Welcome to the bi-guy club lol. If you don't already use it r/bisexual is a nice inclusive sub, although it does tend to lean a bit toward the female side of the spectrum if that bothers you.
I went 18 months without alcohol. Everything in my life, health wise improved drastically, but my sex life got worse. I can’t explain it at all. I appreciate your outlook!
Lol she wants to leave his current boyfriend of years, because he smokes and isn't career focused, for someone who “works with Elon musk” who she hasn't even met in person.
There is nothing here to imply he is abusive. She is cheating. He violated her privacy, yes, but he was right.
She came here looking for validation. She has multiple times. She's in the wrong.
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The fact that you call her a female and not a person and then all your complaints? She’s not great but neither are you. Maybe work on your judging of others before you inflict yourself on more people.
If you are in the United States, buy, train yourself with, and carry a gun.
Pepper spray is an excellent non-lethal deterrent but please have something stronger as a back-up, because 'having a naked time seeing and breathing' does not translate to 'unable to do seriously injure or kill'.
Your partner isn’t making the requests of an emotionally mature person. I couldn’t fathom having his take beyond the age of 24 and that’s being generous. From your post alone, your partner has zero conflict resolution skills, has tantrums like a child, and puts all the blame for everything on you. Any relationship where you can’t calmly disagree on things automatically unhealthy.
People who exhibit relationship behaviors like your partner are usually teenagers just starting out. He has shown zero emotional work since then and you’re doing all the work to build something healthy.
All of these posts are so useless, only seeing one person's side of the story and all the comments biased towards it. Why this is even a subreddit at this point is beyond me. Sure everyone, believe every word of a post on the internet and get worked up about it, the most cringe of shit
I really do think he’s just taking out his anger on you. Maybe he has a different communication style from you. Maybe you’re not the smoothest communicator on the entire planet. Guess what? It doesn’t matter. Why? Because you literally are sitting there giving him love and care to the best of your ability. That is the part that matters and we are lucky to have people like that in our life. If there’s some way he wants you to respond he can give you a clear guideline and express himself kindly. But acting like there’s something wrong with you just because you don’t communicate the same way as he does is mean and is only going to put a bug in the back of your ear saying everything you do is wrong. He’s the one who’s in the wrong here because he’s the one who’s being mean. You’re just trying to help.
Thank you for your advice. Indeed I feel as if I'm in a lose-lose situation, I should make it clear that while I want the best for her, I won't stop her if she's deadset about it.
Welcome to the bi-guy club lol. If you don't already use it r/bisexual is a nice inclusive sub, although it does tend to lean a bit toward the female side of the spectrum if that bothers you.
you’ve answered your own question. if it’s very important to you and she wants no part in it, then yes you should break up
I went 18 months without alcohol. Everything in my life, health wise improved drastically, but my sex life got worse. I can’t explain it at all. I appreciate your outlook!
Lol she wants to leave his current boyfriend of years, because he smokes and isn't career focused, for someone who “works with Elon musk” who she hasn't even met in person.
There is nothing here to imply he is abusive. She is cheating. He violated her privacy, yes, but he was right.
She came here looking for validation. She has multiple times. She's in the wrong.
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The fact that you call her a female and not a person and then all your complaints? She’s not great but neither are you. Maybe work on your judging of others before you inflict yourself on more people.
It sounds like a very nice thing to do. I don’t see how it could be considered narcissistic.
Keep pepper spray on you
If you are in the United States, buy, train yourself with, and carry a gun.
Pepper spray is an excellent non-lethal deterrent but please have something stronger as a back-up, because 'having a naked time seeing and breathing' does not translate to 'unable to do seriously injure or kill'.
She told you she’s getting depressed/suicidal. Leave her alone for now.
thank you so much!! I so appreciate it!
Your partner isn’t making the requests of an emotionally mature person. I couldn’t fathom having his take beyond the age of 24 and that’s being generous. From your post alone, your partner has zero conflict resolution skills, has tantrums like a child, and puts all the blame for everything on you. Any relationship where you can’t calmly disagree on things automatically unhealthy.
People who exhibit relationship behaviors like your partner are usually teenagers just starting out. He has shown zero emotional work since then and you’re doing all the work to build something healthy.
All of these posts are so useless, only seeing one person's side of the story and all the comments biased towards it. Why this is even a subreddit at this point is beyond me. Sure everyone, believe every word of a post on the internet and get worked up about it, the most cringe of shit
That would be a red flag for you.
Tell them what she says. How she lies.
She said to me when this came up that me choosing my friend was horrible and made me feel as that me choosing a friend was so wrong
Honestly, I wouldn’t put up with this. Someone who loves you doesn’t react that way
I really do think he’s just taking out his anger on you. Maybe he has a different communication style from you. Maybe you’re not the smoothest communicator on the entire planet. Guess what? It doesn’t matter. Why? Because you literally are sitting there giving him love and care to the best of your ability. That is the part that matters and we are lucky to have people like that in our life. If there’s some way he wants you to respond he can give you a clear guideline and express himself kindly. But acting like there’s something wrong with you just because you don’t communicate the same way as he does is mean and is only going to put a bug in the back of your ear saying everything you do is wrong. He’s the one who’s in the wrong here because he’s the one who’s being mean. You’re just trying to help.
Thank you for your advice. Indeed I feel as if I'm in a lose-lose situation, I should make it clear that while I want the best for her, I won't stop her if she's deadset about it.
You were raped and your fiance should be pissed at the guy not you
You and your friends sound absolutely exhausting.
Why do you care????