreed to be monogamous when you married, and wants to renegotiate now- but you're not on board with less than fidelity, then she had some choices to make.
You gotta wrap up the pork and be sure to tie it off!
That's not a little “oopsie” and to go unnoticed for 2 yrs, I d be upset af too,especially if this is a serious relation with plans of a future. Not saying it was handled properly, but I too sometimes use laughter and jokes to suppress anger and anxiety in some situations.
Yea he did. And no it isn’t.
Oh dear lord. I have had a number of trainers. They will touch if they have to adjust my position. They ask first. Some have been very handsome. However, we're there for one thing. Having some kind of thing with your trainer.
Tell your bf to blow it out his ear. You are going to see a trainer…to train.
No – you don't break up with him but you tell him that if he is so uncomfortable, he can break up. Don't let him make decisions for you.
You have clearly articulated the reasons she wants to leave but you aren’t accepting them. That’s kind of telling to me. Your phrasing about the situation makes me think she’s being reasonable. That said, it doesn’t matter why she wants to leave. She does. The things you think are small incompatibilities are not small to her. That’s enough. You have to accept that.
Seeing each other hot in the gym or changing clothes to go swimming , no big deal.
Even having exploratory kisses and sex prior to your relationship, no big deal unless you're uncomfortable with her staying as friends with someone she had sex with.
But if they are seeing each other hard and exploring each other's body and kissing during your marriage time, that's called cheating .
On paper your relationship sounds pretty good to me. You recognized that your partner needs physical love and support so you introduced that into your everyday life. I think it’s now time to remember that you matter as well. It’s okay to carve out alone time even if it means stepping out of the house if you think you’ll feel pressure to love up.
The incompatibility she’s talking about might not only be the intimacy. She seems to be very comfortable expressing her needs to you but you don’t seem to be there yet. My advice is to make room for yourself in the relationship and to verbalize your needs more often.
Thank you so much for the advice. If I may ask, when you do meet people that matches your type, do you feel any type of way toward your husband ? For example, I wish it was that instead of this
This relationship sounds like a literal nightmare to me IDK how you stuck around for 14 years.
Someone that attention needy has to be so grating on your soul. How could you ever feel comfortable knowing that you always have to peek over your shoulder the second your attention wanes?
Imagine wanting to introvert yourself for a few weeks. You just aren't really feeling social or wanting to give attention? We've all been there at some point. This dude has to worry that if he isn't always on it then she is going to just go somewhere else to get it.
Like your a jester in a court and you're only of use when you are performing for her. The moment you stop she's sliding the next jester in.
Just thinking about a relationship like that makes me want to take a nap lol.
Yeah. My engagement ring was 2k. It's a very nice, classic ring.
I don't understand wanting to spend several months salary on a ring because of tradition. If we're talking tradition, how much dowery does she come with?
I think the bigger problem here is that your financial values might not be aligned. You need to sit down and talk about other future expenses and finances and make sure your views align before talking any further about ring shopping.
I’m leaning towards this possibility. If he’s having an affair with someone at work, of course he wouldn’t want to admit he’s married because shit will hit the fan even harder. The AP may know he has a gf and doesn’t care (seen that before) but might care if he said wife.
Yes – it's called dump the abusive chump and get a new boyfriend. He doesn't love or respect you. Quite frankly YOU deserve someone who actually loves & respects your feelings/boundries
Yeah but everyone was so hooked on the emotional dumping bit so I had to reword it and I didn’t get a proper answer
she had filmed some of it so it def happened
No one knows of someone is blackout drunk and you CAN consent. OP would get laughed out of the police station. You can’t have sex with someone incoherent or passed out, but you absolutely can have sex with someone out walking and talking but not creating memories. No one can tell your blackout drunk, no one can prove they were black out drunk later.
Stop telling people this obviously wrong shit. Take responsibility for yourself, y’all. No one forced this guy to drink so much he forgot he had an SO. this is pathetic. Maybe she did lie about the pregnancy and could get in trouble, but assault? You’re dumb or out of your mind. Stop telling people patently false information.
Hes totally just using you. Break up with him and kick his ass out.
You go on dates because you enjoy spending time together. If he doesn't want to do things with you, then he's probably just using you for sex and convenience. Relationships work for very long periods of time because you spend quality time together and not just because you enjoy one another.
He really is taking you for granted.
Make it clear that you don't like her. Tell stories of what she used to do. Invite to your place others who she did this to. Make it known and make it uncomfortable.
Embrace the awkward.
I’ll give just about anyone a reference. I’ll pretend to be a coworker or boss where I’ve never even worked to vouch for someone to get a job. Lots of my friends and acquaintances have the same sentiment. If someone wants to work, why not help them get a job? I’ve been a hiring manager at a few places as well and lots of people fake way worse than a professional reference to cover a weak spot. I reckon it isn’t ethical, but it isn’t malicious either.
Was it necessary to send that to him? Probably not.
Has he showed he's still immature and hasn't grown up… yes.
I say the letter was unnecessary. You haven't seen him in a while. It's not hot to excuse yourself from any possible conversation with him. He's probably embarrassed he did that and it didn't work out between the ex and him.
My response was for the time not the time of arrival. I think he was responding from the lack of attention.
She literally did and he still calls that a girlfriend…