UPDATE: I should have included that he was Arab in the post because i feel like maybe people would have different comments if i did. Anyway, yesterday after reading these comments, I tried to talk to him about some of these things. Here are questions and his answers:
is he serious about me: he though our relationship was moving forward and getting more serious -why he has not invited me to events: he has never got an invitation that allowed a plus-one and that he cant just bring me to events where people don’t know me, and there arent chances for him to take me to places where I can meet them will I get invited to his really close friend/cousins wedding (who I actually met 2x): he said he doesnt know can he be in a long term relationship with me if his mum didn’t like me: he said probably not, then changed to he didnt know did his mum liked me from that one time we met: he didnt know, but she didnt dislike me. why turn off the cameras: his mum knew i was coming and is very nosy so she would be watching the cameras the whole time why we cant hang out on weekdays: he just needs some alone time after a long day of work and the gym and his long commute both ways
why he doesnt pick me up from work: still “ridiculous” to ask apparently
We ended up in a massssive fight where he just shut down and now we havent talked since then. But now I feel like some of his justifications make sense….
You can do better. You deserve better. Get the abortion, get on birth control, get rid of this loser who probably did this 100% on purpose, against your wishes.
Talk to him and tell you can't imagine living about it. That you want to feel comfortable in a place where you live and ask if he can do something about it.
People's actions reflect their priorities. His minimal efforts show that he doesn't value his relationship with you very much. He's even told you he doesn't like the “responsibility” of someone loving him (da fuq?). So why is he dating someone who loves him? Does not compute. Except that he sounds like an emotional toddler who seems to enjoy invalidating his sex partner.
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UPDATE: I should have included that he was Arab in the post because i feel like maybe people would have different comments if i did. Anyway, yesterday after reading these comments, I tried to talk to him about some of these things. Here are questions and his answers:
is he serious about me: he though our relationship was moving forward and getting more serious -why he has not invited me to events: he has never got an invitation that allowed a plus-one and that he cant just bring me to events where people don’t know me, and there arent chances for him to take me to places where I can meet them will I get invited to his really close friend/cousins wedding (who I actually met 2x): he said he doesnt know can he be in a long term relationship with me if his mum didn’t like me: he said probably not, then changed to he didnt know did his mum liked me from that one time we met: he didnt know, but she didnt dislike me. why turn off the cameras: his mum knew i was coming and is very nosy so she would be watching the cameras the whole time why we cant hang out on weekdays: he just needs some alone time after a long day of work and the gym and his long commute both ways
why he doesnt pick me up from work: still “ridiculous” to ask apparently
We ended up in a massssive fight where he just shut down and now we havent talked since then. But now I feel like some of his justifications make sense….
I’m sorry but eavesdropping on someone’s therapy session is a major no no. Like super shitty.
You can do better. You deserve better. Get the abortion, get on birth control, get rid of this loser who probably did this 100% on purpose, against your wishes.
Talk to him and tell you can't imagine living about it. That you want to feel comfortable in a place where you live and ask if he can do something about it.
Yes but these have the meaning blood is thicker than water in the ordinary sense.
thanks i really appreciate it yes i did tell him that
People's actions reflect their priorities. His minimal efforts show that he doesn't value his relationship with you very much. He's even told you he doesn't like the “responsibility” of someone loving him (da fuq?). So why is he dating someone who loves him? Does not compute. Except that he sounds like an emotional toddler who seems to enjoy invalidating his sex partner.