Also that’s a nice way to side step responsibility for yourself and being called out for your actions. If you don’t want to be transphobic maybe listen to trans people and stop being transphobic. I personal, when I have flaws pointed out, consider if they have merit on their own because I want to be a better person.
Very sorry to hear this. The only bright light to this situation is it happened before you two tied the knot. I know this is painful for you but look at it as your saving grace.
Your mother has a lack of boundaries, so you need to be extra firm in setting them.
“Mom, we decided to put baby in daycare. It’s nice that you’re willing to help but I feel more comfortable having him with trained professionals in a daycare setting, especially after the NICU. One thing you could you do to help is bring us a cooked meal once a week.”
“Mom, I appreciate you buying stuff for baby, but I really want to own this process of learning what baby needs and coming up with my own parenting style and preferences. I know this is exciting for you but if you keep buying stuff I may end up donating it.”
U didn’t get the answer u liked the last time u posted this?
Victim blaming and transphobic. Fun combo.
Also that’s a nice way to side step responsibility for yourself and being called out for your actions. If you don’t want to be transphobic maybe listen to trans people and stop being transphobic. I personal, when I have flaws pointed out, consider if they have merit on their own because I want to be a better person.
But you do you.
Very sorry to hear this. The only bright light to this situation is it happened before you two tied the knot. I know this is painful for you but look at it as your saving grace.
Any chance you’re significantly underplaying his money management issues?
Your mother has a lack of boundaries, so you need to be extra firm in setting them.
“Mom, we decided to put baby in daycare. It’s nice that you’re willing to help but I feel more comfortable having him with trained professionals in a daycare setting, especially after the NICU. One thing you could you do to help is bring us a cooked meal once a week.”
“Mom, I appreciate you buying stuff for baby, but I really want to own this process of learning what baby needs and coming up with my own parenting style and preferences. I know this is exciting for you but if you keep buying stuff I may end up donating it.”