Can he tolerate other people eating and drinking? Is this a general problem, ora problem specifically with you doing these ” unladylike” things? If it's a general problem, does he exile everyone from his presence when they eat or drink?
If it's just you he can't bear to see eating and drinking, I think that's unfixable. For one thing, since what you're doing is completely normal he should leave the room if he must.
If it's a general problem he needs to find a way to cope. As he hasn't so far, I'm dubious he wants to fix this, but surely he's going to be pretty isolated.
You leave your bf because you can't have him and college and an education at the same time. You and he are in very different times in your life. You need to make sure that you prepare for your future. His future is on him. Yes, trauma is horrible. It is on him to live his life in such a way that his trauma does not spill onto others.
I would think again about the psychosis due to alcohol. It mostly happens with long time alcoholics. He's further into the disease than you think. There is no such thing as mostly sober.
You don't leave him because of the current trauma, you leave because you want to avoid more trauma.
Because this is Reddit, I have to point out that the age difference is alarming. Why isn't he with someone his own age?
It depends on exactly what you were talking about, but come on – look at the actresses & models. What are the proportion of young vs old? And then plastic surgery, Botox, etc. – people do that to look younger. Ageism is a thing. I don’t see men doing double takes of 60yo women, do you?
Can he tolerate other people eating and drinking? Is this a general problem, ora problem specifically with you doing these ” unladylike” things? If it's a general problem, does he exile everyone from his presence when they eat or drink?
If it's just you he can't bear to see eating and drinking, I think that's unfixable. For one thing, since what you're doing is completely normal he should leave the room if he must.
If it's a general problem he needs to find a way to cope. As he hasn't so far, I'm dubious he wants to fix this, but surely he's going to be pretty isolated.
Stopped reading after the second chance was mentioned. Anything after that is on OP.
You leave your bf because you can't have him and college and an education at the same time. You and he are in very different times in your life. You need to make sure that you prepare for your future. His future is on him. Yes, trauma is horrible. It is on him to live his life in such a way that his trauma does not spill onto others.
I would think again about the psychosis due to alcohol. It mostly happens with long time alcoholics. He's further into the disease than you think. There is no such thing as mostly sober.
You don't leave him because of the current trauma, you leave because you want to avoid more trauma.
Because this is Reddit, I have to point out that the age difference is alarming. Why isn't he with someone his own age?
It depends on exactly what you were talking about, but come on – look at the actresses & models. What are the proportion of young vs old? And then plastic surgery, Botox, etc. – people do that to look younger. Ageism is a thing. I don’t see men doing double takes of 60yo women, do you?
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