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Sigh. Fair enough.
Therapy will help and the gym
Lol..you talking to her is only encouraging it. You really arent looking for answers here…
You know what the right answer is, no reason to come here…
Love you for doing this ? always put yourself AND your family above all. Treat them as ride or die. I wish your family the best and hope every struggle you face only increases the love and connection between y’all. Stay safe ?
There are ways to say it. “Thank you. This is so thoughtful, and I appreciate it, truly. Do you mind if I returned it and got a different one? It's just not my thing, and I'd hate for you to get me an album I will never listen to.”
There's no way you were ~4.5 ounces when you were born. That's about the weight of a D battery. Are you thinking 4.5 pounds? That's a lot more reasonable for a small baby.
Take a friend, preferably a lady friend. Take lots of fun pics, and if she ask show them off. That will set her straight. If it happens again drop her bro.
Thank you. He blames me. That had I not broken up with him and had I not rented the room out none of this would've happened. So he says I'm responsible to fix his life.
You did nothing wrong. You sound like an amazing mother. Just tell your son the truth thats one of the best things we could give our loved ones, i hope everything goes well and Respect to you for leaving your dirtbag husband after cheating on you.
You don't sound like you're leading her on. She seems comfortable with you as friends and some friends might cuddle. That being said if it escalates any further from thst, you should make sure to mention that you value her friendship and don't want to break that relationship by being false with her pretending you have romantic feelings when you don't.
This is a super sweet nice gesture
You're dating a catch
this is EXACTLY what i was going to point out, thank you
The last thing I want to do after working all day is discuss the freakin quantum theory.
This isn't stressful to people like Reed Richards, its relaxing.
but I wish he’d just lighten up and watch some trash tv with me sometimes
Maybe “just watching trash tv” is a drain on him? Had you considered that you're holding a person back with these thoughts?
Ask a psychologist in person, don't take this as solid fact, however that's very common for women in love, especially when they are thinking of that other man.
Run boy
Yesterday, make Forest Gump is your spirit animal, yesterday
Ehhhh, like Rodney Dangerfield joked, that’s no respect! I mean, I’m a big guy, and I’ve followed the “get big and strong man” my whole life so I don’t get being upset about her wanting you to lift. It’ll only make you stronger! Ha! She’s legit telling you she can’t get over her preference for a bigger stronger you. If you’ve expressed hurt and haven’t made moves that she’s expecting to see, then it sounds like she’s been acting out to make you jealous. It’s pretty immature behavior, but that may be the simple answer. Get swole, the girl chills out on the disrespect. Orrrr, go find a girl that doesn’t play these games and go get swole anyways!
Just keep an eye on her and bring her tea and water and some crackers. Or maybe some ginger ale. Maybe she will drink that. One day of vomiting won’t get her too dehydrated.
“He laid hands on his daughter without thinking twice, what happens if *you do something that he thinks is wrong?*”
Just because a parent spanks their child, does not mean they will abuse their partner.
That's such an unfairly harsh response. OP's “problems” are super vague and she barely gave any information. Maybe he's insecure and has performance issues, maybe she's asking him to perform a fetish that he's uncomfortable with, maybe he has trauma in his past and has anxiety about sex. We have no idea.
I've been on a relationship with my wife for 18.5 years. We have a six year age gap and I bet her shortly after my ex before that. Their problem, not yours. Tell them thanks but mind their business. You do find out who your friends really are though as time goes on. Good luck with your new gf. Sounds like a healthier relationship.
You are biased. No one can give you advice because you are recanting all of the things you believe to be true from your perspective.
Coming on Reddit isn't helping your marriage/family. You want to be told you're right and have a pity party. Be an adult and realize you can be wrong too.
Your wife should leave you, not the other way around.
Yes you got it spot on . I always thought it was going to turn into a relationship and went with the flow but I started to have a feeling something wasn’t right and asked about a relationship again he at first he said he wasn’t ready then I kept asking and he told me the truth . I always deep down knew the truth but it was nude to accept until he actually said it . Thanks for your comment im going to keep my self respect and try and heal ?
She is over the top for everything, jealousy mostly.
