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Tbh it was all up to you until it got to the poly bit. That's too fundamental of a difference.
Do you never want him to use pronouns? What's your goal with this?
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6 years with no sex and he wants to move his man in? That's wild. When do you plan on divorcing him? That's the only solution here. You're only 30, you'll find someone who actually wants you.
Sorry, maybe I misled you – but she never said she will be with him in a relationship. She just says if he asked her to meet, she is not ready to do that.
Ultimately, she just has issues with being controlled or told that she can or cannot do something, and it applies across all faucets of her life, not just relationships. She has said she does not want to be in that relationship anymore.
You are in an abusive relationship. It really doesn't matter why she scratches, pinches, bites, and hits you in sensitive areas. It is very strange behavior and you need to stop seeing her.
If you find yourself unable to break up with her please see a therapist. You deserve someone that loves you and the more time you waste on this one, the longer it will take you to find someone else.
And they both need tools to navigate how this affects their relationship
wtf does that even mean lmao
Now you know what she does when you aren’t around.
!remindme 3 days
How can I let go fully? I’m catching myself in constant rumination and regret for the past.
It’s helpful to hear that she couldn’t compromise with my boundaries. It feels like it’s less ‘my fault’ looking at it that way. I guess the guilt that I did something wrong is what I’m most caught up about.
Thanks for the quick reply.
Your TLDR says it all. You are incompatible as a long-term couple. What would make you happiest in life would make her miserable, and vice versa. This is a case where two people can love each other deeply, and still realize they need to break up in order to have authentic lives that align with their individual long-term goals.
Will it hurt? Absolutely. All breakups are sad, but sometimes they are necessary. The pain of a breakup will be intense but brief, and eventually you'll both move on and meet people who want the same things you do. OTOH regrets about giving up the life of your dreams can be just as intense and painful, and they never go away. Either you or she would have to live with the unwilling sacrifice you made in order to stay with each other, for the rest of your lives.
Also, because it looks like you are headed for a breakup anyway, I'd advise you to break up now, so she can make other plans and go to Australia at the end of the year with someone else. If you go on the trip anyway and have a good time on the vaca, it will only make it tougher to realize that you are still headed in very differerent directions in life – AND your long-term career goals will suffer. I'm sorry, OP.
This may be the way to go and I may be impatient and just want an answer now. The major issue I keep running into is feeling like she is indeed indifferent toward me…
Luckily I didn’t keep anything there. Think it’s for the best
Then bring it up in therapy! It feels like she is almost bullying you into not saying anything! You are unhappy with something so say it
Do S & A have an art studio?
She's trapped into his situation.
You're making a lot of excuses for this woman cheating on her bf, and not actually being transparent with you from the start.
Plus my children are small and still think their wife and me are in love … ? So they're not ready I think. Maybe I'm not ready too to live again with someone.
Why are you already thinking about moving in? Get your priorities straight. Your primary task is to prioritise your kids and create a stable environment for them.
This woman is a mess and you shouldn't engage with her until she has her life sorted out.
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Or put wheels on the furnature lol
Do not act on it. Let her process it without bringing that previous trauma into your relationship.
So many possibilities….you have to try to not engage in mind reading as best you can right now. It's difficult, yes.
But perhaps she was in a relationship with the guy and he repeatedly told her she was good enough to marry but that he just wasn't the marrying type. And then he gets married. Without her even realizing it, she'll be faced with multiple years of her terrible self-evaluation that she is less of a person.
Perhaps she'll cry more if she'll ever lose you.
You can't know for sure what happens with people. She could well have been in an abusive relationship that caused her PTSD, or even any degree of exhaustion in a relationship caused by repeated stressors no one can imagine.
Try your best to not engage in mind reading.
This is where I found that her ex had joined her in going to bed not one night but 2 nights back to back. I couldn’t believe what I had just read. However, it did not deliberately say that they had sex or anything but I think it may be safe to assume
Well you read her private journal, years of it. If she talks about sex elsewhere, then there's little reason to think she'd skip it in the entry you read. I mean, you read years, you should get the sense of how honest she is in her writing. If she discusses sex with you, there is no reason why she wouldn't write it in her journal in this instance.
Let me be blunt. She could have always put previous journals into storage is she wanted to hide them. So, she wasn't worried about them being out in the open to be read if someone pried.
That said, yes, you should leave her. You violated her privacy in a huge way, without concern. As soon as you did that, you broke her trust. You found out something that broke yours. You're even. Move on.
I think he might be, but he has stopped this and other things in the past, when he felt like it, so I'm not sure. Also, I think since he uses prescription meds every day, some of this is him trying to cancel out the side effects or find other things that work for him. I think the like between abusing a substance and using beneficial meds/substances is very thin in his case. We talked about this before (after I found out he was lying) and then he just quit. Do you think I should still talk to him about addiction again? Maybe it's the underlying cause of all of this, but I don't want him to feel judged or make a big deal out of this if it's not. And also I don't want to be the one who is “taking care of things” for him, because he is taking good care of the things he has to do and other than the lying doesn't cause any problems or trouble.
Dang, that is a TON of debt.
I wonder if there are better options for interest by refinancing. Now is not a great time to refinance, as rates have recently risen, but 11% is huge. It's too late to change now, but I'm left wondering why she got private student loans like this in the first place! The interest rates on federal student loans (unsubsidized) are 4.99-6.54% depending on factors we don't need to discuss. A decent interest rate could make a HUGE difference in what these loans will cost each year and over a lifetime, so you might look into your options to refinance with better rates, and see whether the impact looks more manageable with a refinance. I suspect you could substantially reduce the required annual payments and/or pay the debt down much quicker with similar payments, by refinancing, but there's no question this will be a substantial financial burden no matter what you do with it.
It sounds like you're really interested in having kids together. I would not recommend having kids together while this huge debt looms over you — and so, if kids are very important to you and/or your partner, sadly I'd suggest breaking up so you can have a chance for a more financially stable parenthood with someone else. Others have suggested a pre-nuptial agreement if you get married, which I agree with, but the pre-nup will not be sufficient if there are kids involved, at which point child support will be set based on your ability to pay, and her need, both of which will be high. And, kids are very expensive even as you stay together — that cost in addition to the cost of the debt will leave you with a comparatively austere life.
If you're not so set on having children, your incomes are probably high enough to manage this debt together. This sounds doable to me, but you'll still have to decide if it's worth it to you. You'll have much more freedom without this debt to take vacations, or buy a house, or many other things, and you'll be giving much of that up by staying together. In the short term, you can keep finances separate, not contribute yourself towards her debt but just expect she'll be less able to contribute to other things you'd want to do together. But that's not a sustainable long-term plan. If you stay together for the long-haul, one way or another you will share responsibility for this debt. If that's not okay with you, better to cut ties sooner rather than break up years down the line over things you already know now.
I found out from reading a pamphlet and the only way it said was if you partner/s keep/s getting it you may be a carrier
Definitely, if he loves her as much as he says consider not getting legally married, have a ceremony with your closest friends and family and wear rings. Then his credit wouldn’t be affected
A partner who truly loves you and cares about you would be happy to see you growing and flourishing.
It seems to me like he isn’t that partner, and he only liked you when you made him feel ok about being mediocre, because you were too. Now that you’re taking care of yourself, he wants to hold you back from being your best self because it shines a light on the fact that he isn’t his best self.
That isn’t love, you’ve outgrown him, and you deserve better.