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Crystal-m1 Public Chat Channel
Date: October 31, 2022
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Crystal-m1 Public Chat Channel
I mean did ya say “wanna shower together cause I could use one?” Or “let’s hop in the shower, I think we could both use one”. Like did she misunderstand that maybe you just wanted a shower, or did you fully suggest that she also shower and she opted not to?
Have you ever addressed her feelings? You say she protested at being the sole income and that she felt the struggle keenly. Did you address that during or after beyond saying it worked out? I'm not going to say who is wrong or right, but if you're looking for a way to work through this I think you're going to have to actually acknowledge and address that she was hurt. It's great that it did work out, but that doesn't wipe out disregarding your partner throughout the process, you know? If your goal is to work things out then you have to address that part.
Yeah 21 is kind of young if you're almost 30. But the weird thing is 26 or 27 isn't bad when you're 46 or 47. I don't think I would have had much to offer a 21 year old at 28 and I don't think I would have found much in common with her but it is weird that a few years down the road I've spent more time with women half my age and somehow it can kind of work a little bit in a weird way. I'm not trying to make them my wife but we have a good time and can sometimes have a pretty cool dynamic. Definitely not wife material though at 21. 50 and 30 Maybe
Don't set yourself ablaze trying to keep someone else warm
Sounds like some of this is him really caring about your poor kids and how he wants them to have a sober mom. He doesn’t want them to grow up without you as your addiction spirals out of control.
I think you should really try to snap out of this. It also sounds like you like to blame others for your problems: the addiction came from your coworker, the reason you won’t stop taking pills is because you can’t be seen by a mental health professional, the reason you are fighting is because your husband is “taking something not him” etc etc. You need to do some inner reflection. Your poor kids and husband just want their mom/wife back and you’re thinking about your next dose, that’s what your life has become.
IMO:
Has he talked about his childhood? Does he have siblings and where does he fall in birth order? This would relate to possible abuse in the family or being a victim of a crime where he was helpless to stop the situation.
The way you describe him makes me think he is hyper vigilant. His focus is to protect himself or others and prevent his “group” from experiencing pain or loss.
This carries an element of risk as he may see you as a threat after: You don’t have to find out what the traumatic experience was, but you might ask him how likely something like that is to happen again.
Again, that was opinion.
Alternatively you might suggest to him that he concerns/troubles people when he talks like that . While it might seem appropriate to him as it is his hobby or a priority, other people see it a different way.
Good luck and feel free to ask questions.
You want your boyfriend to stay home and wait for you while you travel Europe in a van with another guy? Really?
Would it be okay if he had a female roommate who slept in the same bed while you were gone? Because that would be fair…
You go to a different doctor then. Keep going until you find someone who can help you.