There’s a reason some much older men go for young women: so they can insist on subservience and control them and “make them into” whatever they want.
I don’t know why you’d marry someone you barely know who lives in another country—with his mother no less at late 30’s. Especially since he has no intention of changing that.
No one with any class has guests come visit and puts them to work cleaning. He should have had things nice for you. He doesn’t care—you’re now his maid.
His comments to you weren’t just unkind, they’re ??.
Is this how you want to be treated in the long term? Because he has shown you who he is. I’d believe him and make an exit plan. Then date someone your own age who lives near to you so you can actually get to know them.
Thank you for saying that, it makes me feel like I'm not going crazy. Since you're a husband and I'm sure you have plenty of experience – what do I do or say when my husband says I'm too critical and that all I do is criticize him?
He makes it seem like all I do is criticize him and I'm baffled because I don't understand where this is coming from.
Listen man I know the “manly” thing to do is to confront the guy but you have to be smarter in these situations what you did was extremely dangerous and by the time you would’ve put the bags down your head could’ve easily been bashed in with that same bat you threatened him with
besides the point what I did for years, with no prior knowledge, I could've been an angle and still get feet wiped on me
I don't think you're mature enough for a relationship. She told you everything without you even having to ask. She's literally not trying to hide anything, yet here you are questioning her.
I don't want to marry her now
Only way I'd ever use these location features would be for a preteen/young teen child. Other than that, my location is noneya.
Yeah for real
Pay attention to what your bf is doing here.
You know what they say about the company you keep
I'm always giving a little side eye when I see a couple physically manhandling each other like that. I mean, why? Are you guys teenagers?
The girl in the post masturbated to masculine lesbians for years, I wouldn't call that “not having a clue”.
Sure, maybe it was nude to properly face her own sexuality but that doesn't excuse the fact that she took 10 years of OPs life.
That's a villain thing to do.
These aren't the last 2 guys on Earth ya know?
It sounds like neither are what you are totally looking for. You don't have to choose option A or option B, sounds like you need an option C.
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Ouch. Yeah they seem to be everywhere here. I’m sorry. I know it’s way to simple to say please come to Canada because people can’t just move but if you ever get the chance please come to Canada. I wish you all the best.
He didn't even try to work on it or make it better, and that sucks. But it sounds like he made up his mind. You can only work on this sort of thing if you really want it. So sorry, OP. I hope you can heal from this and find someone who treats you better and how you deserve to be treated. Talk to you family and let them comfort you. I know you don't want pity but that's kind of what you need right now, a good support network. Best wishes.
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Why are you spending $1000 on a cheater?? Spend that on yourself! He should be the one trying to win you back!
I just don’t know I should keep trying to pursue a relationship with him eventually or just leave it. What do I do?
Run far far far far far from this train wreck.
You are barely an adult and he's 26 with 5 kids. RUN!!!!
I know, but someone that treats you like that does not deserve to be in your life. Trust me, you’ll feel better for it in the long run. You’ll meet someone else and she will be a distant memory. Speak to a divorce lawyer and get the ball rolling.
Your bf should have known better than to mix his meds and alcohol. He should have known better than go home with her. He should have known better than to have sex with her. Cheating is never an accident and he shouldn’t be given a pass for “stopping” the act. He had the ability to stop it before and didn’t. Your bf is a mess that doesn’t care about your controlling boundaries or know how to be a grown ass man who should know better.
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she went off, fucked who she had in mind for the “open relationship” got bored of it and now wants back
I agree with all of this 100%. OP did right by himself.
Does he also think you shouldn’t poop? I think he took the bit the girls don’t fart too seriously. I’m surprised you dealt with that for 10 years. It’s the little things
I wish you the best!
Betterhelp is pretty good and cheap for what it is. If you don’t get a good therapist who’s attentive and vibes with you, try another match.
In the meantime, read the beginning of “Why Does He Do That?” By Ted Bundy on the PDF available live!.
