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Cheaters are the worst human beings man, don't show her any respect. Just be in your way and move on to a better person
I told her that she should move school districts that will pay her the same and work/travel less. I told her that I would help her with interviews and a resume and that 80 hrs a week is not normal or sustainable. She has a 40 min commute and goes to bed everyday at midnight most days then ALSO a ministry leader at church. Then on top of that bakes cakes almost every week for friends…
I want to help her sooooooo bad
Yes, you are right they should stay away from him!
Fr same thought. ???
tried justifying it that he didn't see them as people, and only as a way to “get off.”
Okay but that's worse. You do get how that's worse, right?
Are you going to split bills? Do you plan on sharing the costs maintaining the property? Are you both going to have a say in decision making processes regarding the house? Are you expecting her to pay rent? Does she want the same area as you?
What I’m getting at is making sure you’re having conversations before moving in to a house that you own. And by trying out renting, like a 6 month lease, before making the decision you can ensure that it’s a good fit. If she plans to move in and can contribute now, the costs of trying to live together short term can outweigh the $ you save if things go south. It also allows you to have the flexibility to pursue your activities.
If it was too early to move in and now you want more personal space but still plan to move in together within 9 months, isn’t setting you up for success. This is my take by the limited info I have understood.
Reply back, no you won't, then block!!
However you feel be very gentle to her honest but gentle. Also don't be surprised if she reacts very poorly to out come. Prepare yourself for the worst in case her reaction to you saying no (even if it means not right now) might really fuck her up on the inside.
Good Luck regardless of what happens. I hope for a happy out come.
i dunno. need lots of more examples that you arent giving any. this could just be two different type of humors not meshing. regardless, its not going to work out so just let it end.
Can't I do therapy in a relationship?
I have not, but does seem like a route that could help. Thank you.
You are already going for divorce, so the next step is evidence of her infidelity.
Depending on where you are, you may be able to use it to get a better result for you in the divorce.
And even if you are somewhere that doesn’t assign fault etc, so your evidence is not useful in that case, you can and should ensure that all her family and all mutual friends know exactly why you are divorcing, so that they can decide if they want to continue to associate with a cheater. And what better way of doing that, then sending them all the screenshots proving that her infidelity goes back to before she asked for the divorce.
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The catch is that he doesn't want to lose me bc he knows I will never be able to forgive him.
So, he knows what he wants and he knows what you think about it and he still asks?
He says girls and guys see sex differently and uses that as an excuse to justify why it would be meaningless too him since to him sex means nothing apparently to guys while to girls it's more than nothing.
So, when he has sex with you it means nothing? That's a nice compliment from him. /s
Oh, and it is also bullshit. There are men and women for whom sex can mean nothing and there are men and women who need a connection for sex to happen.
I just don't want our relationship to go to a waste.
Find someone for whom you are enough. Your current boyfriend isn't the one.
He stayed a decade more with her, hopefully both grew up, but indeed he could leave. In any case, given how he currently only views her as a co-worker falling behind on her tasks, the relationship is pretty much over unless he does something about it to make her do something about it.
This is a very inappropriate reaction from him and is not how he should be treating his partner who he should love and cherish. This resentment you are feeling will not end, it will only grow. If you really want to try and save this relationship then you could suggest couples therapy. Other than that, ask yourself what the positives are in this relationship and decide if being treated like this is something you want to experience the rest of your life. Trust me, there are great men out there that would never dream of making you feel stupid or treating you like this.
I have this problem in my marriage and honestly…. I wouldn't try to salvage it. Someone who has no give, refuses to compromise, refuses to help thier partner… Isn't going to make you happy.
On the most simple level, this might be a good one to give a little. Try wearing a shirt, show you hear her concern. Whether the daughter feels weird or not, mom has an issue with her kid seeing your shirtless. Sometimes the best way to express love and respect is being willing to change small things you think are illogical or even have valid justification to continue.
Taking advantage how? Financially? You didnt say anything
Location sharing won't do shit, if this trafficker drugs her tossing her phone away will be the first thing he'll do.
