Hopefully she’ll remember this painful experience and what he put her through so he can have that experience, and not go back. Because seems he would do it again given someone shows interest after they get back together.
140k is a pretty good salary. Most people will never make anywhere near ~400k.
Also, not that it’s your decision, but I would be concerned about value fit if my partner made 400k annually and chose to let 200k debt ride instead of paying down aggressively.
Should be able to clear that out in a few years with that kind of income, but at this rate that debt will follow y’all into marriage. Crazy
I thought this was going to be about an actual struggle about two parental figures who had been important in your life, but instead it's about how you're getting undue pressure from certain quarters to go against what you know is right.
OP, this is a problem about your spine. You already know the answer: you want your actual father to walk you down the aisle. Tell everyone advocating for biodaddy-come-lately that you don't have that kind of relationship and he should be grateful you give him the time of day, let alone allow him a relationship.
Put your foot down on this, and let it be that. Immediately shut down any pushback, “Did I fucking stutter, Grandma?”
Why bring the hair up at all if it wasn't suspicious to you .
Hopefully she’ll remember this painful experience and what he put her through so he can have that experience, and not go back. Because seems he would do it again given someone shows interest after they get back together.
People drink on the job too, drink every weekend, a few beers after work everyday…sooo she seems to be right in there for normal use lol
This is a great age to learn people don't change a lot. Move on or be Mama.
These are all very good points I hadn't considered. Thank you for the link too.
Sounds like power posturing to put you on the defensive. He doesn’t believe his accusation.
140k is a pretty good salary. Most people will never make anywhere near ~400k.
Also, not that it’s your decision, but I would be concerned about value fit if my partner made 400k annually and chose to let 200k debt ride instead of paying down aggressively.
Should be able to clear that out in a few years with that kind of income, but at this rate that debt will follow y’all into marriage. Crazy
I thought this was going to be about an actual struggle about two parental figures who had been important in your life, but instead it's about how you're getting undue pressure from certain quarters to go against what you know is right.
OP, this is a problem about your spine. You already know the answer: you want your actual father to walk you down the aisle. Tell everyone advocating for biodaddy-come-lately that you don't have that kind of relationship and he should be grateful you give him the time of day, let alone allow him a relationship.
Put your foot down on this, and let it be that. Immediately shut down any pushback, “Did I fucking stutter, Grandma?”