I really by any means possible just want to stay with him though and help him learn to handle this stuff better, he said he's loved me for years and if I felt the same way, its nude just to put it all aside and think I could've been wrong about him, I know there are lots of men like this out there but they don't always die like this, I want to help him seek out therapy and see him thrive, and if we really aren't compatible then I don't know, i'll be gone and let him be with someone better. But for the meantime, the thought of leaving him feels like being in the loneliest situation possible, with all of the cats we have together, and practically no furniture because it's all his, i'll be nothing but a woman laying on the floor on a pile of blankets and clothes, with no reason to go to work but to feed my pets.
Quit. Though at this point she should leave you and you should not be allowed near your children until you can prove your not a drug addict.
The question…is this how you want your life to be for the next 40 or 50 years? If not, then do something to change it.
Max 2 days and even then I feel icky because discharge and sweat. If no one’s ever told her, then I don’t blame her but she’s putting herself at risk for a yeast or bacterial infection, even a UTI. She should be changing her panties every day.
Does she know to pee right after sex? Does she have a female figure in her life that could talk to her about this stuff?
Why is it different in marriage IF it became a toxic marriage perhaps one them constantly experience abuse/domestic violence?
Hang on, is all of this a hypothetical?
He's not just telling you that marriage isn't for him, he's showing you with his actions, by continuing to cheat (or at the very least, attempt to cheat) on you. This guy likes you but doesn't want to marry you. He's made it super clear. You should find somebody who does want to marry you.
Even if you somehow convince him to marry you, he probably won't be faithful, given his abysmal track record. Is that the relationship you really want?
Why the absolute F@%$ is it an acceptable situation for him to think MURDER is the response to cheating?!
It doesn't matter if he says he won't kill you in any other circumstances, it doesn't matter if he 100% means it and the only way he'll commit mass homicide is if you cheat on him.
THAT IS A SICK INDIVIDUAL WHO IS ENTERTAINING A SCENARIO WHERE THEY ARE COMPLETELY OKAY AND FEEL JUSTIFIED IN KILLING YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.
Why for the every living heck, would you stay with someone who sees a scenario where they will commit mass murder?! And is threatening you with it? Ffs
LEAVE HIM. HE SAID HE WOULD KILL YOU OP, WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU
It sounds like your wife is having a very strong reaction, likely out of fear. I am sorry you are going through this and that you also don’t really feel the support and understanding coming from your partner. I think an honest conversation, as others have suggested, is the way to go. Tell her how her reaction and behavior is making you feel… maybe she is unaware of how’s she coming off. Good luck.
You don't know that….that just your personal take on he situation.
She knows better….ever been to a nude beach? To a lot of people it's not that big of deal
Ha Ha yes they do view her in that way. At least most of the guys.
Well let's be honest every dad wants their son to be the alpha, no matter what you think or say it's programmed in us genetically. I can see how your dad is upset/let down but the real issue is who makes such jokes when meeting SO parents lol. I think you need a new boyfriend and maybe this time around be on the top!
It's not internalized misogyny. That's my whole point. I enjoy being “used” and that doesn't me misogynistic. I enjoy it because it feels good. There's no factual correlation between these two things.
I’ve had partners both circumcised and not and I agree, uncircumcised is my preference. I like the look, the feel, everything.
People are allowed to change their minds. Happens every day, with relationships and everything else. And as you stated, it was a situationship. Maybe she did feel all the things for you but found something more compatible in this other person. But as you are harboring negative feelings towards both of them, it may be best for you to step away from them for a while.
Because family is involved, end it now.
Yeah, and at some point many doctors agreed that lobotomy was a useful treatment for many illnesses. There are zero lengthy, with a substantial database, proper measures of the health benefits of masturbation, not even linked to health, much less with psychological health.
I wonder how a psychologist would know, and I even wonder why a psychologist would give it's opinion on it. A psychologist should turn the table and ask you, how do you think masturbation affects your partnership, and not pass judgment of wether it's good or bad.
My tits changed a tonne (almost literally ?) between 18-25, so I can't imagine doing anything with them through surgery at that age. I'm 36 now and still probably would have them done one day, but for now, I still love them! Haha, I sound obnoxious, but I mean they're mine and stay where they're “meant to” but always dreamed of ridiculous knockers. That's my choice and I'll decide as I age further. If a fella paid for me without me directly asking because I wanted it and he had the funds? Bin.
