Because if thatâs true, youâre just incompatible. People express and receive love differently! You guys donât appear to match up. It should not feel this hot.
I think this is because men donât have an automatic equivalent to âsex offenderâ when it comes to women. This is certainly not to say that men cannot be assaulted by women but thereâs no obvious comparison to âoh god he looks like a sex offenderâ here.
If she was like, he got a haircut and itâs ugly, oh well. She would need to suck it up and deal with it. That is an equivalent situation to that guyâs post.
I'm sorry you're going through this. Unfortunately this is happening to a lot of people and a LOT of family secrets are being outed. I'm a skeleton in my father's closet, and it surprised the shit out of me that he actually did a test and we matched! One of his nieces actually just showed up on my matches recently, so I'm wondering how that went.
I accidentally outed an aunt to a cousin (not her child) because I thought everyone knew that she had adopted out* a baby when she was younger. He showed up on our DNA tests as a first cousin. I was like “oh that's probably him.” and moved on. I figured if he reached out, I would respond, but I didn't want to stick my nose in it. It appears that it wasn't as common knowledge as I thought, but my mom couldn't keep a secret for her life, so not surprised.
Just remember you didn't do anything wrong, and it's okay to feel conflicted about it. I definitely recommend therapy to work through it, it helped me a lot.
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*not sure what the appropriate term to use here is, so if there's a better one, plz let me know.
âŠis this high school? Did you mean 17 and not 27 for ages? Please please tell me you did.
If not, well, good luck to her, sheâll never find a partner by shaming them for fucking before they even met. Can we justâŠget rid of the concept of âbody countâ and such? For everyone?
Iâd forgive him anything he showed true remorse for,
Why? Based on the description of your marriage it's been miserable and he treats you like crap.. What's to save? Face in the community or the church? Imagine waking up every day not sharing a home with a cheater who has lied to you for years and treated you worse than the affair partner.
Hire a Private investigator, get your ducks in a row, and when you have solid evidence proceed with divorce so you can live a dignified life.
Instead of asking him when he will propose, try talking about what marriage means to both of you so that you can both understand why one wants it but the other doesn't.
Thatâs just beyond disrespectful. He also clearly doesnât care about your boundaries or your feelings or you. Girl, stop associating with this trash, you are not a racoon.
He's got 1 foot in the cheating territory. If he hasn't already cheated, he's thinking about it. Nobody does that while they're in a relationship if they actually care about their partner
Divooorrrceeeee ?
Call him in it tell him youâre in for a threesome him and another guy. See what he says.
But he could just be trying to âget it out of the wayâ so to speak.
Because if thatâs true, youâre just incompatible. People express and receive love differently! You guys donât appear to match up. It should not feel this hot.
I think this is because men donât have an automatic equivalent to âsex offenderâ when it comes to women. This is certainly not to say that men cannot be assaulted by women but thereâs no obvious comparison to âoh god he looks like a sex offenderâ here.
If she was like, he got a haircut and itâs ugly, oh well. She would need to suck it up and deal with it. That is an equivalent situation to that guyâs post.
Why would you be with someone that disrespects you?
If he loved you he wouldn't keep hurting you. He's doing it because he doesn't give a shit about you
I'm sorry you're going through this. Unfortunately this is happening to a lot of people and a LOT of family secrets are being outed. I'm a skeleton in my father's closet, and it surprised the shit out of me that he actually did a test and we matched! One of his nieces actually just showed up on my matches recently, so I'm wondering how that went.
I accidentally outed an aunt to a cousin (not her child) because I thought everyone knew that she had adopted out* a baby when she was younger. He showed up on our DNA tests as a first cousin. I was like “oh that's probably him.” and moved on. I figured if he reached out, I would respond, but I didn't want to stick my nose in it. It appears that it wasn't as common knowledge as I thought, but my mom couldn't keep a secret for her life, so not surprised.
Just remember you didn't do anything wrong, and it's okay to feel conflicted about it. I definitely recommend therapy to work through it, it helped me a lot.
â
*not sure what the appropriate term to use here is, so if there's a better one, plz let me know.
âŠis this high school? Did you mean 17 and not 27 for ages? Please please tell me you did.
If not, well, good luck to her, sheâll never find a partner by shaming them for fucking before they even met. Can we justâŠget rid of the concept of âbody countâ and such? For everyone?
Yeah, he feels like that. Jesus here never had negative thoughts in his mind.
Then perhaps you will ascend to heaven if somebody read you reports of mother killing their babies and everyone excusing them bcz “dePreSSion”.
Iâd forgive him anything he showed true remorse for,
Why? Based on the description of your marriage it's been miserable and he treats you like crap.. What's to save? Face in the community or the church? Imagine waking up every day not sharing a home with a cheater who has lied to you for years and treated you worse than the affair partner.
Hire a Private investigator, get your ducks in a row, and when you have solid evidence proceed with divorce so you can live a dignified life.
As of now, he doesn't want to marry you.
The pressure is probably counterproductive.
Instead of asking him when he will propose, try talking about what marriage means to both of you so that you can both understand why one wants it but the other doesn't.
Of all the days for him to schedule his wedding, why on your graduation?
Iâd turn up at his work and ask for my husband . There are zero legitimate reasons for him to keep your marriage a secret.
This stinks of something dodgy.
Thatâs just beyond disrespectful. He also clearly doesnât care about your boundaries or your feelings or you. Girl, stop associating with this trash, you are not a racoon.
He's got 1 foot in the cheating territory. If he hasn't already cheated, he's thinking about it. Nobody does that while they're in a relationship if they actually care about their partner