I think you need to sit down and let your feelings out about everything. I’m serious. Tell her you need to talk to her and just tell her what you’ve been bottling up. Don’t come at her, but maybe tell her before you start that you have bottled up a lot of feelings and you realize it’s not fair to either of you to be doing that and tell her how you’ve been feeling. I know it’s not exactly the same but I had to do that with my best friend and honestly it helped bring us closer together because she validated my feelings which is what I needed. I think it’s going to be a good time for you to really see who she is. She could validate your feelings or blow you off. If she blows you off we’ll… probably time to move on.
A lotta prudes up in here. Do you, but for me, mine would be in the living or over my imaginary fire place.
Was proposing to try to spend more time together off the table? Seems like you guys had skipped some steps before jumping to seeing someone else and what seems like a “tit for tat”.
If you’re so busy to have time for him, it sorta sounds like he has a leg to stand on for feeling left out or alone often and if you would make time for him, then he wouldn’t have to try to seek companionship from someone else.
That said, I do not think that is where his request would end, to be honest and it is messed up that he feels he can try to see someone else, but you can’t.
I say this as someone who is in your bf’s position, minus the seeing someone else. My girl has an older teen, and she decided this year to jumped into 4 new activities while keeping up with our gym schedule as well. We used to see each other almost daily and since the new year, I may have spent a grand total of 5 hours with her. Right now, I’m trying to figure out a time to have a talk, I’ve been trying for a few weeks. I plan on asking for more time for us. I would never ask to see someone else, but I’m not into an open relationship, where you and your bf may be.
You don’t even realise you are the villain in this story
Billions of women in the world and you seriously gonna raise another man baby?
My goodness… good for her, I guess got herself a nice guy.
I’ll hope this is a troll post.
It's important to consider how someone you're considering dating (or are dating) is to there worst enemy. Because often with a breakup, you might become their new worst enemy.
Maybe you’re sexually incompatible? Or you’re just tired? Honestly feeling like you’re having detached sex because she doesn’t like what you do seems just like incompatibility. I suggest a sex therapist.
I don’t know what advice you’re looking for. I also don’t understand why you’d get back with someone who ghosted you for months and then accused you of cheating. Like clearly you realize you could be happy out there with a well adjusted man.
He hasn’t dealt with his past relationship trauma and is now acting up and is afraid of commitment and intimacy. Whoever asked you to be patient with his is a bad friend to you, because it’s not your job to fix him. There’s the whole field of therapy for that. And it’s his job to make sure he has dealt with it before getting involved with another person. When he neglects to do that and his partner tries to be patient with him, you end up with the situation that you’re exactly in right now.
Don’t spend any more of your time on this man, invest it in you and on having a new connection
So, did you play in mud? Eat worms? Use a stick as a gun? Probably not because you're a girl and he's a boy. How bad something is to YOU is fair enough, then you have your answer. Leave him because he's a monster. However if he determines that it's not that severe and can think of far worse like, let's say…..fighting over a boy? Would he be well within his rights to hold you accountable for that? Being that it was probably a long time ago too. You need to grow up, the world is a fucked up place.
Wym tryhard
Question in the title is how she should tell her dil. However most if not of the answers I've scrolled through has nothing on that. Health of the Dil is most important. She's 7 months. How should mil tell her for most amount of stability ?
Imagine being a toxic crybaby at 27, damn.
Gotcha. That’s super helpful, thank you so much. ?
He's 21 years older than you. Gross. Stop dating Daddy.
It’s safe to say I’m not willing to discuss *my private affairs with random Reddit users.
He is definitely blocked
I know ! Idk how to get a grip how do people do it and go through this? Who’ve been though it ! And masturbating I understand for a bit me me at least those two where going hand in hand just when I first found out about porn. If he was masturbating he was looking up porn if that makes sense.
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What I mean is that it is a situation when anyone would be irked. Imagine he asks me if I could clean the house on the day off and I say sure, and then I do my thing where I clean but get distracted and forget an obvious spot. He gets angry, I immediately apologise but he starts going off tangent about it being a bigger issue and using hurtful words and I get angry too and start saying how it isn’t that serious and that I did do my best (which, like, did I? I am an adult, why can’t I clean the house properly?)
If you don't want kids and she does, then there is no way the relationship will work out regardless of anything else. If she knows where you stand on kids, that might make the breakup conversation easier, or at least not be so unexpected.
updateme!
And fu-cking gross.
This guy, and anyone who tries to justify or excuse this behaviour as involuntary, aren't worth another moment of your time.