He's trying to change you. He's an arse.
Omg get a life. She isn’t hurting you or anyone else, she is making a living.
Stop sticking your nose in other peoples business you goon.
Look up Negging. That's what he was doing.
Look up Negging. That's what he was doing.
Without knowing more? He does sound like an absolute shithead.
But, as someone else said, what's the advice? She's your friend so all you can really do is console, talk to and both tell each other that she's better without him.
“predatory” It *MAY* be predatory… or it could be two adults who want the same things. Again, without knowing more, it's nude to say.
You have got to move out. If you can’t yet then you need to get a grip on your finances so he can’t criticize you. Your dad is unreasonable but it’s his house and if you’re not currently saving money to move out then he may not be wrong. I’m old and didn’t know how to drive until this year. It’s not as nude as I thought. Just get a good instructor. Like all physical things it’s just about practice. Work out which is gonna be easiest to do: driving license or move out first.
Or…don’t let it sink in, because she apparently doesn’t like that.
I love how it’s always “joking” when people react poorly.
News flash bud: you weren’t joking.
How on earth did you think this was going to go? It’s her sister! Now you’ve ruined any chance with her because you can’t be trusted or comfortable at family functions. Don’t fetishize people in this manner. It’s gross.
We began dating while he was my high school teacher
Yeah I don't even need to read the rest. Your husband is a pedophile and a mysogynist.
Raise them the best you know how. Teach them that men and women should cooperate and not everything in life is s gendered competition. Keep your fingers crossed that you are raising them equally with solid morals and values, not judgements you read about or see in the media. When they start to make up their own minds be there for them because they will fall in love and live! by what they think. I know women who were raised in religious homes, taught never to be sexualized who became strippers and men who were taught that they can't ever hit women who became abusive. It's a crap shoot. Your choices in life are half chance, so are everybody else's.
Maybe a nice hike in a secluded area or a scenic drive? I'm a woman and I like those things.
Please try to follow the story. She's going to school and he supports her and he will go to school when she's done and then she will support him. He will get a better job with better education.
Then leave him. Find a different sugar daddy.
Pretty simple solution.
Or just admit that he basically bought you, and don't expect him to see you a strong, independent and powerful figure when your entire relationship was built on you reaping monetary benefit for just being a woman. Lol
28 and acting line a teenager, yikes! I’d take 10 steps back if I were you and really think about wether you truly want to marry that. Yes i mean “that” because that is the behavior you will be binding yourself too. I’d tell her to grow the fuck up if I were you and then leave. However I know 8 years id a long time and people run into that sunk cost fallacy. Over all sit her ass down and tell it to her straight, that deceptive shit isn’t appropriate, she’d acting like a child and that it’s not the way you want to start a marriage.
Good luck!
I was referring specifically to the, “out of respect for them, no” part not the “I have a bf/gf” vs “I’m seeing someone” part
But again that phrase (“out of respect for them”), says to me, says “What I have is new and exciting and great and I am digging this peron soooo much that I am not about to fuck that shit up for your ass or anyone else's. So get lost!”
How do you not see it that way?
honestly what you planned sounds awesome. i’m sorry your husband is doing this to you. do you normally just get balloons for your birthday?
I could maybe forgive the first one if he was just trying to convince a single friend to come out but the rest is just too much. 32?!!! This is not how a 32 year old man should talk
‘Mating in captivity’ and ‘come as you are’ (Emily Nagoski) are two books that might shed light on your situation.
This.
Yeah, but younger people not getting married also changes the equation. It’s a ratio marriages:divorces, either culture changes the number changes.
Also, a fun way to think about it, all monogamous relationships fail unless someone dies.
Overall your point to OP is legit. Mid 20s people pair up and there are normally opening again early thirties and early forties. The bummer for people that want kids is often the divorced people already have them.
I would have to sell off a few of my classic consoles, but I think I can scrape that up. Right now most of my cash goes to the mortgage every month. We hope to pay if off this year though.
You see your dog as a companion and a family member whereas he seemingly sees it as an object, and an annoying one at that. I’d definitely break up. At least you have someone to provide unconditional love and support if the break-up gets you down in the dumps.
