IMO it's manipulative that she is leveraging her 'change' on the outcome you propose to her first.
Think about it, she's not changing now. The goalpost (i.e. proposal) has been moved, a couple times now? Which isn't a bad thing imo given what's happening.
She knows she has to make progress for you to feel more comfortable about proposing. She's not done this. In fact she threw it all out the window and is refusing to budge.
The things she says to you, fuck you, I hate you, the manipulation that she claims you string her along, is in line with what emotional abuse looks like.
In her mind, you have to prove yourself to her by proposing, but she has zero interest in proving herself to you by doing any of the work.
Here's what will happen if you propose. You'll be sunk in further, she still won't change, throw in some spent money towards planning a wedding, another possible whoops pregnancy and you're going to be feeling stuck af which will make it much harder for you to leave.
If she has issues and trauma, that's really difficult and unfortunate however it's her job to work on her issues. It's not right or loving for her to dump on you or treat you like shit.
It's also alarming she seems to control your whereabouts and also doesn't respect your privacy with your phone.
You will continue to give and give, bend over and cave to her insecurities and she will do nothing for you.
You've only spent 4months with this guy I'd honestly just let it go. He seems really immature and looking if the grass is greener on the other side. Focus on yourself. You'll fine someone better who won't lose feeling for you in a few weeks.
The thing is that we all get hooked up by UP mentioning silicia gel, dog hair and sugar. But if OP intentionally hoards and takes more sugar than needed I take a wild guess that there are many other things OP hoards that aren't mentioned here
It's a roller coaster, and the risks can be heartbreaking. My brother lost his daughter, my niece, to cancer, before she was even in the double digits. My son managed to injure himself and would have bled out if not for VERY quick first aid on my part, he's managed to need emergency room treatment and/or urgent care more than once. So yeah. Wouldn't trade fatherhood for the world though.
I had very similar experience. When I started using Insta and especially the reels, it was mostly full of girls doing dances and such. I had to either manually choose to not show those or quickly skip through those (I think that finishing reel has an impact on the occurrence rate). Now after some time it's mostly memes.
she's getting clapped as we speak bro?
IMO it's manipulative that she is leveraging her 'change' on the outcome you propose to her first.
Think about it, she's not changing now. The goalpost (i.e. proposal) has been moved, a couple times now? Which isn't a bad thing imo given what's happening.
She knows she has to make progress for you to feel more comfortable about proposing. She's not done this. In fact she threw it all out the window and is refusing to budge.
The things she says to you, fuck you, I hate you, the manipulation that she claims you string her along, is in line with what emotional abuse looks like.
In her mind, you have to prove yourself to her by proposing, but she has zero interest in proving herself to you by doing any of the work.
Here's what will happen if you propose. You'll be sunk in further, she still won't change, throw in some spent money towards planning a wedding, another possible whoops pregnancy and you're going to be feeling stuck af which will make it much harder for you to leave.
If she has issues and trauma, that's really difficult and unfortunate however it's her job to work on her issues. It's not right or loving for her to dump on you or treat you like shit.
It's also alarming she seems to control your whereabouts and also doesn't respect your privacy with your phone.
You will continue to give and give, bend over and cave to her insecurities and she will do nothing for you.
You've only spent 4months with this guy I'd honestly just let it go. He seems really immature and looking if the grass is greener on the other side. Focus on yourself. You'll fine someone better who won't lose feeling for you in a few weeks.
The thing is that we all get hooked up by UP mentioning silicia gel, dog hair and sugar. But if OP intentionally hoards and takes more sugar than needed I take a wild guess that there are many other things OP hoards that aren't mentioned here
earplugs
It's a roller coaster, and the risks can be heartbreaking. My brother lost his daughter, my niece, to cancer, before she was even in the double digits. My son managed to injure himself and would have bled out if not for VERY quick first aid on my part, he's managed to need emergency room treatment and/or urgent care more than once. So yeah. Wouldn't trade fatherhood for the world though.
Are you just looking for a reason to be upset because I’ve changed my mind and accepted that I overreacted & you’re still upset
I had very similar experience. When I started using Insta and especially the reels, it was mostly full of girls doing dances and such. I had to either manually choose to not show those or quickly skip through those (I think that finishing reel has an impact on the occurrence rate). Now after some time it's mostly memes.
People here love the quote “alcohol is not an excuse to cheat”
The difference lies in whether you were just a bit drunk. Or if you were completely hammered to the point of not being properly conscious.
You hit him so he hit you back
We learn as kids someone hits you you hit them back.
Why the hell you hitting him first, you can get arrested for that. He was defending himself.
So he didn’t work out with you so you hit him
You sound insufferable and child like
You need to stop playing victim and grown up
Men shouldn’t hit woman
Woman shouldn’t hit men
But if you take a swing first he can take a swing back fair is fair
You wanna start throwing punches don’t be shocked when one comes back