No, but the randos cum on your back is slick. I'm saying keep your mind in your own business, but you'd need a mind first. Blonds make the world go facepalm
But that is what he is doing. You have stated you don’t like it and you don’t want him to do it, and he has disregarded your boundary. Explain to him that you don’t like it outside the bedroom despite how you may feel when being intimate. That outside when being intimate it upsets you and DOES NOT turn you on, but makes you feel hurt. If he cant respect that then you need to make it clear you wont tolerate his actions.
Get a lawyer. He's trying to intimidate you. He won't get full custody of his son. He wouldn't want it anyway. Caring for a 6 year old would seriously cut into his time with his sidepiece.
The only red flags here are the ones you're showing.
Getting “scared” because of a pink object among a man's toiletries is silly. Maybe it came with the towels you mentioned, maybe he bought a multipack that came with assorted colors, maybe he just liked the shade….you can't know unless you stop waving the other red flag which is that you went off into your own imagination instead of just asking him “What's up with the pink scrubby?” or “Which scrubby can I use?”.
If you cannot communicate like an adult, you shouldn't be in an adult relationship.
I’m glad I’m not the only one who doesn’t think this is unreasonable. If it’s a scheduled time and assuming op knows ahead of time, they can plan an activity with friends at that same time? Or do something by themselves like go to a movie or go to dinner? I can’t imagine being upset by going out and giving my partner space at a particular time.
Relationship vs Situation-ship I never thought about it that way. It’s on and off with the Dr. He lives in a different state so we don’t really see each-other I haven’t seen him in 3 years . Im used to getting a call and text to check-up on me how I’m doing with life my Heath etc. but lately it’s been consistent. I told him I have a bf he asked when we’re getting married ? it’s been two years and I told him he’s not certain and not ready. Which is the truth
I'd like to start my 2¢ with: I'm sorry you're both going through this. No one here knows the full situation, so this whole thread will be undoubtedly skewed by just the ideas presented.
By my standards of cheating, it sounds like she's “putting in effort”, but just not for you. She crossed a sexual boundary and lied about it. She is developing a relationship with someone else while avoiding the time and effort needed to fix your relationship. It's cheating in all senses of the word except physical. Have you two ever previously discussed boundaries and outlined what is considered cheating? It's a bit late to discuss it, but I believe it's still unforgivable because what she's done has many of the same effects without the risk of STDs: broken trust, emotional detachment, avoiding issues, etc. As someone from a divorced family, I can say that happier parents were much better role models than when they were frustratedly and reluctantly sticking through it “for my sake”. Dwelling on this, though, will ruin a childhood whether that's fighting during marriage or outside of marriage.
If you have low standards, you may find yourself with people who are shitty. If you have high standards, you won't, or at least you will eject them from your life ASAP.
No, but the randos cum on your back is slick. I'm saying keep your mind in your own business, but you'd need a mind first. Blonds make the world go facepalm
But that is what he is doing. You have stated you don’t like it and you don’t want him to do it, and he has disregarded your boundary. Explain to him that you don’t like it outside the bedroom despite how you may feel when being intimate. That outside when being intimate it upsets you and DOES NOT turn you on, but makes you feel hurt. If he cant respect that then you need to make it clear you wont tolerate his actions.
Loved the last sentence haha
I’m sorry, but he’s definitely playing you for a fool. Don’t let him anymore.
Get a lawyer. He's trying to intimidate you. He won't get full custody of his son. He wouldn't want it anyway. Caring for a 6 year old would seriously cut into his time with his sidepiece.
The only red flags here are the ones you're showing.
Getting “scared” because of a pink object among a man's toiletries is silly. Maybe it came with the towels you mentioned, maybe he bought a multipack that came with assorted colors, maybe he just liked the shade….you can't know unless you stop waving the other red flag which is that you went off into your own imagination instead of just asking him “What's up with the pink scrubby?” or “Which scrubby can I use?”.
If you cannot communicate like an adult, you shouldn't be in an adult relationship.
I’m glad I’m not the only one who doesn’t think this is unreasonable. If it’s a scheduled time and assuming op knows ahead of time, they can plan an activity with friends at that same time? Or do something by themselves like go to a movie or go to dinner? I can’t imagine being upset by going out and giving my partner space at a particular time.
Relationship vs Situation-ship I never thought about it that way. It’s on and off with the Dr. He lives in a different state so we don’t really see each-other I haven’t seen him in 3 years . Im used to getting a call and text to check-up on me how I’m doing with life my Heath etc. but lately it’s been consistent. I told him I have a bf he asked when we’re getting married ? it’s been two years and I told him he’s not certain and not ready. Which is the truth
I'd like to start my 2¢ with: I'm sorry you're both going through this. No one here knows the full situation, so this whole thread will be undoubtedly skewed by just the ideas presented.
By my standards of cheating, it sounds like she's “putting in effort”, but just not for you. She crossed a sexual boundary and lied about it. She is developing a relationship with someone else while avoiding the time and effort needed to fix your relationship. It's cheating in all senses of the word except physical. Have you two ever previously discussed boundaries and outlined what is considered cheating? It's a bit late to discuss it, but I believe it's still unforgivable because what she's done has many of the same effects without the risk of STDs: broken trust, emotional detachment, avoiding issues, etc. As someone from a divorced family, I can say that happier parents were much better role models than when they were frustratedly and reluctantly sticking through it “for my sake”. Dwelling on this, though, will ruin a childhood whether that's fighting during marriage or outside of marriage.
You get what you put up with.
AKA
If you have low standards, you may find yourself with people who are shitty. If you have high standards, you won't, or at least you will eject them from your life ASAP.