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Nikki Sapphire, 34 y.o.
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Date: October 25, 2022
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It's because he's going to try and help me change. If I said I didn't, he'd be upset and probably would not want to help me when I'm crying in the way that I know works for me. He just wouldn't be happy because I'm not listening to him. That is why I am asking Reddit if his method is actually healthier and that I need to change.
I’m so sorry you grew up like this. I hope you get to college, but the main thing right now is getting out. This affair doesn’t matter, your parents are garbage and they can ruin their own lives. you can talk to a therapist or a counselor about this stuff but you’re not going to help this situation by bringing anything to light.
In my opinion, no you’re not crazy. It wasn’t okay how your mother reacted to a situation that was completely out of your control. You had every right to be frustrated that she wasn’t answering her phone, and that you had to keep going around the block multiple times because of that. I’m sorry that this had happened to you, and for so many years.
Depends on what you and partner consider important. I have five degrees, but I can’t honestly expect a lot of guys to have that many. I’m pretty content if they have some kind of higher Ed certificate whether it be a degree from a 4 yr university or something from a trade school or community college.
“facts are what you use to feed your false narrative bs” That doesn't make sense. If you're using facts the how is the narrative false??? Sorry but that bothered me so I had to point it out. Lol
Not sure how being gay somehow makes this fine (in her mind) and I doubt they really can determine his sexual orientation beyond doubt. Has such a boundary been previously discussed ?
Never say „What’s wrong with you?“ when they call you out on something. Yes, she may have overreacted to the tongue-sticking, but suggesting that something is wrong with her just because she criticizes your behaviour shows that you are not willing to listen to her complaint and don’t respect her. That was what really triggered her, and you would have triggered any self-respecting woman if you showed her such disrespect.
honestly dude sounds like she’s messing with your mind. I strongly suggest you look at other parts of your relationship and see if she’s being unkind/abusive as well. My abusive ex husband used to tell me after I had our kid what I was never going to be as attractive as his ex gf because she was the epitome of sexy, but he still found me attractive and I had to be grateful because he’s choosing not to leave me. Seriously man please look after yourself, and always know: You. Are. Enough.
If she’s only been in unhealthy/toxic relationships then being in a healthy relationship for the first time can take some getting used to (and it can feel a little boring but that’s not a bad thing!). What she said was rude but what she’s feeling is normal. It’s normal to feel a little bit bored in a healthy relationship, in fact, it’s a good thing. Relationships are supposed to be safe and drama-free. I’d say you can just talk about it, tell her she hurt your feelings with what she said and work through this problem together. I’m sure she didn’t mean to cause any harm with what she said and, personally, I don’t think saying the relationship is ‘boring’ compared to previous relationships means that she is bored with you. I don’t think you should take what she said too personally because it’s not you that’s the problem at all, she’s just adjusting to a different relationship dynamic.
You can't do physical holds in any state in any hospital without an order unless it is an emergency! So you are doing physical holds without an order in a non-emergency??? And you are a direct care aide???
I've noticed that a not-insignificant number of my friends who married the people they started dating at 22/23 because it had been X number of years or they didn't want to start over at 28 or they had a life plan and it included marriage and kids by 30 come hell or high water are not married to those people any more. But hey they got that big white wedding and a house and a baby or two before the divorce, just for maximum financial and emotional damage.
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“With them also getting a trip and over night stay out of it for free.” Yeah the alternative is to pay a moving company and dude, I can tell you these people will also have the audacity to request an actual salary, can you believe it?
You only have one life. If you stay with him you will miss out on marriage, house and kids. 30 years from now after expending all your financial and emotional resources supporting him while ignoring your own dreams, wouldn’t you feel total resentment for him?
If he is suggesting that he wants to end things with you…. Take him up on that! Start looking for a new apartment. Sign a lease so that you have a solid commitment to leave- no backing out. And in March, start a new chapter in your life.
I left a long term relationship when I was close to the same age as you. Within a year of leaving I met the right person. We got married at age 34 and we had 3 kids in 6 years. I have no regrets about leaving that first relationship. She has her own life and her own problems…. I’m not responsible for both of us. I’m only responsible for me.
I don’t consider my old relationship as time wasted… I think if it as the path that I had to travel and lessons that I had to learn to get to where I am today. I’m thankful.
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I can’t believe what I was seeing also! I think it is personally completely valid to not want to marry someone after only 2 years of dating. That would be way too soon for most people in my age bracket which is only slightly younger than OP. Also with modern science her biological clock isn’t going to be a real issue for at least another 7 years, people are all over the place on this thread.
this type of snarky advice sounds good live but is utterly useless
Break up and go live your life with someone who fits all your wants and desires. Never settle for someone, when you are wanting something else.
You’re not broken. He’s being immature about a perfectly normal thing.
I am pretty sure most of his past partners have faked it to appease his ego. Don’t go down that road cause there’s nothing more annoying than having to put on a performance like that so someone feels better… it only hurts you. Trust me.
Tell him he either needs to stop putting that as the main point of the sex, or else it’s over. You can’t be with someone who only values you for amping up his ego.
Looks like instead of having a boyfriend, you adopted a child…
you are extremely naïve
Always the default position of people like you.
I love it when you absolute doorknobs accidentally admit that many many people have called you misogynist many many times. Golly, I wonder why?
A three time divorced woman giving advice on marriage, ironic. Your bf is going to have to make a choice or your relationship will end.
