There are two completely different issues going on here, and I think you need to separate them before you make a decision.
The first one: your dad messed up, may have cheated on his wife (not sure there as you didn’t mention if he was married at the time of your sister’s conception), and chose to not have a relationship with the child and her mother. Your mom has every right to be upset with him, as she is a victim to his deceit as well, more so than you actually.
The second one: your own relationship with your parents. This situation may have opened your eyes to things, but chances are if it wasn’t this incident that did it, something else would have in the future. If you truly feel that going no contact with them will improve your life, mentally and spiritually, then you have to do what you must. If you’re just mad about the sister thing, take a step back before making a decision, as something like that may not be able to be reversed if you change your mind later.
He will always keep stealing from you. He may even put credit cards in your name if you live together. Or take out loans in your names. People like him who steals often betray their partner this way.
You will find you won’t just be $700 on debt, you’ll be in thousands of dollars in debt.
And do you really believe he was planning on paying you back before you notice? You really believe that lie? When he can’t even afford rent some months? Oh he’s somehow going to find $700 just lying around after paying for everything?
There is no set time limit. These children lost their mother. He is the best judge of when his children are ready to know about or meet his love interest. I don't think 5 months of dating is a long time. A year isn't a long time for someone who has lost their mother either.
Do they know that he is dating someone at least? How old are the children?
No she wasn’t
There are two completely different issues going on here, and I think you need to separate them before you make a decision.
The first one: your dad messed up, may have cheated on his wife (not sure there as you didn’t mention if he was married at the time of your sister’s conception), and chose to not have a relationship with the child and her mother. Your mom has every right to be upset with him, as she is a victim to his deceit as well, more so than you actually.
The second one: your own relationship with your parents. This situation may have opened your eyes to things, but chances are if it wasn’t this incident that did it, something else would have in the future. If you truly feel that going no contact with them will improve your life, mentally and spiritually, then you have to do what you must. If you’re just mad about the sister thing, take a step back before making a decision, as something like that may not be able to be reversed if you change your mind later.
…. why is she out of your league? Is this just an aesthetic thing?…
“shes pretty!”
thats it
thats literally it
He will always keep stealing from you. He may even put credit cards in your name if you live together. Or take out loans in your names. People like him who steals often betray their partner this way.
You will find you won’t just be $700 on debt, you’ll be in thousands of dollars in debt.
And do you really believe he was planning on paying you back before you notice? You really believe that lie? When he can’t even afford rent some months? Oh he’s somehow going to find $700 just lying around after paying for everything?
Which makes him a liar too.
You claim in not sorry? If I was genuinely sorry what would that look like to you?
Why do you think your brother would want an invite to your wedding? Is this the first time you want to reach out?
I’m just acknowledging I can’t undo what I have done but I’m not the same person I was in 2015
Unfortunately, actions have consequences. Cheating can cause long-lasting trauma/trust issues….even more so if it's your own sibling who betrays you.
There is no set time limit. These children lost their mother. He is the best judge of when his children are ready to know about or meet his love interest. I don't think 5 months of dating is a long time. A year isn't a long time for someone who has lost their mother either.
Do they know that he is dating someone at least? How old are the children?
I laughed at this comment.