No that’s fair. I think this person is in the UK. Which means his partner probably/ definitely has some rights to support for the child from him. Including re housing.
So he def needs to talk to a lawyer. Also if she’s on the mortgage he can’t just kick her out here.
Yeah I’m confused at to what the basis for this is? Is OP’s partner a real smoke show or something? Not that its important but curious as to where it’s come from
It takes 30 seconds to pull chicken from the freezer. Great. Then serve it to him frozen and raw since he thinks that’s all there is to cooking dinner. Put a can of veggies (in the can) and some unpeeled, raw potatoes on the plate with it.
Honestly all you can do is move slow, be consistent, bear the weight.
Because unlike you and your ex her mother doesn't have love or intimacy convincing her it is a great idea to get back together. All she has is the stark reality of your past behaviour, the reality it isn't the first time, and the fact she likely had to be there and watch her daughter suffer in the past. It speaks to her being a good mother that she would be hesitant to endorse taking that sort of risk again.
Because honestly, right now I don't find your argument that compelling. You've taken some great steps, no doubt, but I think you should have spent longer alone and away from your ex to allow some of that change to consolidate and so you could approach any new dynamic from a better healthier place. You are now going to juggle therapy and reconciliation and I think that just makes it more likely one or both processes will be compromised.
I never said it wasn’t.
Cheating is cheating.
No that’s fair. I think this person is in the UK. Which means his partner probably/ definitely has some rights to support for the child from him. Including re housing.
So he def needs to talk to a lawyer. Also if she’s on the mortgage he can’t just kick her out here.
Yeah I’m confused at to what the basis for this is? Is OP’s partner a real smoke show or something? Not that its important but curious as to where it’s come from
It takes 30 seconds to pull chicken from the freezer. Great. Then serve it to him frozen and raw since he thinks that’s all there is to cooking dinner. Put a can of veggies (in the can) and some unpeeled, raw potatoes on the plate with it.
Honey, get rid. Don’t ever let someone treat you like that.
Honey, get rid. Don’t ever let someone treat you like that.
Honestly all you can do is move slow, be consistent, bear the weight.
Because unlike you and your ex her mother doesn't have love or intimacy convincing her it is a great idea to get back together. All she has is the stark reality of your past behaviour, the reality it isn't the first time, and the fact she likely had to be there and watch her daughter suffer in the past. It speaks to her being a good mother that she would be hesitant to endorse taking that sort of risk again.
Because honestly, right now I don't find your argument that compelling. You've taken some great steps, no doubt, but I think you should have spent longer alone and away from your ex to allow some of that change to consolidate and so you could approach any new dynamic from a better healthier place. You are now going to juggle therapy and reconciliation and I think that just makes it more likely one or both processes will be compromised.