On a second date? Most likely. It’s a pretty Baller move. Give her a few days from that first date, keep talking, and then mention that you get the tickets for free.
Why do you suppose he hid his current gf from his ex, and was found going on hiking dates with ex? Even the average people pleaser knows the problem with that.
I am just flabbergasted that she would choose to date a person of color as a yt girl, instead of sticking to her roots and she may do it in the future, back in the 50s or 60s you would NEVER see such a thing. As for her dating Hispanic men, well I never said she was pure yt, she has hispanic roots as well which I presume makes it ok.
Thanks again for offering your perspective. I’ll try to reframe things to be less personal, so it won’t affect me as much moving forward.
No father or brother WANTS to have to do this, but it's what you do for the people you love who need it. You didn't do it because you wanted to you did it because it needed to be done and you're the person who was there. She needs to get in touch with reality if she's seeing it any other way, especially one so disgusting. I'm so sorry. Let her have her space forever you don't need someone like that
Jesus call the police
EDIT: he proposed to me early 2022, not 2023.
The answer is objectively yes after the first two sentences. It doesn’t matter if you have red flags. It doesn’t justify everything else.
That’s not to say you shouldn’t take action to work on yourself, as you absolutely should. But you 100% need to leave now no matter what. Good luck and stay safe.
I'm sorry that people are showing you their true colors at such a difficult time. Your parents are being terrible and you deserve better.
You want this child, so keep the baby. Your ex-husband needs to get over himself. He left, he slept around first, he fucked around and now he's finding out. I call him your ex because he really should be. Look at how selfish he is! You deserve so much better.
As for your colleague/baby daddy, take things very slow there. There's no need to make a romantic decision right now.
He's not wrong. Having kids expensive. Roughly 20k a year. And a marriage can be expensive.
There is also a big coronation to more money spent on wedding more likely to divorce.
What they all think is not important. Your STBX (i hope) husband slept with your best friend within a week of “separation” remember? Your close friends and family are not in your corner tbh. You might as well cut them loose and go with somebody who really cares about you and the baby.
Tell your husband that “you were separated”.
You are the only one who decides. If you terminate to please husband,then what? He thinks things can just be how they used to be? No,it won’t. ONS- do you think you are a good match? Lastly,would you want to be a single mother?
You can't cover smoke smell. You can convince yourself you are 'good' at covering it but anyone who doesn't smoke will know that you smoke or have sat somewhere where someone has smoked.
I lived with my mum who smoked for most of my life. My stepdad swore he never smoked in the car, he did but had the window down in the car. The car smelt of smoke, he smelt of smoke and if his jacket overlapped my jacket on the coat hook, I smelt of it.
Your wife quite rightly doesn't want the baby to be exposed to any smoking concerns and with her heightened sensitivity that slight smoke will be very pungent to her, as it is to all people who live! smoke free.
This addiction thing has only been going on for a couple months, following the tragic death of my brother. It has not grown out of control (despite what the term “addiction” may connote). Hence the bereavement therapy. Her past lovers, much older than her, have also had addiction problems, and even she did for the first couple years after her own son was born. It is me not telling her about it, as well as how I acted from it, that is the problem here, not the addiction itself. She and I have everything in common. That is why she is my best friend. Despite the age gap we understand each other perfectly. Or typically do, at least.
I think that for startes you nedd to realise that you're not the one who would “tear up the family” or “poison the relationship with her brother”. She's the one choosing to do that, you're just choosing to end something that is toxic for you, if she weren't the way she is you could be friends, but she chooses to be that way, every sing day.
She has as much a responsability for her life as you do as yours, and you choose to be healthy, she doesn't.
You could go NC, or maybe put some boundries, try maybe giving consecuences for her actions, but at the end of the day you're only responsable for what you choose to do, not for what she is.
In the end if her family chooses to enable her, or if your boyfriend doens't want to do something about his sister that's on them, you have to choose what's best for you
Go, don't tell him, basically act as if you don't know him. If he tries to say hi wave politely, but make it clear your not interested in friendship.
