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Date: November 11, 2022
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He’s not your soulmate. If he was your soulmate, if you were destined to be together, wouldn’t he love you? Why would you want to be stuck with somebody that doesn’t love or care for you?
You’ll find somebody that loves you unconditionally. I know that’s very hot to see now, if you will. But you won’t find him until you move on from your ex. You can’t find somebody that loves you without being able to give everything you’ve got to them.
Then it’s basically going to be single women, partying it up. And she doesn’t see the problem?
Ask her how she would feel if you went with a group of your single friends, where their goal is likely to be the same, to find someone (or multiple someone’s) to have holiday fun with, no strings attached, never going to see them again as soon as they walk out the door, drunken sex.
Even trusting you to the fullest, she’s going to be uncomfortable with the environment.
I mean shes all for me yk? I mean she is just loving and caring she actually is reall in love with me for some reason but other than that not really she doesn’t have vision of the world, she doesnt even know how to cook
I agree, but I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to lose him, he genuinely makes me happier then anything and he’s given me a beautiful life, but I’m so scared it’s gonna keep happening.
Slammin' on his guitar
I don't care for how my wife wears her hair sometimes, but I'm sure she doesn't like my facial hair habits. Neither of us let it ruin our whole day. Tell your bf to grow a pair.
Dating is a test. Part of the test is to never ask for the benefit of the doubt, or blatantly and intentionally destroy your trust.
He thought about this and planned this.
People divorce or break up for loss of trust as frequently as infidelity.
His deceitful behavior (including lying to your face) destroyed your trust.
He's 31yo. He is not going to change. His behavior is selfish, entitled, deceitful, disrespectful, and shows zero empathy for you.
He failed the life partner test.
Most people would never do this to you. Get back out there and find the partner you deserve. Do not settle.
That is one of the jobs of a good therapist. The therapists will help you mourn in manageable chunks so that you can still cope with the other parts of life Sometimes parents or friends just don't know how to support people they live.
Yeah yeah, man unhappy his fault.Women unhappy his fault. His fault regardless, even if he feels miserable and dies somewhere.
Then you will go onto how he died and did nothing.
Seriously, kids this kids that, you are the reason men die sooner in marriages. If he dies, then please go on to support the kids. Otherwise he will. Better to quit and struggle, then work and die somewhere.
If this was a woman, the whole post would have been full of you walking on eggshells and full of advices. Fuck off.
Nobody wants misery from outside and then a shouting wife. In the same way or rule you classify him as petty, i classify his wife as shit.Bottom line – do not shout.
And shes a housewife, she should learn how to do it. Why does a working man has to care about laundry, when he has not time for himself or the family but for the money? Motherfuckers, you people cry when you have a machine at home to wash utensils, cloths, etc. They free up so much time. Her skills seem messy.
He posted the picture in the OP, he might be exhausting, but that pic is pretty damning for her story
She is still hooked on her ex who she could never have and making you miserable in the process. Let her go. You deserve better.
Leave. You’re a nice young body for him to take to bed. Nothing more.
Do t waste your life on him.
Fuck them both… stay no contact
She needs to control things in order to feel safe is EXACTLY it!
Too bad she can’t engage in supportive couples counseling.
Listen, I'm generally pretty open to accepting when I've messed up, but this isn't true. If I'd known she would be unhappy about it I wouldn't have done it, because why would I do that to someone I love?
I mean, what if he called you fishy or something like that? I am sure you would be bawling your eyes out, and desperate for him not to view you as fishy.
You insulted him, and beat him down to where he now thinks the problems in your relationship all step from him and his weight. You negged him and did such a fine job of being self-centered that you did make it all about yourself.
I would have a good long think about whether you are capable of being a healthy, loving partner, or just a bitchy shallow shrew.
Break up with your girlfriend now.
You are going to end up fucking this other girl no matter what you think because you are with her all the time. You’ve already given into temptation once, it won’t stop there.
Don’t tell your gf it’s because you cheated. Tell her you haven’t got the time to be in a relationship due to your military demands.
