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Date: October 30, 2022
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He really ought to agree to a a paternity test and stick to business only with these women.
And just to add this doesn't sound like a good environment for your kids. If you don't do it for yourself at least think about the kids.
It’s basically him breaking down about how bad he hurt me and how guilty he felt every time he remembered how he doubted that our baby is his.
He's focusing on his own pain and regrets
This morning he told me that he agreed to everything
Good. He needs to prove those regrets are genuine.
but he wanted me to promise to let him be present when our baby is born because he’s already lost so much time from the pregnancy, he can’t stand the thought of not being there for our baby’s first weeks.
He's still focusing on himself. He still isn't owning the consequences. He's still trying to avoid/minimise/mitigate those consequences when the reality is that they are unavoidable. He has to accept the cost of his betrayal. Failing to accept that and any pushing just says “Yeah sorry, but what I did isn't that bad compared to what I am losing.”
He's not accepting that emotional restitution is the minimum requirement. The house? That's not giving you money or power – it's giving his wife and child security, which is an emotional safety that exceeds and is unrelated to dollars (because you are able to provide for yourself anyway).
He is moving out this weekend.
Good. It's an indicator that he's getting closer to accepting the cost of his betrayal, but it sounds like he hasn't actually mentally and emotionally conceptualised the entire situation and his role fully.
He believed the word of an outsider who he had just rejected (sheer idiocy) over that if his wife (disloyalty).
He rejected his wife and child (made them worthless).
By continuing to focus on his own losses he is expending energy on it that should be put towards repairing the situation (self-interest).
Continuing to focus on his own losses shows he is positioning himself a victim and trying to minimise your pain by comparing it with his own. This then frames you as the 'unreasonable' enemy who is preventing reconciliation (self-interest; DARVO; sly denial the validity of your feelings).
He destroyed the structure and the foundation of your marriage, but is acting as though he can build a new home on that rubble. That rubble needs to be cleared away before any rebuilding can happen. The marriage he had is gone. It's dead. He killed it. He is fortunate that he is even being given a possible chance to work with you to build a new home with you
His pain is his own to bear. Evidence of his whole-hearted acceptance of his culpability means he shuts up about his own losses. There needs to be at minimum “I'm so sorry that I made you feel unsafe.” NOT “I'm so sorry that I made you feel unsafe BUT…..”. And the solutions need to come from him. If you want, you can tell what you need, but orchestrating the repair process should not be yet another load you have to carry. Genuine effort, regret and commitment is demonstrated through actions that come from his heart, and his clear willingness to carry the load without complaint.
You might find Brene Brown's “Anatomy of Trust' talk helpful, and it's something you can request he watches if you find that useful. It really helps clarify things when we are tangled up in the fear, pain, loss, regrets, and confusion that comes with betrayal of trust.
Best of luck to you x
shes a friend shes not my vibe lol
Sounds like she had no intention of paying you back. She will drag it out and I doubt you will ever get your money or if you do she will be a drama over it. Don't offer again.
Well, you’re not doing it really for the program at this point you’re doing it specifically around your your partner. It will give you context. And the context says what is my part in the situation what have I done and how do I make amends to my partner. Remember that an amends is I’m not going to do it anymore. It’s not an apology. It says I know I was a jerk. I know I did XYNZ and I know that I really hurt you and I will never do that again. I’ll make it my utmost to amend my behavior. That’s the only reason I wanted you to do that when you go to a 12 step program or not. I just got sober in the 12 steps about 30 years ago.
heartbreak. I've recently had a chat with her about sexual intimacy and it's brought me a lot closer to her. I'm starting to understand that i need to keep investing in improving the relationship to keep the passion alive.
It's virtually impossible to get any kind of involuntary commitment or conservatorship for an adult with an eating disorder unless they're at death's door. (By which I don't just mean “their vital signs are really bad,” I mean, “they will die within the next few days without an intervention.”) The family can look into it, but this isn't a realistic option for most people with eating disorders.
Bc if I was dating ‘A’ and I found out he was blatantly lying to me for weeks on end bc he was tired of me I would break up with him. Especially with all the ‘wish you were here’ crap. He needs to grow up if that’s the case. I’d be reaching out to ‘S’ to ask if I’ve offended them in any way etc. All the comments are making so many excuses for the boyfriend. He can just say he needs space.
No worries, just let her know you’ve been cheating on her emotionally and that she’ll have to restart her career from scratch with the toddler yall share so she knows exactly what she’s not missing out on. I mean, I don’t think she’ll be too sad ab it then.
He's gaslighting you so bad. Put an end to this misery. His toxic ass needs to see its way out of your life. Get a new job or at least let HR know what's happening if he's going to have authority over you at work. So many red flags here. What a creep. You deserve better. Fuck his sob stories he treats you like shit. Can't even act like a damn adult smh.
So picking on your cat doesn't make much sense. I'd understand if it was childhood cat vs childhood cat conflict. Getting rid of your cat should not be an option, period.
That's how it starts. Hes an alcoholic. He needs help you cant give him, it's that simple.
This was my thought as well. My guess is he offered her money to go away. Has that feel to it.