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Date: October 23, 2022
Growing up with two married parents who hate each other is much worse than growing up with divorced parents. Kids can tell. Don’t stay together for your daughter’s sake, get divorced for your daughters sake.
Well, I already mentioned it's possible if they're held back, but either way we don't even know if they met at high school.
I remember being in high school and the administration announced that we were forbidden from driving to the middle school on days we got out early. Yes, high schoolers were trying to pick up middle school girls.
Scotland Yard, are on the case
They're sending the best detective, Mr. Bean!
And at 35 he can’t control that? He’s old enough to handle his stress like a big boy, not take it out on you with an extreme overreaction. The fact that he dates younger girls is a red flag itself, and this is him hitting you with another red flag. Just block him as well, and leave him in the past. He’s a waste of your time.
Have you read the cliche stories where a dudes wife meets someone in an open relationship, and he ends up being pushed into it? There was actually one just yesterday lol.
I think this dude is wrong to try and control who his wife see, but he's not wrong for having boundaries.
Also just going to vent for a second lol. I dated a wife, and messed around with her husband. I was lied to about how things were between them, the relationship was crumbling, fucking stupid.
I wouldn't confront him at all, this guy sounds unstable af and his whole personality presented to you has been a lie. Do you really want to confront someone like that? If you do decide to, do it in a public place with people around. I would tell him to get help and move out until he does. You're not safe with him. As for her, she should report his behavior to the cops and get a restraining order ASAP.
It sounds like you might benefit from a much more nuanced and deeper conversation with him to see whether his feelings towards gay marriage are more reflective of a difference in values or in your upbringings.
It sounds like you can generally talk openly about cultural differences, but here he might want to put a stop to the discussion as a hot boundary: let’s agree to disagree and not talk about it further.
What lies at the bottom of this disagreement? Religious dogma? A specific traumatic experience or relationship? Something their own parents said to them? A rigid vision of what type of family he wants in future? Unexplored homophobia that goes beyond the gay marriage question? Unfamiliarity (never having met a gay couple)? The opposite (having met only toxic gay couples)? A desire to bully an out-group but recognizing there a limits to how far he can do so in a way that is socially acceptable?
He might not know or care himself about where his attitude comes from. As you suggest, his opinion is probably culturally normal for his country, as it was in the US 30 years ago. So you might be the one holding the socially unacceptable opinion from his perspective – one that would result in both of you being seen as degenerate if you were to be open about it in his home country or culture.
Cultural differences of what you have learned is safe/acceptable and unsafe/unacceptable to advocate for in your family and community can be bridged in a safe conversation where you both trust the other will not ever reveal each other’s doubts to outsiders. However, this means that you might paradoxically end up in the position of not being able to tell your own friends he is secretly not actually homophobic as he pretends to be for cultural reasons. Similarly he might feel he has to pretend you are secretly homophobic in order to ensure you are accepted by his family. So this whole conversation can be dangerous territory for his social identity.
The safest way to broach and explore this subject further may be to talk about this further in terms of hypothetical children. How they would be taught about sexuality of themselves and others. How they would be protected from homophobes in or out of your families if they were to be gay. Which relationships would or would not be sanctioned (Could they have a gay life partner fully accepted in the family even if they were never married? Would they be cut off if they did get married?). What homophobic behavior would or would not be sanctioned in your hypothetical children? Would it be treated as seriously a concern as racism or sexism?
But the deeper question is not what boundaries you decide on, but why you decide on them. Is the key issue what enables the child to get by successfully in a somewhat homophobic society, or is it what ensures the child fits in to predetermined expectations of sexual behavior? Will agreed boundaries be based on feelings of wanting the child to thrive regardless of their sexuality or of wanting to protect an idea of honor or perpetuate particular cycles of shame?
The ability to have such a nuanced conversation might in itself strengthen and deepen your relationship – or it might reveal fissures that you had previously missed but deserve more consideration before you both make lifelong promises you can’t keep.