That way you stop yourself destroying her by cheating and she gets to move on.
Did you have this conversation sober and clear headed or was this a drunken argument? Has this boundary come up before. How did she know “this crossed a line”. Is she the free spirit dance in her underpants type or is this out of character?
Second of all, you must absolutely hold your friends to the same standards as your girlfriend. It doesn’t matter if she went up to them or y’all are an open couple. Your friends should have turned her almost hot bootay around and plunked her your lap. They knew she was drunk and had no problem putting their hands all over her. What if it wasn’t your girlfriend? What if it was some strange drunken girl and she didn’t have a person there looking out for her?? This seems a bit predatory.
I know there is no excuse. That’s why I said it in my post. You’re right, you can only imagine. I wish he had slapped me back to maybe snap me out of my rage. And I would’ve deserved that. And again. I did say I was going to work on handling my emotions better. Also if you read I said we did break up so yes it is a relationship that has already ended.
OP, you're both so young. I would guess you haven't been exposed to the idea of working on your relationship together – you both have a lot to learn. You're just starting adult life, together!
So, look up John Gottman's books, and go to the library and browse the section on relationships and such. Get your boyfriend to go over some of this stuff with you. Gottman is good. I also like Stosny & Love, 'How to improve your marriage without talking about it.' One of my favorites.
See if he'll engage this way. Or work with a chaplain or such. Hey – it's worth a try. If he doesn't get interested, you'll learn more about where he is in terms of being ready to be a good partner.
Update : I ended things with the girl I was dating, I feel less guilty now, I will look forward and not think about my past too much, thanks commenters
She never initiates sex not in the 6 years we have been together I always have to start it.
Perhaps you're not ready to date. If I were a guy and you told me you weren't over your ex, deleted then re-downloaded the same app 2 weeks later, already had a date lined up, and tried to get me as a replacement; that's all a little too much, respectfully.
I’ll be honest, you don’t actually seem too concerned with your MOH’s feelings. She said she went through something traumatic. So traumatic she couldn’t get on the phone with you. Could barely respond to you. For months. Then she’s finally able to see you, likely wants to apologize and tell you what traumatic thing happened, only for you to ignore her. I get that it was your wedding, but is your MOH not your friend? My best friend can go months without talking to me and I’d be there for her in a heartbeat if she went through what your MOH did. Just my perspective, you could’ve been more understanding and been supportive of the space your MOH needed.
This guy is cruel. And lazy. Being single is 1000 times better than putting up with him.
I would have thrown his phone in the toilet and walked. No way would I trust him after that.
So, without saying “love”, tell me what you get out of this marriage.
What tangible, emotional, specific benefit does being in this relationship provide? Love is not an answer here because it's vague and easy to hide behind. List specifically what you get out of this relationship. Specifically what makes your life better by being in this relationship.
This doesn't sound like a fulfilling relationship. Or a partnership.
You sound resentful and burnt out. Unhappy. I can't say I blame you. I wouldn't be happy either.
So, what do you get out of this marriage?
What does marriage mean to you? What do you want marriage to look like for you? In your current marriage, are you happy? If no, what would need to change in order for you to be happy? Can you realistically see your husband making those changes? If yes, what steps do you think need to be made to start seeing those changes? Therapy? If no, what do you plan on doing about that?
Where do you want to be in 5 years? What would your ideal life look like? What steps would you need to take to shape that future?
The best advice anyone can give you is not on how to make your husband view your family as his own. He isn't going to. You've been together for nearly 2 decades at this point. If he doesn't treat your family as his own by now, he isn't going to. Nothing you say or do is going to change that. The best advice you can get is to think reflectivity on your life as it is, and determine if you are happy. If you aren't, determine what changes need to be made so you can be happy. They may be little changes, they may be much bigger changes. But only you know what those changes need to be.
Talk to him. Tell him about you're feeling. Communication is key. If he gets scared away by your feelings then he isn't the right one for you. If he understands and puts effort into validating your feelings and helping you feel better about the situation then he is the right one for you.