I'd feel so unwanted by my bf if i wanted to hang out with him and every single time he'd pressure me to have sex. Like, do you not like anything else about your girlfriend? This gotta be a bait
you came here for advice. & you’re being rude to commenters just because they’re not saying what you want to hear
I'm suppose to set boundaries on a friendship that was established before I ever met her? Also, he's the father of her/our daughter. I also have an ex who is the parent of my boys. We have a blended family.
I used to be closer with my ex. I actually dated a woman before my current wife who absolutely hated the friendship I had with my ex, and was crazy about it. So, I definitely don't want to do that. I want to be secure. Also, I want to have a friendship of my own with her ex. We're talking about all going to the cabin together.
I mean, yeah it bugs me, and I want to be able to say, hey cut down on that. But I don't think that would go over well.
Thanks, this is what I was wondering really. I guess I'll give her a call tonight and see how it goes, perhaps offer to meet up later this week and discuss it in person.
I guess the idea would be to see if she either changed her mind or if I can try taking this as a casual fwb situation without getting hurt… I love spending time with her and she's been really good to me on all other aspects, she just scared tf out of me by talking about her “freedom” and saying that she doesn't think she believes in monogamy anymore…
Seem kinda fake to me, but maybe don’t date yet.
Of course you should have been the first to know, and you not being makes me think either she cheated and had an abortion, or at the very least, she didn't want to have the baby and didn't want you to have any input, so she aborted. She doesn't sound very trustworthy at all, you saying there are other trust issues means this isn't a surprise to you. I would have to reevaluate the whole relationship. There are serious red flags.
Giving her the benefit of the doubt, which I think is unlikely, but even if it was yours and she did have a miscarriage, you had every right to know and process your feeling on losing your child. And certainly should have known before the neighbor.
Sucks that she did that to you mate. Some people just suck, plain and simple.
Only one thing really matters though now though. Knowing what you know now, do you still actually even like this girl?
“Yeah. Hey, it’s not for me. Good luck.”
That’s it.
Sucks that she did that to you mate. Some people just suck, plain and simple.
Only one thing really matters though now though. Knowing what you know now, do you still actually even like this girl?
OP after reading the post and some of your comments personally I’d show him this post and everyone ripping into him in the comments. You’ve told him it’s an issue and he hasn’t done anything. Show him everyone freaking out on him and telling you to break up with him… and then break up with him.
You’ve been through so much.
No advice, just wishing the best for you.
OP after reading the post and some of your comments personally I’d show him this post and everyone ripping into him in the comments. You’ve told him it’s an issue and he hasn’t done anything. Show him everyone freaking out on him and telling you to break up with him… and then break up with him.
I’m not totally opposed to OP responding to the email: “Sorry, 2 busy acting like the little bitch I’ve always been.” block
She was giggling and was less self conscious. That’s what upset you? Her friends said she said weird stuff too? High people say weird stuff like
“I wonder if they’ll build a McDonald’s on the moon one day” or “Sometimes my cat looks at me like she can hear my thoughts and is judging me. What if cats could read our minds and we never knew?!”
Is it weird? Silly? Yeah. I guess. But it’s just silly fun. Weird doesn’t mean she said “I want to go fuck an entire football team”.
You really need to educate yourself about what marijuana really is. It’s not heroin or meth. They’re not the same. Not even close.
In either role… 25m/18f.or 25f/18m … Or 25/f18/f… 25m/18m…
That shit is predatory. In all cases it is someone targetting a barely adult and probably hoping they're naive AF and groomable. Any 18 year old swooning over the praise of being “really mature for their age” is just being a fucking chump.
Well, you can tell him that if he doesn't want intimacy you can go to being flatmates who share a son instead of a couple. He doesn't want you and you can't force him to. He might have someone else already. So why shouldn't you too?
I will try! Thank you ❤️
Gurl, if after 5ys of “always” saying you didn't want kids it still hasn't sunk in, it's never going to; hell, if after your direct conversation he still doesn't get it, he's basically a TV character who thinks he'll say “but kids are wonderful!”, and at the end of the episode, you'll come around after all, isn't that nice.
First of all, if you have a birth control method that can be messed with, you lock that shit down; maybe it's harsh, but he's the one who mentioned an “accident”, don't fuck around with that.