Honestly, no. She doesn’t have to tell you. If it happened in the time you split up, the exploring is part of her working on herself. She came to the conclusion that what she had was a lot better than she thought. I would ask, but if she wouldn’t tell me that would be ok for me.
Holy shit your BFs mom sucks big time. It seems he's aware of it too.
Keep in mind that if you stay together, you'll be marrying into that family. If he keeps contact and she doesn't get her shit together, she's going to be a huge issue for you two.
I'm sorry she's been lying to you and finally took off her mask to show the real her.
Since you’re financially comfortable and clearly on different pages of “wanting” children… I highly recommend individual and couples therapy.
Your lifestyles do not match anymore. Breaking up seems ideal
Why don’t you sleep on the couch? You don’t deserve the bed.
Or maybe I don't have a proper distinction between personal and professional relationships since we do work together…..so I'm taking it personally like he kinda betrayed me hahaah……
She’s tired with the kids. You took her on a nice trip, but guess what, she was still tired. Because sleep comes before sex when you’ve gone through major surgery and have twins.
If your need to have sex trumps her need for sleep, then you’re a shitty partner. I can’t imagine communicating to my husband that I desperately need more sleep and him getting mad because he’s horny.
Be an equal partner. Don’t let her live a life of constant exhaustion by having to take care of others needs before her own.
You should sort out the dead bedroom issue first. It seems like everything else is stemming from that. I really don't blame him for feeling the way he does after those events.
I have celiac disease. The first time I saw Sabatasso's gluten free pizzas in the Costco freezer I squealed and bounced up and down. Wanna be friends?
Your husband is a buzzkill. It is fine if he is not the type of person who wants to gleefully celebrate everything positive in life, from large to small. It is not fine for him to demean you by calling you immature for being the kind of person who does celebrate everything positive in life. Honestly between that, the problem with how much you talk, and his really aggressive opinion about you wanting his opinion (which is not an opinion you asked for), I think your marriage has serious problems. It seems like he just plain doesn't like you. I suggest therapy. Both solo and together.
OK NAKED DISAGREE with all the people making excuses for your mom, based on what you've shared. I do not think it's likely she was sexually assaulted.
Frankly, your mom sounds performative and attention seeking (wearing his “favorite dress”, embarrassing you and your siblings with performative pda, having nonconsensual sex with your dad while he was drunk…)
I am a sexual assault survivor, and its nice so many people are realizing how common it can be. It's very true, in essence, what people are saying: victims can sublimate trauma in countless individual ways and their reactions are varied.
That said, it's pure conjecture. When people lie, they often refuse to acknowledge their lies. Scientists still don't understand compulsive lying. I don't know if your mom lies about more than just your parentage, but that's one very big lie. I've also met many women (and some men but this is less in line with conservative gender roles) who lie about mundane incidental shit and it's part of a “cute” persona they use to manipulate others. Especially a codependent dupe who will enable their self serving fantasy.
What is absolutely certain about this story is that your mother DID sexually assault (if not rape) your father. She literally laid a trap, got him drunk, and had sex with him while he was under the influence and unable to consent. He immediately regretted it and was very upset. It was disruptive to his self protection, his future plans, and his emotional state. As marital rape is increasingly recognized as immoral and illegal, let's not all make excuses for what she did on the basis of their history together, or the fact that he used to love her self- performance.
Tl;dr: whatever happened in your mother's past that she's stonewalling, she definitely raped your dad ave didn't care about you enough to tell the truth or get treatment.
Resentment is a relationship killer.
You said it yourself, you “can’t get over the fact that he could sleep with someone so quickly”. That in itself is reason enough not to restart things. You shouldn’t have to convince someone to be in a relationship with you. Either they’re sure about you or they’re not. Starting fresh is just semantics. It’s not having to take responsibility for how his actions made you feel. It doesn’t matter that you were apart. You see it as a reflection of his feelings for you and your relationship. And I’d agree with you.
If I were you, I wouldn’t go back. Listen to the way your body feels. Anxious, upset, confused. You need a partner that doesn’t make you doubt their feelings for you. You can’t find that if you’re wasting your time on the wrong person.