Further, everyone both of you know should be made aware that he violently threw you. Some of them won't believe you, but that's just their way of showing you they don't actually respect you or care about you, so it's a win overall because then you can cut them out if your life and free yourself to find people who aren't abusers or supporters of abusers.
There is no reasonable justification for what he did. Even if some asshole gets creative and ties to imply your poking of him could be classified as assault, his reaction was absolute overkill.
You soon to be ex is a terrible person, and anyone who takes his side is only slightly less terrible than him.
He is already looking for the next twenty years old.
Caregiving is ROUGH. You can find that strength.
This isn’t a her problem but a YOU problem. She’s moved on but hints she would like to keep you as a backup just in case.
Time to stop wishing she wanted you and make decisions in your own best interests. You need to end it. Go find the life your wife didn’t want to have with you. It’s not too late.
I never said it would be easy. It's not.
It's not abuse. It's incompatibility. Sexuality and libido isnt a constant and you cant get into a long term relationship thinking those will always align. I think splitting is perfect l'y ok It's not abuse because abuse is violence and violence has intent of hurting the other person. Meanwhile if her reason was body dysmorphia, self este em or mental health, it wasnt to spite him.
Anyhoo, moving on because I honestly do not like to debate ignorance.
I am worried about you. Why are you at 21 burdening yourself with an alcoholic?
Bisexual girl here. I'm gonna go ahead and say that the sex of the people he wants to sleep with is irrelevant. I've been intimate with one woman in my life and while I enjoyed it at the time, now that I am with my partner I'm set for the rest of my life and I don't feel that I am missing out on anything. My boyfriend is pansexual and has NEVER been intimate with a man, but I still know for a fact that he has no desire to be with anyone else. Bisexual people don't NEED to experiment with the opposite sex. His desire to be with other people has nothing to do with his sexuality. Sounds like he has realized that a poly/open relationship is a better fit for him. I think you might have to let him go, because it sounds like monogamy is right for you. You aren't “holding him back” and you aren't a bad partner for not wanting your queer boyfriend to have sex with others. He committed to being in a monogamous relationship with you and now he's backing out. I'm sorry because I know this situation hurts a lot, but I think it's time to move on. And if you meet another bisexual boyfriend one day, chances are he will be completely crazy for you and never think of being with anyone else.
Ps he still wants me
You need to get over yourself.
I think I should've worded it better, but he's been snappy over random things, so I don't know if distant was the correct label. But thank you.
exactly haha but what do I even say next time he does it
You give her an ultimatum, and no before someone comes screeching they are not always a bad thing. “You need to tell me absolutely everything that you have lied or stretched the truth about in our entire relationship. If you don't I will walk out that door and ever speak to me again outside of coordinating separating. If I find out later that you have withheld anything from me that will be the last second you have me as a partner and friend for the rest of your life. I will leave and leave you with as little as I legally can. Balls in your court”
happens every time
Sorry, when I ready 'body shape', my mind inserted before I continued. So, you remind her of her ex, so she's withdrawing from you. Yeah, time to move on. If your body time is traumatizing her, stop hurting her by being there.
I’m not saying any of this is OK, but it sounds like this dude is super jealous.
And she wasn't in the UK when she was doing the grooming. She was in the US and had subject to US laws
You're entirely justified to break up with her.
Go get an at home test and find out. Yeah it's scary but that's what you need to do. Yall are old enough to be having sex you're old enough to buy a pregnancy test. This many scares yall need to work on your protection if you aren't ready to be parents.
You know you can just type the word sex right? Is it possible that he has experienced some abuse earlier in his life? His reticence could be a symptom of that. Or he’s just shy. I’d say after 3 months you should slow your roll a bit and try to get your engines revving at the same speed. Just because this is how you feel and what you like doesn’t mean you get to impose that on him before he’s ready.
If this is real, please meet him in a neutral place publicly with other people around. It’s gonna be a massive shock when he realizes you two are on entirely separate pages.
This divide is still heavily in her favor. And that's not even taking into consideration that on top of the generous savings she now has (compared to his), she apparently regularly receives additional sums of money for spending/saving/investing from his parents.
I…Don't understand why OP is so happy with this arrangement.
Okay, i think i will. We are supposed to talk about it in a few days and so i just want a clear, concise decision by then. Thank you for all your advice you’ve been a great help