I am also a highly sensitive person who finds it almost impossible not to constantly monitor other people's emotions.
I believe it's because I grew up with parents who were very hot/cold, and when I'd get home from school I'd never know what to expect; sometimes they'd be screaming in my face, throwing curse words at me for no reason and other times they'd be asking for a hug and suggesting family game night etc… Their flip floppy attitudes really messed with me as a kid. Kids who grow up in this emotionally uncertain environment tend to unintentionally train themselves to monitor the tone, micro-expressions and body language of people around them.
My boyfriend recently brought up to me that he doesn't like it when I assume how he's feeling, a very similar situation to yours. I told him that I couldn't help it and that it was ingrained in my brain almost like a survival instinct.
We came to a compromise later and I promised him that even if I felt like he was in a bad mood, I would not point it out to him. Instead now I stop before saying anything and just ask him how he's feeling and let him answer. He feels much more comfortable now when I let him tell me how he's feeling instead of going with my instinct and assuming. He said as long as I ask how he's feeling, he will always be genuine and honest about it. Maybe you guys can work out something similar.
I love seeing how weird these reactions are to hair of a beloved, lifelong , loved animal. They’d love to know what I collect of animals that weren’t even mine 😉 lol
Do not propose after barely a year of relationship. Most of the divorces comes from premature marriages. Do not marry before living together at least a year under the same roof (I do not mean visiting each other, but constant state of living together). Living together constantly can reveal many things about your relationship. It is a trial for the relationship that should always be taken.
If those requirements mean you will have to wait many years for marriage, then yes it may be the case. If you are in love and healthy relationship, this should not be a problem.
You are putting yourself in a 100% vulnerable position to be abused financially, emotionally, physically. You have no support system in the US and you freely admit that this guy has a raging anger problem. You won't be able to work, you will essentially be at his mercy. This does not sound like a safe decision to make. If you were to move to the US on your own merit (i.e. you don't need him to sponsor you, you don't need his financial support, you know people), sure. Much different.
I am also a highly sensitive person who finds it almost impossible not to constantly monitor other people's emotions.
I believe it's because I grew up with parents who were very hot/cold, and when I'd get home from school I'd never know what to expect; sometimes they'd be screaming in my face, throwing curse words at me for no reason and other times they'd be asking for a hug and suggesting family game night etc… Their flip floppy attitudes really messed with me as a kid. Kids who grow up in this emotionally uncertain environment tend to unintentionally train themselves to monitor the tone, micro-expressions and body language of people around them.
My boyfriend recently brought up to me that he doesn't like it when I assume how he's feeling, a very similar situation to yours. I told him that I couldn't help it and that it was ingrained in my brain almost like a survival instinct.
We came to a compromise later and I promised him that even if I felt like he was in a bad mood, I would not point it out to him. Instead now I stop before saying anything and just ask him how he's feeling and let him answer. He feels much more comfortable now when I let him tell me how he's feeling instead of going with my instinct and assuming. He said as long as I ask how he's feeling, he will always be genuine and honest about it. Maybe you guys can work out something similar.
I love seeing how weird these reactions are to hair of a beloved, lifelong , loved animal. They’d love to know what I collect of animals that weren’t even mine 😉 lol
Do not propose after barely a year of relationship. Most of the divorces comes from premature marriages. Do not marry before living together at least a year under the same roof (I do not mean visiting each other, but constant state of living together). Living together constantly can reveal many things about your relationship. It is a trial for the relationship that should always be taken.
If those requirements mean you will have to wait many years for marriage, then yes it may be the case. If you are in love and healthy relationship, this should not be a problem.
You are putting yourself in a 100% vulnerable position to be abused financially, emotionally, physically. You have no support system in the US and you freely admit that this guy has a raging anger problem. You won't be able to work, you will essentially be at his mercy. This does not sound like a safe decision to make. If you were to move to the US on your own merit (i.e. you don't need him to sponsor you, you don't need his financial support, you know people), sure. Much different.