Second of all, your married to someone who doesn't respect you, doesn't believe you, doesn't trust you, he's the trifecta of untrustworthy husbands.
Thirdly, sit him down again and state plainly, Stop trying to convince me to have a child, it's not going to happen, it's not about changing my mind, there is no space for changing my mind. If you want a child, then we need to get divorced so you can go and have one with someone else, because I am not having children. I will not be a mother, I will not raise any children, and I am disappointed that in all the years we've been together, you failed to actually listen and absorb what I was saying.
It's like you've been talking about how much you like red shoes, and you state that for the rest of your life you only want red shoes, and he just goes, Nah, I don't like red shoes, you're gonna get black ones, and that's it.
You're talking about your wishes and he's dismissing them for his own. Keep that in mind.
Good, stick to your boundaries. Porn is one of those things that people just have a variety of perspectives about. It's becoming more and more normalized, but don't let anyone sway you about your boundary because it's perfectly valid. However, it's also valid for him to insist that porn is okay. You will need to decide if porn use is a deal breaker for you, sit down with him, and come up with an agreement so you both know what the boundaries are
I asked my current boyfriend if it was okay if I still remain friends with my ex and he said yes. We share a dachshund together and even if he said he wasn’t comfortable with us remaining friends (that’s a lot different than a person telling me we’re not allowed to be friends), there is no way I’d put up with him telling me he wasn’t allowed to see our dog. You need to stand up for yourself now, or this woman will walk all over you. If she doesn’t like it she can hit the road. If she doesn’t feel comfortable with you being friends with your ex, that’s fine. But she can’t force you to do anything you don’t want to do. That’s not a relationship, that’s a dictatorship.
Yup second this also seems to not be able to read normal social clues if he just assumed that he got the job and that having a massive tantrum is normal. It’s a bad combination of traits and I think this is the sort of person that under pressure can turn dangerous.
I know, I think I just hoped she’d be like me especially with the vibes she put out but I was mistaken
Ofcourse it's a deal breaker but there's a bigger issue here. You obviously didn't morph into a vet overnight, so why now?
He most certainly knows which way you'd go, duh. It's almost as if he's trying to weasel out of this relationship on the flimsiest argument ever.
lol yes
People need to just stop checking their SO phone tbh. It's just asking for trouble. Once you snoop and find things that are “questionable” your relationship is fucked. No matter what they say. Reasons that might seem weird and suspicious to you might actually be legit and honest, but now you're going to always question if it's a lie anyway.
Maybe that girl did cheat or maybe what she said is the truth. It doesn't matter anymore. If there's any doubt in the mix things are cooked. If someone is a cheater they ultimately slip up anyway by having behavior or routine changes or leaving behind physical evidence that's nude to defend or deny and get caught.
How old are all these people now? Was this from the past or how? I’m confused.
That excuse for checking his phone seems suspicious to say the least.
Well, there's a way but you won't like it.
This narrative has two very different parts. Part I is plainly about BF being an insufferable ass. Part II is just as plainly about BF's insufferable inferiority.
There's a connection between the two parts. You see, the essential qualities of Manhood are not pool, tech, humor, or debate. They are Decisiveness and Competence.
These are qualities you possess, and he doesn't. They give you the power position in the relationship. Not pool, tech, humor, debate, or even muscle. These are window-dressing.
Perhaps BF is willing to play Junior Partner, so long as you give him enough window-dressing that he doesn't feel exposed and emasculated.
I concede that he deserves no such considerations. Inferior people need to face their problems and improve themselves. But while some can be shamed into doing that, others need gentler tactics. Perhaps you can bargain with him: I'll work on this, you work on that.
Relationships are like kids; you can count in months in the beginning, but at a certain point the celebration becomes annual, or it’s just not feasible anymore.
She needs to have more flexibility with this. There will be times things come up (like this).
I would have a talk with her and say that in order for it to feel more special than obligatory, the anniversary celebration should become annual — that way there’s more prep time and it can be one big celebration instead of lots of small ones. Then I would suggest still having one night in the month that’s your special “date night” but make it more of a flexible thing.
Good luck!