You ramble don’t worry. So basically all this person has done has got in your head. After what you have just written I get the gist of what this message said. What this person had done is called projecting. Its definitely your friend who sent you it. She is accusing you of being all the things that she is to deflect that she is a nasty piece of work.
You kept saying that Kelsey deserves better, doesn't deserve to be ignored/blocked but what about Lauren? You know, your girlfriend who you admit that Kelsey has been disrespectful towards because of how you treated Kelsey.
Kelsey might be your “best friend” but she's toxic to your relationship and I'm guessing ones after this.
If Kelsey and her feelings are your primary concern then stop stringing Lauren along and grovel to Kelsey for another chance.
Have you looked into xfering all your credits to the degree program you actually want?
you pay for the home, bills meals out etc
So she just lives in the house for free? He pays for food when they eat out? He pays for her groceries? Her utilities?
Nah, she's an adult and she can pay her fair share.
Do you believe that the issues you’ve been having are related to your ‘different places in life?’ It doesn’t sound like you’ve thought about what she actually told you.
I’m conservative
Start by not thinking of it as an issue. But yea you’ve got the gist
She is still trauma bonded to him. Is she seeing a therapist?
As for the threats you need to report him, get him charged, restraining order and visitation rights voided.
Document everything you can. At least audio record everything when he is around. Talk to a lawyer and see what you can do.
As difficult as it could be I would sit and have a serious discussion with your brother. It will be awkward and difficult along with embarrassing but it's a conversation that needs to be had. If this behaviour is just ignored he will end up believing what the eijit in your comments about it being acceptable.
His behaviour was beyond inappropriate and unacceptable, you have ever right to feel uncomfortable and upset, your feelings on this are completely valid.
Almost all my friends that got married in their twenties are now divorced.
I think its time this relationship came to an end. clearly she doesn't care about you. sorry your time was wasted man :/
Call it quits. She’s a cheat. For no good reason at all. You can’t trust her.
I’m torn. I would love to live with my best friend :’) but I want him to step up. A lease is a long time. I WANT A TIMELINE IN THE SKY.
Thank you for your advice tho 🙂
OP is not doing this for her own satisfaction. The situation is not satisfying in any way. She is trying to keep Melanie safe. She is taking a risk by trying to protect Melanie. Sometimes the innocent party who exposes bad behavior is blamed by other parties–certainly Bryson, possibly his parents, etc. Apparently her interest in doing the right thing outweighs the possible negative consequences for herself.
Love is not an MMA match. GTFO. If that's not convincing enough, of course he says he didn't do it to his other ex's. Can you really fact check that statement? It's like asking “Do you have any missing ex's?” You hope not.. but…
If he was just after sex I think he would have been trying it on a lot earlier than this
He could literally plan a picnic or make you dinner and light some candles… he's not even giving you the bare minimum. Baby girl..
Yeah, no that's it
Dump him.
Wait one more thing.. does he just think of you as a sex object?
For a party of 20 guys at a Batchelor party that's sounds pretty reasonable. A 120 entry or cover charge for an event is pretty normal. Plus it may be padded with possible tips or bottle service or private dances depending on the arrangement or package they got.
Im in his tags. Also under a highlight that says “best girlfriend ever”
Like others have posted here, I highly encourage you to share your relationship issues and what you are unsatisfied with in your current life / past decisions. This will be much healthier for you than talking about your escapist obsession.
Harry Styles may have some appeal because he can get away with living his life as a man differently than just about all other men. This is extremely rare and he's literally swimming in circles that both a) highly enable this; and b) are pretty much the top of the top social food chain. If you were to date him, what would you contribute to his life? Are you a billionaire heiress with connections into the top of society? A highly talented actress or singer? I'm going to doubt it (but would be keen to hear what you think you would bring to such a relationship). Furthermore, if he were to date downwards it could literally make it much more difficult for him to be and express “who he is” (which should be a red flag enough for the obsessions some women have with him, but I digress)…
You need higher standards. ?
Right? I am a big believer in what other people think of me not being my business until they make it my business, even inadvertently. And it's more like these privacy zealots are demanding she pretend she didn't hear it after the fact, which is wild.
I have taken that thought into account as well. She has NEVER had a filter, it's just gotten a lot worse in the past 10 or so years. I just don't know how to break it to her that she isn't invited, whether she finds out before it happens or after.
You say you're mature enough emotionally but your comments prove the opposite.
Nothing wrong with that, it's all a learning process. Millions have gone before you having had to move on without a particular person in their lives, and they all succeeded. Almost always it was for the better.
You can too.
Well, it’s dicey behavior. The world of cheating has become much smaller because of the Internet things that we would’ve considered harmless flirtations that we would’ve never seen the person again. Now insult and cause harm to our relationships. It’s at least dicey because it pulls on the airfare fog that high that you get is like a drug it’s so like when you drink a lot or when you take drugs.
Lying by omission is still lying, OP. So yes, she did lie.
So much drama and self-importance and selfishness in this story. Your GF behaves like a child. International Woman's Day isn't a holiday that people expect huge gifts for. It's 1. relatively new, and 2. chiefly a social media/marketing push drummed up by some asshole like me (a marketing exec). But I don't know what you expect dating someone at a different life stage than you. My advice, get a GF your own age that doesn't act like a drama queen over nothing.
You don’t love her. You’re cheating on her with everything that moves, you’re emotionally and verbally abusive, you’re manipulating her emotions and you’re an alcoholic. You don’t need a relationship you need rehab and Jesus (and I’m not even religious)